amber1 Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 I've seen many guys on a certain dating site do this. They describe themselves to have a certain education and then in the area where they have to put how educated they want their date to be, they put something lower. For example, a guy will have a Bachelor's degree, but then scroll down under the section About My Date and he will have that he wants someone with High School or Some College. I don't really understand that, I mean, I have a Graduate degree and it makes me very hesitant to contact or respond to a guy who wants a woman who is less educated than he is. Why do some guys do this? Is it really because he wants to date a woman who isn't 'as smart' as he is?
Art_Critic Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 When I was doing Online Dating a woman's education didn't matter to me... I will say though that from what I have witnessed that a woman with high education will only date guys with high education.. I call that education snobbery I'm not an education snob.. there are just as many if not more people who are more intelligent than people that have more education than they do..
Trialbyfire Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Is it possible it's assumed to be a minimum education requirement?
dropdeadlegs Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 I haven't been on many dating sites, but I thought the education level was the minimum you would find acceptable in a prospective date. If that's not the case, maybe some men don't want a woman that earns more than they do, but I don't think my BF would mind.
sweetbutcheeky Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 I haven't seen that but I agree, I wouldn't want to get to know a guy who wants a woman who isn't as educated as he is.
Trialbyfire Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 I should state that I've never been on an online dating site so my above comment is pure speculation. Is there an option for an "and or greater" or "and or lesser" education level?
popey Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 it is the minimum and does not say anything about their idealy desired level of education. I will, add that IMO- it is certainly not a rarity to find a man who can't handle a woman who is smarter than him. I haven't found the same to be as frequently observable regarding sheer differences in education level. Many (no where near all) men, seem to me to be quite proud of themselves if they have won the affection of a woman more educated then them. Some are just proud of her, some are just proud of themselves. TOTALLY different then if they find themselves in the inescapable realization that she is flat out smarter then him... regardless of who has what educational achievements.
Author amber1 Posted September 14, 2007 Author Posted September 14, 2007 I should state that I've never been on an online dating site so my above comment is pure speculation. Is there an option for an "and or greater" or "and or lesser" education level? It has a section with boxes that you check when you are filling out your own profile. For example, it has education levels listed with check boxes next to them and you can check as many boxes as you want. What you check shows up in your profile as the education level/s that you'd like your date to have.
Trialbyfire Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 It has a section with boxes that you check when you are filling out your own profile. For example, it has education levels listed with check boxes next to them and you can check as many boxes as you want. Hmmm...that leaves no possibility of minimum requirements. I think I would avoid guys like this. Small penies...
Art_Critic Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 I haven't seen that but I agree, I wouldn't want to get to know a guy who wants a woman who isn't as educated as he is. In the scheme of things it really doesn't matter to me.. I have some college but no degrees.. On the flip side I have owned and run my own company for over 20 years.. that is something even most people with degrees can't say they have done or could do.. That is why to me it really doesn't matter.. What matters to me is how smart someone is..I think you have to be on similar levels to be able to communicate properly.. ( education doesn't make someone smart necessarily )
Cad Rake Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 could be he's looking for beauty over brains.
Art_Critic Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 It has a section with boxes that you check when you are filling out your own profile. For example, it has education levels listed with check boxes next to them and you can check as many boxes as you want. What you check shows up in your profile as the education level/s that you'd like your date to have. I wouldn't put too much thought into a few check boxes someone makes.. When filling those things out people may have other reasons for doing it that you haven't considered.. ie:.. maybe it makes him show up in the searches to more available women.. or maybe he thinks it does.. A few check boxes cannot define a person.. besides.. if a guy says he has a degree that doesn't mean he really does... You need to contact someone and get to know them to know if you are compatible
VIP Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Men could care less about a woman's education. What they care about is her looks, the more mature men put character first (one man told me:"I don't care if she doesn't know how to read, if she has a good character") her housekeeping skills, some like it when she can hold a steady job. That's it. Educated women usually focus on their career more than on the family, they have more demands, think too highly of themselves. Education doesn't make a woman more feminine or attractive or a better person.
Cad Rake Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 sad but true. Educated women hate it, but it's true. Give me looks any day.
Cobra_X30 Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Men could care less about a woman's education. What they care about is her looks, the more mature men put character first (one man told me:"I don't care if she doesn't know how to read, if she has a good character") her housekeeping skills, some like it when she can hold a steady job. That's it. Educated women usually focus on their career more than on the family, they have more demands, think too highly of themselves. Education doesn't make a woman more feminine or attractive or a better person. Yes and No! Education essentially means nothing until you get to know the person. Some of the dumbest girls I've ever met have degrees.
DateAnalyzer Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 When I was doing Online Dating a woman's education didn't matter to me... I will say though that from what I have witnessed that a woman with high education will only date guys with high education.. I call that education snobbery I'm not an education snob.. there are just as many if not more people who are more intelligent than people that have more education than they do.. It makes sense to me, i went to college and have a bachelors in communication and wouldn't want to date a female who is a highschool dropout
Lizzie60 Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 I've seen many guys on a certain dating site do this. They describe themselves to have a certain education and then in the area where they have to put how educated they want their date to be, they put something lower. For example, a guy will have a Bachelor's degree, but then scroll down under the section About My Date and he will have that he wants someone with High School or Some College. I don't really understand that, I mean, I have a Graduate degree and it makes me very hesitant to contact or respond to a guy who wants a woman who is less educated than he is. Why do some guys do this? Is it really because he wants to date a woman who isn't 'as smart' as he is? I have never noticed that... I don't pay too much attention to the level of education... I do check how he put his profile together but most of all I check if he has good spelling... LOL If not... I skip him... that's a huge turn off for me.
shockandawed Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 As a male who has been on a few of the dating websites, let me throw my two cents in here. I have a bachelors degree. I am attracted to and desire a strong, independent and intelligent woman. I could care less what level of education she has completed. I probably would not be interested in a high school dropout as that indicates other bad choices, but level of college does not indicate intelligence. And to indicate that someone isn't as "smart" as yourself because of level of college completed indicates a pretty shallow viewpoint. I know plenty of women who never set foot on a college campus who are brighter, funnier and far more interesting than some of the so called post graduate geniuses I have went out with.
