sweetbutcheeky Posted September 12, 2007 Posted September 12, 2007 A few of you may remember my post a little while ago wondering if this guy I had just gone out with was coming on too strong and so on. Well things did get better, he didn't call as much in one day or some none or once. (which in this case is good cause he was coming from 4-6 calls) He still has his moments but I can see they are coming from a good place (not like a stalker or something) just excited to make plans for the next date or call me to tell me something and so on. Getting to my question. Do many guys want to meet the woman they are dating' mother? (and I mean day after 2-3 dates?) I may be used to not wanting to even mention it cause I don't want to scare the guy off. Though he seems excited for when he can come over (I live with my mum at the moment). Has asked me if I have told her about him and asked if she wants to meet him, his voice was in an enthusiastic way like he was hoping for me to say yes. I do still have to cut him back a little like narrow down one day to date on the weekend cause he gets carried away and wants to make plans for the whole weekend. But I can see the good side of what and the calls when the other guys I have dated have done the complete opposite. He also asked me if I wanted to see We Will Rock You (the musical using Queen's music) on out second date and has called around for prices. Which surprised be. Still just taking it slow on my side though, even though I like qualities about him. Though I am still very reluctant to let myself get sucked in right away like in the past because I have a been there before when they looked too good to be true and were.
Green Posted September 13, 2007 Posted September 13, 2007 Im not like that, Ive been known to not even call a girl after sex... And I hate meeting peoples friends, family, or pets only exception is other hot girls... I absolutely hate talking on the phone with girls I'm dating and so do most guys I know... but there are a few guys out there who do like meeting the family, friends, and pets and enjoy calling often hope thats what ur into
JCD Posted September 13, 2007 Posted September 13, 2007 I think he is overjoyed with you and you should enjoy it while it lasts because it will taper off and subdue.
Trialbyfire Posted September 13, 2007 Posted September 13, 2007 sbc, your guy is the reverse of my guy. Yours wants to meet your Mom, mine wants me to meet his parents. Take it slow and easy, sbc. I'm also doing the same. Many, not all of the ones that say they love you early in the game, burn out soon too.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 13, 2007 Author Posted September 13, 2007 I am enjoying it for the most part. Some things just make me wonder a little, like tonight. I just got home from a date with him and he is talking about wanting to see me at least 3 times a week and trying to schedule which days. Which is a good thing that he wants to see more of me, but I did have to tell him that I do have other things I need to do on the weekend since I work half of Sat and need to fit friends, family and me stuff in there too. Part could be me too where I have hoped for other guys I have dated to be just a little like that and it didn't happen (or were like that in the start then the act wore off). So I am getting what I wanted, is just a little more than I expected so is part getting used too.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 13, 2007 Author Posted September 13, 2007 sbc, your guy is the reverse of my guy. Yours wants to meet your Mom, mine wants me to meet his parents. Take it slow and easy, sbc. I'm also doing the same. Many, not all of the ones that say they love you early in the game, burn out soon too. I can tell he is fishing for a date when he can come over. My mum doesn't want anyone over until she finishes working on the house anyway, new place that is getting painted and some new floors. So that gives me a good reason he can't argue with! lol Even though he is eager I am taking it slower than he is, just to make sure things aren't too good to be true so to speak and get attached to something that wasn't really there. At least he hasn't said I love you yet! LOL Then that would make me run! Though tonight he was also hinting on when I thought I would be ready to have sex with him and what I was comfortable with (was asking if maybe next time). Not surprising he was wondering but is something I will be keeping an eye on. See if he is willing to wait, I told him I prefer to wait until I am in a relationship. (watch he asks me to be his gf so we can have sex! LOL ) Ok in his defense he did say some nice things too like he wanted me to know he was affectionate and liked holding hands and that kinda thing too.
Yamaha Posted September 13, 2007 Posted September 13, 2007 He seems pretty insecure and afraid he might lose you. Has he dated much in the past? Some guys come on strong and get very attached early on but you are getting lots of attention, even if you would like less. Does he have many other friends or is he making you his whole world? You might worry about him being obsessive if you break it off with him. These types don't take rejection well.
Trialbyfire Posted September 13, 2007 Posted September 13, 2007 I can tell he is fishing for a date when he can come over. My mum doesn't want anyone over until she finishes working on the house anyway, new place that is getting painted and some new floors. So that gives me a good reason he can't argue with! lol Haha...lock-tight alibi. Let's see if he calls her Mom, when he meets her. Even though he is eager I am taking it slower than he is, just to make sure things aren't too good to be true so to speak and get attached to something that wasn't really there. At least he hasn't said I love you yet! LOL Then that would make me run!Smart thinking. We've all BTDT. Though tonight he was also hinting on when I thought I would be ready to have sex with him and what I was comfortable with (was asking if maybe next time). Not surprising he was wondering but is something I will be keeping an eye on. See if he is willing to wait, I told him I prefer to wait until I am in a relationship. (watch he asks me to be his gf so we can have sex! LOL ) Ok in his defense he did say some nice things too like he wanted me to know he was affectionate and liked holding hands and that kinda thing too. Hey, he might just want you to be his g/f. Don't underestimate your own attraction.
