scaredinlove Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Simple girl I am realy sorry you have attacked and called dumb and all kinds of S***.You are none of that, you trusted someone you love and he let you down. Just tell him you want the phone back and that it was very wrong of him to do that. Tell him you are sorry for trying to help. Good Luck and hope he gives you your phone back.
scaredinlove Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Seriously, I truly believe only a very few "know" and most "think." Otherwise why are there so many OW/OM who continue to be so for years and years? Their lovers would have left their marriages for them by now rather than making excuse after excuse after excuse and continuing to hide the affair. And please don't think I'm projecting this onto your situation. It's just an observation as a general rule. Each situation is different...There are many BW who stay too even yrs and yrs while the H is cheating on them. Not everyone is the same, they may not even want that the lover leaves or understand that they can't leave.
luvmy2ns Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Simple girl I am realy sorry you have attacked and called dumb and all kinds of S***.You are none of that, you trusted someone you love and he let you down. Just tell him you want the phone back and that it was very wrong of him to do that. Tell him you are sorry for trying to help. Good Luck and hope he gives you your phone back. Where did anyone call her dumb?
luvmy2ns Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Each situation is different...There are many BW who stay too even yrs and yrs while the H is cheating on them. Not everyone is the same, they may not even want that the lover leaves or understand that they can't leave. You must be one of these pathetic women who hangs on a MM's promises for years and years. The BW's stay because most of them are unaware of the sneaking around that's going on. Cheaters are very good liars and manipulators.
redfathom Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Maybe she knows it's your phone and since you get to have sex with her husband it was the least you could do. I know I am rude. I do wish you luck.
herenow Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Very interesting thread here. On another thread we were discussing MM giving the OW gifts. Some people said that it was a waste of time to get the gift back and the BW is greedy if she tries. It seems like it's OK for MM to give gifts to the OW with marital money that legally belongs to both the wife and the MM. In this case the MM has given his wife something that the OW gave him. If that is a problem, it seems like a double standard to me. Simplegirl, has the MM ever given you a gift of any size? If the answer is yes, then you can always do a gift exchange.
SillyScissors Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Perfect gift is shoes.I love shoes.Nice heel with a platform
Trialbyfire Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Since the phone was free, why would you want to control a gift given? It's not like you paid for the phone with someone else's money...
TogetherForever Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Perfect gift is shoes.I love shoes.Nice heel with a platform Don't forget the fish.
reboot Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 It's not the money. Obviously it's not a big deal to her financially. It's his audacity.
Trialbyfire Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 It's not the money. Obviously it's not a big deal to her financially. It's his audacity. His audacity to use a free item, freely gifted? Do you normally control the way someone uses the gifts you give to them?
luvmy2ns Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 It's not the money. Obviously it's not a big deal to her financially. It's his audacity. Audacity? We're talking about a cheating MM here! Why should she be surprised at any further proof of his audacity?
Trialbyfire Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 I guess I'll never understand the mentality of gifts with strings. I won't accept a gift if it has strings attached and never gift with strings attached. I also don't believe in spending someone else's money.
herenow Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 It's not the money. Obviously it's not a big deal to her financially. It's his audacity. What is your feeling about MM giving gifts to OW? I agree, it's not about the money. But, if a MM can do whatever he wants when it comes to the OW, why is it such a problem for the MM to do so with his wife? The difference is, when the MM gives something of any value to the OW, the wife isn't aware of it. In this case, the OW knows and she is pissed. Now she has some insight into how the wife feels when she finds out her H is "giving" to the OW.
reboot Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 What is your feeling about MM giving gifts to OW? Hopefully I won't offend too many people, but I think he's just further raping his family, his marriage, and his vows when he does so. Did his wife help him wrap these gifts? I don't think he has the right to give them otherwise. The poster here has enough problems, and I didn't want to insult her, but since you ask, giving phones to some cheating scuz does not show a lot of feelings of self worth to me. [/rant] Appologies to those I just ticked off. Call me old fashioned. *shrug*
Trialbyfire Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Hopefully I won't offend too many people, but I think he's just further raping his family, his marriage, and his vows when he does so. Did his wife help him wrap these gifts? I don't think he has the right to give them otherwise. The poster here has enough problems, and I didn't want to insult her, but since you ask, giving phones to some cheating scuz does not show a lot of feelings of self worth to me. [/rant] Appologies to those I just ticked off. Call me old fashioned. *shrug* The opening poster is the OW, not the wife. Do you have this confused or am I misunderstanding your post again?
luvmy2ns Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Hopefully I won't offend too many people, but I think he's just further raping his family, his marriage, and his vows when he does so. Did his wife help him wrap these gifts? I don't think he has the right to give them otherwise. The poster here has enough problems, and I didn't want to insult her, but since you ask, giving phones to some cheating scuz does not show a lot of feelings of self worth to me. [/rant] Appologies to those I just ticked off. Call me old fashioned. *shrug* I don't think he presented it to his wife as a "gift." I recall reading that her phone was broke and she just took his to use, not knowing it wasn't really his, and he's afraid to tell her the truth. Imagine that! The truth from a cheating MM!!
reboot Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Not at all. Did I phrase that wrong? I was replying to herenow's question about MM giving a gift to an OW.
herenow Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 The opening poster is the OW, not the wife. Do you have this confused or am I misunderstanding your post again? Reboot was responding to my post about gifts
reboot Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Obviously my post was confusing, re-read herenow's question to me.
herenow Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Not at all. Did I phrase that wrong? I was replying to herenow's question about MM giving a gift to an OW. Sorry, I was posting at the same time
Trialbyfire Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Reboot was responding to my post about gifts Gotcha'...
herenow Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 I don't think he presented it to his wife as a "gift." I recall reading that her phone was broke and she just took his to use, not knowing it wasn't really his, and he's afraid to tell her the truth. Imagine that! The truth from a cheating MM!! My point is that the OP feels that the wife has something that belongs to her and the OP is upset about it. I call that irony from an OW! I agree that MM is just wrong as the title of this thread states. What he is wrong about has nothing to do with a phone or his wife!
scaredinlove Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 You must be one of these pathetic women who hangs on a MM's promises for years and years. The BW's stay because most of them are unaware of the sneaking around that's going on. Cheaters are very good liars and manipulators. Well my case is different...My MM is not leaving and i am not looking for marriage since I was married before I am happy to be with him.Not looking for any real commitiment. Like a said before many BW stay for whatever reason, and it dosen't make them anything more or less.The same for the OW. They just stay for yrs and yrs after the d-day and some like a post that in the board recent even give their blessing to the affair. People are different and make different choices. I hope you have a plesant day. Much love for you.
whichwayisup Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 I think I said this before, but just get him to buy you another phone. You aren't getting that other one back. My point is that the OP feels that the wife has something that belongs to her and the OP is upset about it. I call that irony from an OW! Yes, scary isn't it...
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