lala2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 I have been talking to my mom for some insight in how I can get over a married man. The only reason I am still talking about him is because I feel like it is going a little far now....he commented on my body and how I should definitely not have any insecurities in that department, which I do think is a little inappropriate for a married man to say. So my mom tells me that if I mess with a married man I am really putting myself in danger. She said when children are involved and you are a young, beautiful girl stealing someone's man, you could end up murdered. So.....should I really fear my life? And is this man crossing the line now?
RealityCheck Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 I have been talking to my mom for some insight in how I can get over a married man. The only reason I am still talking about him is because I feel like it is going a little far now....he commented on my body and how I should definitely not have any insecurities in that department, which I do think is a little inappropriate for a married man to say. So my mom tells me that if I mess with a married man I am really putting myself in danger. She said when children are involved and you are a young, beautiful girl stealing someone's man, you could end up murdered. So.....should I really fear my life? And is this man crossing the line now? Anything is possible. Depends on the the type of people you choose to associate with! Mental stability is the big picture. You would know the type of person you are dealing with, ask yourself that question.
stillafool Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 I think we've all been over this and you already know the answers!
TogetherForever Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 I would say, don't mess with him & then you won't have to fear anything. TF
whichwayisup Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 If you knowingly involve yourself with a married person, then you must be aware of the consquences of your actions and take what fallout comes your way (to a point) if you are caught. Your mom is giving you the worst case senario, she is concerned and doesn't want to see you make a really bad and preventable mistake. So, why are you allowing yourself to fall for a MM? Because he pays attention to you and makes you feel good? Wouldn't it mean more coming from a single man who is available and WANTING a real relationship, not a woman on the side for fun? This man is married, has children, he'll NEVER leave his wife and kids, so why bother even having the affair!
TogetherForever Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 And another thought. Not only is there mm & bs to fear, there are single guys & women too that need to be feared. This world is not safe by a long shot. TF
SillyScissors Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 I fear scissorsThats why i perfer the silly ones
scaredinlove Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 It could be but like someelse here said a single man could be as dangerous too.
melodymatters Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 See, back to the basics : don't run with scissors and DON'T get involved with married me !
corky Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 Well I could only imagine that a large portion of the murder pie contains situations that involve jealousy and/or love triangles.
IWALH Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 If you knowingly involve yourself with a married person, then you must be aware of the consquences of your actions and take what fallout comes your way (to a point) if you are caught. Hey WWIU, it almost sounds like you are saying if a woman involves herself with a married man then she deserves what happens to her. And in this case, the OP was talking about being murdered, so I kind of took it as saying she would be deserving of being murdered. :/ I know you, though, so I know you probably didn't mean it that way. But others might have taken it that way. Anyway, to the OP, it's funny you should mention this today because I just watched (on tivo) a Dateline episode of an OW getting murdered by her MM when she told his wife. The MM went to jail and then the wife took him back later because "he changed." Makes me sick to my stomach. But it doesn't surprise me. My xmm's wife took him back the first time after he fathered my child because "he changed" and then took him back again (I am assuming) because I am sure "he's changed," or is in the process of "changing." Sorry, but men like this will truly NEVER change. Murderers and serial cheaters? Right. My xMM has actually killed someone, himself. He said it was in self-defense, though. Say what you want, this kind of person cannot change. They will on the outside, but their inner cores will always remain the same. They are extremely emotionally sick. I got a little off-topic, sorry. Yes, you could be murdered. It happens all the time in situations like this. Ever seen the movie Match Point?
frannie Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 I have been talking to my mom for some insight in how I can get over a married man. The only reason I am still talking about him is because I feel like it is going a little far now....he commented on my body and how I should definitely not have any insecurities in that department, which I do think is a little inappropriate for a married man to say. So my mom tells me that if I mess with a married man I am really putting myself in danger. She said when children are involved and you are a young, beautiful girl stealing someone's man, you could end up murdered. So.....should I really fear my life? And is this man crossing the line now? Forgive me because I haven't read any of your other posts, just the ones on this thread. What do you need to 'get over' this MM, if things haven't gone beyond him perhaps making 'inappropriate comments'..? I think your Mum is being over-dramatic to be honest. Of course I don't live in the good Ole USA and don't have the figures, but how many people get murdered because they were an OW..? Yes, some. But how many inconvenient, surplus-to-requirements spouses get bumped off for the insurance money and so the grieving spouse can abscond with a lover? I bet lots more . Either way it's not something that happens every weekend. Much more likely than being assassinated by a BW on the rampage (much as BSs posting here would like to imagine) is you'd kill yourself through depression and misery of being involved in an affair with some philandering pig.
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