daZed&confUsed005 Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 i know exactly how you feel bro. there is this girl. i went to high school with her and back then it was all fun and games. had no feelings for her. now we are both sophmores in college. it all began this summer when i got hired at this customer service job and to my surprise she was too. we became friends at first, then became even better friends. after about a month or so i started developing these feelings for her. everytime she would talk to someone in a all touchy feely manner it would drive me crazy. i thought about asking her out but thought i should wait because she is engaged with some guy from back home. good thing is she was sorta forced into it by her parents when they went back home to visit. so i decided to wait til she broke things off with him. then in mid august she told me she has been seeing someone who happened to be our instructor for the job training. at first i thought she was just playing because he seems so dull and boring and she's the complete opposite...but when i found out it was true i was crushed. i spent a couple of days avoiding everyone and sitting in my room listening to sad songs. i know sounds a bit over dramatic but i didn't know how else to cope with the pain. i wasn't myself for the next couple of days and she noticed it and asked me why that was so. she also told me that i don't act the same way as i used to with her...i just told her that i have things going on in my life which i can't talk about. i tried to tell her how i feel but everytime i think about it, the fear of her not feeling the same and us losing the friendship we have always stops me. besides seems like she has a good thing going with the other guy. i mean from wat i can tell he seems to be a very nice guy. i tried to be happy for her but i can't seem to bury my feelings for this girl. also i am not quite sure if she likes me or not. she is all touchy and feely with me but thats how she is with everyone. she laughs at everyone of my corny jokes even the ones i threw out there to test it out but then again she likes to laugh it up. lately we've been flirting a lot..and about stuff like sex and kissing and stuff..i know all this makes it sound like she likes me but i am still not sure if she is just being friendly or something else. idk i am so confused and wanted some advice. i honestly have no idea of wat to do. i keep trying to bury my feelings deep inside but it is easier said than done. i can't get her outta my head and its getting even harder with her working with me and is in one of my classes. plz help let me know if you want any more details..at this point any thing would help...i would greatly appreciate it.
Yosef Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 also i am not quite sure if she likes me or not. she is all touchy and feely with me but thats how she is with everyone. she laughs at everyone of my corny jokes even the ones i threw out there to test it out but then again she likes to laugh it up. lately we've been flirting a lot..and about stuff like sex and kissing and stuff..i know all this makes it sound like she likes me but i am still not sure if she is just being friendly or something else. idk i am so confused and wanted some advice. i honestly have no idea of wat to do. i keep trying to bury my feelings deep inside but it is easier said than done. i can't get her outta my head and its getting even harder with her working with me and is in one of my classes. plz help let me know if you want any more details..at this point any thing would help...i would greatly appreciate it. I've bolded a major sign that indicates an attraction. You've got some angst going on. Well, it's quite a problem when the girl already has an engagement going on. My PERSONAL thought (you don't have to accept it) is that you should let her remain with the boyfriend. As you say, he is a nice guy. Don't start problems by causing her to cheat. It would hurt the other guy, hurt the parents, and in time, hurt the girl. It's too dangerous, IMO.
Author daZed&confUsed005 Posted September 15, 2007 Author Posted September 15, 2007 yea man i know..i tried to make myself realize that and forget her..but i just can't do it..i have been trying my very best to stop thinking about her but i can't..its been more than a month now..and don't think all i am after is like a one night stand or anything of that sort..i really like this girl..and some where deep within my heart think that she might feel the same just hasn't realized it yet.. however i agree with you..i am not going to do anything which would cause them to break up..maybe just show her that i am a nicer and more romantic guy..as for her engagement goes..she was sorta forced into it and has told me herself that she has nothing for that guy.. i know the touching and laughing at my jokes are some of the signs of her being into me but i don't want to confuse that with her being friendly towards me..i know alot of guys do
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