MissingMyHubby Posted September 13, 2007 Posted September 13, 2007 My ex gf had been physically abused for the first 10 years of her life by her father (beating up, locked in basement) and we pieced together the reasons why she broke up with me, so suddenly. This girl was head over heels in love with me, but I never showed her "enough" love and care because, simply stated, it would have never been enough. Her lack of a male (dad) in her life will forever corrupt her future relationships and I obviously know that she will not want to hear any of this from me, but I so badly want to tell her (or have someone else tell her to whom she won't be so defensive towards) about my discoveries as to why she is the way she is, and that she needs to address her issues instead of covering them over and ignoring them. She has ignored them her whole life, and I feel like I have the key to unlocking the door and getting to the bottom of this, but the problem layeth in possible pride getting in the way of listening. How do you go about telling someone you were in love with that they have daddy issues, and you know how to go about fixing them (She had zero positive encouragement from a father for 14 years and it all makes sense now) and to hope that they LISTEN to you and get help to make it all better. Or have my friend, a psychologist, tell her and she will be more apt to listen? Or just walk away, living with regret that you DIDNT tell her and try to help because if you DID, you might have saved the relationship. HELP!! My other thread is on here too
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