Rayofsunshine Posted September 12, 2007 Posted September 12, 2007 I am so confused but the actions of my exbf I don't know what to do anymore. We have been broken up now for about 3 months and I was doing NC and starting to feel better. Now everything is back to square one. I feel like I can't fully move on when my past is always present. I went to a friends b-day party and there he was, which is fine because I surprised my self and was actually fine with it, it was go to see him. Well he just sat there the whole time with his sunglasses on and didn't talk to anyone, (needless to say he acted like an ass) and then left early. We had some contact by email last week. He says he is bitter about stuff (he is the one that broke it off) and that freedom and space was not the demise of our relationship, it was the finacial burdon of having the house and credit card bills. I feel like I an getting mixed messages from him. I don't know what to do. I sent him an email yesterday asking him why he is contacting my friends so much and asking them questions. He knew that we would be going out more since the breakup and I'm not sure what he is trying to do. He didn't respond back to me, and he probably won't. Has anyone gone through this? Should I just keep up with the NC and go from there?
Author Rayofsunshine Posted September 12, 2007 Author Posted September 12, 2007 Does anyone have any advice? Should I just move on and continue with no contact or is there some glimmer of hope that he is regretting the break up? is that why he is trying to stay in contact with my friends? I am so confused by his actions. I still love and care about him!
Author Rayofsunshine Posted September 13, 2007 Author Posted September 13, 2007 I guess I'll just figure it out myself! sigh
FC801 Posted September 14, 2007 Posted September 14, 2007 Hi Rayofsunshine, I have read some of your previous posts too, as I've been going through a similarly messy breakup and NC for the past few months. In my honest/blunt opinion, I think you should stay NC. Someone who makes lame excuses to leave someone they say they love so much is not worth your time. You deserve better, you deserve someone who will stay with you even when he is stressed out and things are difficult!! He sounds really confused, but that is no longer your problem. It's his and his alone to deal with. And in my own personal experience, I learned that the excuse my ex gave me was just a lie because he was too big of a coward to be honest with me. Stay strong!
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