Bobby NoBrains Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 My definiton is that any activity that is done in secrecy and is deceptive, is cheating..That is not the LEGAL def., I am sure, but it's MINE... Yep, so true. If it goes against your own ethics, you know you're cheating. Though different people will have different benchmarks for what goes into cheating from mere flirting, but at the end of the day, if you are hiding it from and deceiving your spouse/SO, it means you *know* that you're doing something inappropriate, i.e. you're cheating on your spouse/SO. Just my two bits .. Bobby
shadowofman Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 Yup. It's whatever your SO thinks it is. It's whatever you wouldn't do in front of them. It's whatever you would be afraid to tell them you did. Nothing more, nothing less. The golden rule doesn't apply here. You are the possession of another in a monogamous relationship. It doesn't matter if I'm fine with my wife have sex with other people, she is not fine with me doing the same. Even if your SO is over the top jealous, the above applies. That doesn't mean you shouldn't end that situation. As long as you consent to being in that situation, you have to follow the rules.
Meaplus3 Posted September 21, 2007 Posted September 21, 2007 There is a man I work with who throws me for a loop. We are both married and I am NOT attracted to him in the least, but he's enthralled with me for some odd reason. We were discussing what constitutes as cheating. He says as long as if you do not have intercourse it's not cheating. I say if you wouldn't do it in front of your spouse it IS cheating. I'm just curious here. What do you all constitute as cheating? L. IMO If it going on behind your spouse's back with a member of the opposite sex where a mutal attraction exist's it's cheating. Emotional infedelity is just as bad, if not worse then a physical Relationship. I pitty those who think that as long as there is no intercourse involved then they have not committed infedelity. There just fooling themseleves big time. AP:)
soulsurf Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 If you have to ask, then it's cheating. And really, who cares? It's just a word. If YOU don't feel guilty about what you did, then maybe it's not cheating to you. It's just a label people want to slap onto someone. The bigger issue is why you feel you need to talk about this, almost like you were trying to come up with some kind of plan of action to make sure what you are about to do ISN'T cheating!
4whatItsWorth Posted September 28, 2007 Posted September 28, 2007 I say if you wouldn't do it in front of your spouse it IS cheating. I agree to a certain degree. I'd say kissing is crossing the line, and thinking about it is half-way there...
FireandIce Posted October 1, 2007 Posted October 1, 2007 I say if you wouldn't do it in front of your spouse it IS cheating. I feel the same way. If it's no big deal then they will do it in front of you. If they have something to hide then there is something more going on.
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