Saxis Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 I check if he has good spelling... LOL If not... I skip him... that's a huge turn off for me. Im gessing yuo woodn't wont too go on a dait sumtyme?? Never looked at dating sites, but seems strange they'd only check ONE option if you could select multiple. I, nor my friends care what level of education a potential date has achieved. Would be nice if she could at least read/write, speak properly and use a computer (I work in IT, so that's an easy form of communication for me) though. Maybe they're afraid of feeling inadequate in her presence, or that she'll be too demanding. A college degree at least shows me that she has the aptitude to take something on and finish it.
Tony T Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 I've seen many guys on a certain dating site do this. They describe themselves to have a certain education and then in the area where they have to put how educated they want their date to be, they put something lower. For example, a guy will have a Bachelor's degree, but then scroll down under the section About My Date and he will have that he wants someone with High School or Some College. I don't really understand that, I mean, I have a Graduate degree and it makes me very hesitant to contact or respond to a guy who wants a woman who is less educated than he is. Why do some guys do this? Is it really because he wants to date a woman who isn't 'as smart' as he is? The amount of education a person has certainly doesn't equate to how smart they are. The more you know the more you need to know. A man who has a college degree doesn't need a woman with a degree to be very happy and content, as long as she has conversation skills and is a decent human being. Everybody is smart about something. There are a LOT of college educated people who don't know a lot about anything and have no common sense. A man usually does not want to limit his choices on a dating site by restricting those who may want to reply to women with the same or higher education than he. You just never, ever know who will be your best partner.
sfsassy Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 As a male who has been on a few of the dating websites, let me throw my two cents in here. I have a bachelors degree. I am attracted to and desire a strong, independent and intelligent woman. I could care less what level of education she has completed. I probably would not be interested in a high school dropout as that indicates other bad choices, but level of college does not indicate intelligence. And to indicate that someone isn't as "smart" as yourself because of level of college completed indicates a pretty shallow viewpoint. I know plenty of women who never set foot on a college campus who are brighter, funnier and far more interesting than some of the so called post graduate geniuses I have went out with. Sme people are highly intelligent, may be well read, funny, etc, but college and the person don't mix well. I did do college, but due to organizational issues, research papers were just torturous for me. A couple of times I had a choice between a paper and a test, and the test was always chosen. (i'm not great at spelling either, but do spell check, and try not to make glaring errors. ) In terms of a guy, I would go for someone with minor spelling errors, if the profile was well written in general, but not someone who glaringly abuses the English language. I also check to see if reading is one of their hobbies, and what books they like. One of my exes only attended some junior college, but he was/is highly intelligent, and can talk about different writers and poets, and the world around him, and he is a decent person. My other big ex has a college degree, and though he has lots of book knowledge, he is clueless about how to treat people, and not at all smart about real life
Cad Rake Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 well of course we have to differentiate between SMART and EDUCATED. Lots of educated idiots, and lots of uneducated geniuses. I, on the other hand, want girls who are 1) thin and 2) easy. Or, if I were going to get married I'd want a girl who was 1) beautiful and 2) rich. Note that neither intelligence or education factors into either.
serial muse Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 The amount of education a person has certainly doesn't equate to how smart they are. The more you know the more you need to know. A man who has a college degree doesn't need a woman with a degree to be very happy and content, as long as she has conversation skills and is a decent human being. Everybody is smart about something. There are a LOT of college educated people who don't know a lot about anything and have no common sense. A man usually does not want to limit his choices on a dating site by restricting those who may want to reply to women with the same or higher education than he. You just never, ever know who will be your best partner. Yes, but I think amber's point was that you can select a smorgasbord of educational backgrounds on these sites - you check all that apply. For example, you can check any or all of the following boxes: some high school, high school diploma, some college, bachelor's, some grad school, doctoral So, she's saying that she sees men limiting their choices, but in the opposite direction to what you stated - they're stating that they don't want women who have more education than they do. In other words, if they have a bachelor's, they actively won't check "some grad school" or "doctoral degree" as desirable qualities in potential dates. It's an interesting point. I did online dating, and I have a Ph.D., and I will agree that I tended to see guys check educational boxes that were less than or equal to their own background (I know this because it's one of the things that gets flagged on the "compatibility" matchup thingy these sites do) and I did find it a bit frustrating. However. It didn't seem to make much difference when it came right down to it. Those same guys still emailed/winked at me, despite their educational "preferences". I just think people tend to be more restrictive in their "laundry list" ads than they actually are in real life, where you can see the whole package. As it were. (By the way, guys - that probably goes for height as well! And possibly for body types, and/or age, and/or amount of hair, and so on and so forth.)
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