ahah2322 Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 The term 'mid-life crisis' can be aptly used to describe the phase my only-19 year old boyfriend is going through. i've known him for almost three years and in so far, everything has been fine barring the occassional hiccups which are normal in relationships. Just tonight, he told me he felt that he ''has lost his touch''. he was talking about him not doing all the crazy things he used to do and that he will not be able to do them now, thereby ''losing his touch''. when he does crazy things now, he doesn't feel all that happy anymore. i've never stopped him from doing anything so i know i'm not controlling him. i guess, perhaps, he has ''settled down'' and now feels weird and bored with life. i feel sad that he feels this way and i encouraged him to ''find himself again'' and if this relationship is preventing that, i would leave him if he wants it. i love him and i want him to be happy regardless. he said that be it being single or attached, he feels this way. he also mentioned that he hates change and yet feels weird without it (something along this line). he said he felt like an old man. would you guys also prescribe it as a mid-life crisis (sort of, but he's only 19)? and, how should i deal with it? any insights will be greatly appreciated. thanks guys!
daZed&confUsed005 Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 i think he will get over it with time..i sort of went through that phase recently when i was about to turn 20. i too felt like an old man but then if you think about it you have a long life ahead of ya..its not over.. also i go to the gym which helps me cope with my problems and stress..maybe that will help him..basically he needs to do something productive to take his mind off of it..i know its easier said than done but it works for me..atleast for most things
love necessity Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 I wouldn't necessarily call it a "Mid-life-crisis"...He is only 19, and he does have so many good years to look forward too...Is there anything going on in his life that would depress him? Family, school, relationship issues? Have noticed out of the ordinary? He could've just lost that UMPF, and could be feeling down...I think the best the thing for him right now is your time...Keep on supporting him and he will be alright...I think he'll snap back into reality...Just give him some time.... I hope everything works out for him...I have had one of those times and still occasionally do, but I've managed to lift up out of them...
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