mspikes Posted September 13, 2007 Posted September 13, 2007 Hey all, I made a few posts on here during a break that I had with my bf. Roughly 3 weeks after the break, I finally decided to call it quits because I realized that no matter how hard I loved this man, we both just wanted different things in our lives at this point in time. I wanted to love him and cherish him for the rest of my life, and at this point in time, he just wanted to be by himself. The break up was very cordial, and I told him that I loved him and always would but, the stars just brought us together at the wrong time. Anywho, my question to the group is have you ever had an occasion where this same thing has happened to you? You really felt you had found the one, just to find that the two of you just weren't compatible relationship wise? Share your story.
Curious139 Posted September 13, 2007 Posted September 13, 2007 Good question. I suppose my recent loss is a kind of example. I love this woman who is my old g/f from 25 years ago. We reconnected about a year ago (long distance) and had an affair. However I couldn't quite bring myself to leave my wife and children. Instead I wanted my wife to come to that point with dignity instead of being replaced by the "other woman". I waited too long. My g/f gave up hope and then met somebody..........and the rest is history. It hurts so much, she was the one for me. The other side of the coin is my wife was never quite the one for me but instead we were compatible and got on very well. She loved me and is a wonderful person. So we married and had children. My mistake was to think that I didn't need to love my wife - well I do, but it is more deep affection, respect, admiration etc. I found love with my ex and have woken up. Now I'm in a real dilemma - do I leave my wife in the hope of finding love elsewhere or do I stick it out, knowing we aren't really happy.
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