Krytellan Posted September 13, 2007 Posted September 13, 2007 Getting to my question. Do many guys want to meet the woman they are dating' mother? (and I mean day after 2-3 dates?) HELL NO....
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 13, 2007 Author Posted September 13, 2007 Hey, he might just want you to be his g/f. Don't underestimate your own attraction. Hee hee of course that would be a good thing. Just maybe a little more dating under our belts first since it's been only 4 dates! LOL I am still learning things, waiting to see what he is really like and figure out how I feel about him. And of course I should never underestimate that!
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 13, 2007 Author Posted September 13, 2007 He seems pretty insecure and afraid he might lose you. Has he dated much in the past? Some guys come on strong and get very attached early on but you are getting lots of attention, even if you would like less. Does he have many other friends or is he making you his whole world? You might worry about him being obsessive if you break it off with him. These types don't take rejection well. As far as I know, he has referred to past dating with out getting into details. He has also talked about his friends, his best friend called as he was dropping me off at home tonight. Though I think most of his friends have girlfriends. But is another reason I am taking it slow, so I can observe and figure those things out.
Green Posted September 13, 2007 Posted September 13, 2007 an important question no one has asked is are you guys having sex
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 13, 2007 Author Posted September 13, 2007 an important question no one has asked is are you guys having sex No we haven't. Though tonight he was also hinting on when I thought I would be ready to have sex with him and what I was comfortable with. Not surprising he was wondering but is something I will be keeping an eye on. See if he is willing to wait, I told him I prefer to wait until I am in a relationship.
Saxis Posted September 13, 2007 Posted September 13, 2007 You know what they say; One look at her mother, and you can pretty much tell what you're getting yourself into! (Wish I had taken that advice the first time!) But no, I don't think meeting the parents/family is something I'd want to do until we decided to be exclusive. As far as the excessive calling and acting needy, I think I got myself into that situation with a girl I've known for a week, online, and we haven't even met yet! It was really nice at first, but now it's getting kinda uncomfortable. Especially since I'm fresh out of a marriage, separated just 4 months. I'm just not ready for that yet...
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 13, 2007 Author Posted September 13, 2007 You know what they say; One look at her mother, and you can pretty much tell what you're getting yourself into! (Wish I had taken that advice the first time!) But no, I don't think meeting the parents/family is something I'd want to do until we decided to be exclusive. Oh lord I hope he doesn't look at my mum and think I am like her! LOL Ok well she will be nice and looks young for her age like I do (I'm 29 and everyone thinks I am 24). So appearances are fine if he thinks I will look like her when I get older! LOL Just behind closed doors and personality we are so very different! As far as the excessive calling and acting needy, I think I got myself into that situation with a girl I've known for a week, online, and we haven't even met yet! It was really nice at first, but now it's getting kinda uncomfortable. Especially since I'm fresh out of a marriage, separated just 4 months. I'm just not ready for that yet... I think I said that he has gotten better since the second date he has calmed down with calling. Once we have made plans he is good and doesn't call until that day we are getting together, a short chat to see how my day went or to tell me something he found out re next date and so on. So if he calls now is once or twice max a day. I wouldn't personally call it needy, that was the words of other people.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 13, 2007 Author Posted September 13, 2007 Hey, he might just want you to be his g/f. Don't underestimate your own attraction. Not surprising he was wondering but is something I will be keeping an eye on. See if he is willing to wait, I told him I prefer to wait until I am in a relationship. (watch he asks me to be his gf so we can have sex! LOL ) LOL We called it TBF! Though I was joking. He called me tonight and in the conversation he asked me if I was comfortable with him calling me his girlfriend. I didn't really know what to say at first because I hadn't gotten there yet, was figuring out how I felt about him and so on. So I answered by saying to be fair to both of us I think we needed a little more time to learn more about each other. He has told me from day one he only dates one woman at a time and told me tonight that he is ready now to be in a relationship with me, but understands what I am saying. He also added that he knows he is at the point where he wants to be in a relationship he cause he is wanting to be physical with me and have sex with me. (I can't help wondering if he is talking about a relationship now because he wants to have sex) Though he is willing to wait and give me all the time I need, to figure out if I want a relationship and when I am ready for us to have sex. He has offered to do all kinds of things for me, drives an hour to pick me up after work each date, is taking us to the theater, offered to take me to my old doctor which is where I used to live outside the city. (I haven't been able to find a new one since I moved) So I do have to take into account the other things too. I think he would do anything I asked him (never have asked for anything).
