Kimberly_bollinger Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Hi, I've never tried this but I figured what would it hurt?? Well my story is about me and my ex Jared. We was together for a year. This summer we decided to stay together for his summer break from school, and I don't think we was ready at all. We had only been together about 8 months. The begining went great, we was always happy. We did everything together, we took my son to a bunch of places. HIm and my son got along perfect. And then started the arguing. I always got mad over everything, and was so dramatic about everything also. I realized i was ruining things and i was always so depressed that I didn't care. He had recently bought me a Promise ring, so in my head i had it stuck that "oh, he bought me a ring he will never break up with me." I was wrong. =-( He had went back to college like the year before and I was so insecure. I questioned everything kn owing he wasn't cheating on me. We broke up Aug 20th. He said I needed to work out my problems.. I got counceling like he recommended and I'm glad I did. After what my councelor described me as I cant believe he stayed with me that long.. What my problem is now though is he said once i started proving to him I changed he'd reconsider another chance. But it seems everytime we talk on the phone it leads to arguments. I still question him scared hes going to move on.. Sometimes I feel like im being played and hes just saying theres a chance for us to get back together when theres not. How can I prove to him that i'm stronger now and more confident?? I'm trying now to decrease the phone calls to him which the councelor says will help but im not sure how. Me and her worked out a 30 day plan. I go the 30 days trryin not to call or make contact with him (she said the more contact the more we fight which means the less chance we have to get back together) and within that 30 days I'm doin a exercize routine to get fit andfeel better about myself, and other things to raise my self esteem and so on. And after 30 days we can meet in person and have a "date". I'm hoping without no contact he realizes i'm changing, then when he sees me and how confidennt I am I want himt o think I'm irristable. Am I dreaming to much, or do i have a chance?? I'll take any advice, I'll try anything to get him back. I love him to death and can;t take this anymore... ps: the last time we spoke he said he wasn't talking to any girls in a dating way, and I want to believe him..
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