lala2007 Posted September 13, 2007 Posted September 13, 2007 Everyone knows that I have had this crush on an older, married man that I work with. I have tried so hard to get over this, and nothing is working. Here is my problem: I think he suspects that I like him. A few people I thought I could trust have told him, and apparently he didn't believe them. He also said that he was flattered and I was told that he comments on my appearance all the time. Just because he tells other men that I am attractive numerous times a day doesn't mean he likes me, right? Should him saying these things make me worried. I have completely avoided him lately- and I mean completely, but it is making me miserable inside. I don't know if I should bring this up and tell him not to believe everything that others say, or if I should just try to save my dignity and move on. This guy is my manager, and this job is not my career, and I would be so sad to leave this place, so that is not an option. Any help would be wonderful!
whichwayisup Posted September 13, 2007 Posted September 13, 2007 Don't say a word to him about it. Save your dignity and move on. The guy is married, he's older and he is your manager! Career or not, you don't want to be known as the woman who sleep with older married managers! People talk and the last thing you want is that type of reputation. It doesn't matter either if he thinks or knows you like him because he is married and your manager!
norajane Posted September 13, 2007 Posted September 13, 2007 A few people I thought I could trust have told him, and apparently he didn't believe them. He also said that he was flattered and I was told that he comments on my appearance all the time. Just because he tells other men that I am attractive numerous times a day doesn't mean he likes me, right? Should him saying these things make me worried. Wow - that's such an unprofessional work environment. You could actually sue for sexual harassment - this guy is your MANAGER and he's making comments on your appearance to other people you work with? Keep ignoring him; do not bring this up. And for your sake, do not trust anyone you work with and do not share your feelings about your boss! Obviously, they're all a bunch of gossips and nothing you say to anyone will be kept a secret. And take this as an example of how everyone will know if you do anything with this guy - even a private conversation with him will start the talk; a kiss or more and you'll soon be known as the office slut banging the boss. And start going out more and meeting single men your age! You're in college - there must be tons of guys who would love to be your boyfriend.
Meaplus3 Posted September 13, 2007 Posted September 13, 2007 Everyone knows that I have had this crush on an older, married man that I work with. I have tried so hard to get over this, and nothing is working. Here is my problem: I think he suspects that I like him. A few people I thought I could trust have told him, and apparently he didn't believe them. He also said that he was flattered and I was told that he comments on my appearance all the time. Just because he tells other men that I am attractive numerous times a day doesn't mean he likes me, right? Should him saying these things make me worried. I have completely avoided him lately- and I mean completely, but it is making me miserable inside. I don't know if I should bring this up and tell him not to believe everything that others say, or if I should just try to save my dignity and move on. This guy is my manager, and this job is not my career, and I would be so sad to leave this place, so that is not an option. Any help would be wonderful! WOW! He's your Manager that's just awful of him to go around making comment's on your look's. How long has this been going on? How long have you worked for him? AP:)
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