Trialbyfire Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 LOL We called it TBF! Though I was joking. He called me tonight and in the conversation he asked me if I was comfortable with him calling me his girlfriend. I didn't really know what to say at first because I hadn't gotten there yet, was figuring out how I felt about him and so on. So I answered by saying to be fair to both of us I think we needed a little more time to learn more about each other. He has told me from day one he only dates one woman at a time and told me tonight that he is ready now to be in a relationship with me, but understands what I am saying. He also added that he knows he is at the point where he wants to be in a relationship he cause he is wanting to be physical with me and have sex with me. (I can't help wondering if he is talking about a relationship now because he wants to have sex) Though he is willing to wait and give me all the time I need, to figure out if I want a relationship and when I am ready for us to have sex. He has offered to do all kinds of things for me, drives an hour to pick me up after work each date, is taking us to the theater, offered to take me to my old doctor which is where I used to live outside the city. (I haven't been able to find a new one since I moved) So I do have to take into account the other things too. I think he would do anything I asked him (never have asked for anything). Hey, I didn't call it the same way you did. I like the bolded part. So...you know what I'm going to say...take your time.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 14, 2007 Author Posted September 14, 2007 Hey, I didn't call it the same way you did. I like the bolded part. So...you know what I'm going to say...take your time. LOL ya I know we called it differently but the main thing that we called he may want me to be his girlfriend. (though I was joking for was unexpected to me) Funny thing is when I was trying to say that I think we could use a little more time to get to know about each other since we have only been out 4 or 5 times (and 2 were watching a movie). The more I talked about knowing we liked each other and the things I did know I liked about him I made myself wonder if I was contradicting myself. But the main thing being we haven't known each other for long and I think I need some time to make sure he is for real. Not too good to be true. Obviously at one point you have to give him a chance.
Trialbyfire Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 LOL ya I know we called it differently but the main thing that we called he may want me to be his girlfriend. (though I was joking for was unexpected to me) Funny thing is when I was trying to say that I think we could use a little more time to get to know about each other since we have only been out 4 or 5 times (and 2 were watching a movie). The more I talked about knowing we liked each other and the things I did know I liked about him I made myself wonder if I was contradicting myself. But the main thing being we haven't known each other for long and I think I need some time to make sure he is for real. Not too good to be true. Obviously at one point you have to give him a chance. I 100% agree. When you're ready for it, you will know. Let's see if he's true to his words about being patient with you. It's the same thing with the guy I'm seeing. We discussed exclusivity a little while back and I wasn't ready for it, not that I would sleep around on him. He's willing to wait and hasn't pushed the issue.
JCD Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 My guess is that you are attractive and he fell for your body. I think it's smart of you to wait him out. I wonder if he's going to get tired of waiting for your body and quits you. Then you get to know what kind of a man you got.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 14, 2007 Author Posted September 14, 2007 I 100% agree. When you're ready for it, you will know. Let's see if he's true to his words about being patient with you. It's the same thing with the guy I'm seeing. We discussed exclusivity a little while back and I wasn't ready for it, not that I would sleep around on him. He's willing to wait and hasn't pushed the issue. a it's not that I am dating anyone else or have other prospects. I'm just not ready to be his girlfriend because I don't think it's fair to both of us being so soon. I think we could both use one more info on each other and for myself to be a little more sure he is for real. With a little more time behind us I think I will know. My guess is that you are attractive and he fell for your body. I think it's smart of you to wait him out. I wonder if he's going to get tired of waiting for your body and quits you. Then you get to know what kind of a man you got. I like to think I am and that could be the case, though he hasn't been pushing going back to his place or sex. Our dates have been out doing all sorts of things. Time will tell.
Cad Rake Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 This guy sounds like a real shlub. One look at her mother, and you can pretty much tell what you're getting yourself into! Ain't that the truth. But this guy hasn't even banged the chick yet. L:(ser.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 14, 2007 Author Posted September 14, 2007 This guy sounds like a real shlub. Ain't that the truth. But this guy hasn't even banged the chick yet. L:(ser. Why do you call him a shlub? If your going to say something like that at least back i up and explain why. And excuse me but I am the chick your saying he hasn't banged!
Cad Rake Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Um, ok: any guy who calls a girl 4-5 times a day and who wants to meet the mom after a couple of dates is, by definition, a shlub (or schlub if you're picky). And yes I know you're the one he hasn't banged.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted September 14, 2007 Author Posted September 14, 2007 Um, ok: any guy who calls a girl 4-5 times a day and who wants to meet the mom after a couple of dates is, by definition, a shlub (or schlub if you're picky). And yes I know you're the one he hasn't banged. Not a day, just one or 2 days in the start as I said if you had read it correctly. I don't know about other ladies but I would prefer the guy who wants to meet the parents than the guy who will run if you mention it, afraid of commitment and just wants to bang a girl!
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