MICKcarolina Posted September 13, 2007 Posted September 13, 2007 My ex of 2 1/2 yrs and I broke up in late July and towards the middle of August she started sleeping with our old roommate (whom she suggested live with us). I found out about them sleeping together and told her I can't see her anymore or be around her. At least for a looooong time. She hardly made any compromises in our relationship and she's already flying to Oakland to visit this guy. It's driving me nuts. I found out about the guy and her and the oakland thing from my friends, not from her. That bugs me as well. All the while, she's calling me up on other peoples phones (she has no phone), telling me she's thinking of me and can we be friends and talk casually. I let her know how I feel unwillingly maladjusted and hurt by this thing and she gives me the thats too bad pity treatment and is very adamant about letting me know she really has something with this guy. If we're gonna talk and I'm gonna be hurt and not so easy to just act like everything is cool, I dont know why she is still calling me. I also dont like the rubbing **** in my face about ex roomie stuff, cos its so nonchalant and cold. she calls it honesty. I respect honesty, but some of the stuff she said is just downright harsh. i can handle the truth, i just dont want to be around her. Am I not being a reasonable person about this? Or is she just crazy to think i would want to talk about this and be casual with her a month after it happened? I like that she is thinking of me, but I know that this ship has sailed. It's just keeping me from being around/meeting other people. Any words are helpful.
CaliGuy Posted September 13, 2007 Posted September 13, 2007 My ex of 2 1/2 yrs and I broke up in late July and towards the middle of August she started sleeping with our old roommate (whom she suggested live with us). I found out about them sleeping together and told her I can't see her anymore or be around her. At least for a looooong time. She hardly made any compromises in our relationship and she's already flying to Oakland to visit this guy. It's driving me nuts. I found out about the guy and her and the oakland thing from my friends, not from her. That bugs me as well. All the while, she's calling me up on other peoples phones (she has no phone), telling me she's thinking of me and can we be friends and talk casually. I let her know how I feel unwillingly maladjusted and hurt by this thing and she gives me the thats too bad pity treatment and is very adamant about letting me know she really has something with this guy. If we're gonna talk and I'm gonna be hurt and not so easy to just act like everything is cool, I dont know why she is still calling me. I also dont like the rubbing **** in my face about ex roomie stuff, cos its so nonchalant and cold. she calls it honesty. I respect honesty, but some of the stuff she said is just downright harsh. i can handle the truth, i just dont want to be around her. Am I not being a reasonable person about this? Or is she just crazy to think i would want to talk about this and be casual with her a month after it happened? I like that she is thinking of me, but I know that this ship has sailed. It's just keeping me from being around/meeting other people. Any words are helpful. Run, not walk, but run away from her as far as you can. She's not a healthy individual and you are doing the right thing. If you love and respect yourself you will remove her from your life.
Author MICKcarolina Posted September 13, 2007 Author Posted September 13, 2007 the quotes were right on and i appreciate the opinion.
Micke81 Posted September 13, 2007 Posted September 13, 2007 Sometimes we can't handle being friends with the ex's. I think that she maybe someone that you can't be just friends with. Tell her that, and ask her to stop contacting you.
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