question on a complicated situation

[alli02]

so i really think that i have messed things up with this guy but tell me what you think....please stick with me i know i have a tendency to ramble...lol

 

i met this guy at a party a couple of months ago....we hit it off right away and hung out and chatted all night. we ended up making out and spending the night together...we did not have sex. im not the type of person that would normally even make out with a guy or spend the night with him the night i met him i normally move slow but there was just something about him. after a week we started having sex. this continued for a few weeks then some stuff happened and we stopped. we didnt actually talk for about a month however we did text on a regular basis. so the other night we were texting and he told me to call or text him after i got off work the next night. before i could do this he texted me and asked if i would want to get together with him that night, so we did. i knew before i even went to his house that we would have sex...and we did, but we hung out and talked and stuff first. i ended up spending the night and in the morning he asked if i wanted to go paint balling with him and his friends, i had other stuff to do so i didnt go. so at this point i was kinda confused about what he wanted...i didnt know if it was just sex or if he wanted more. so last night i sent him a message and asked him...he didnt reply until this morning. he told me "everyone seems to be at odds with me and im unclear why. maybe its just me being too sensitive. i believe its just sex. i dont plan on being around much longer and dont want to pursue anything. sorry if i am a bad guy. not trying to be. im not out with other women either." i knew he was wanting to move closer to work cause he has an hour commute...but i kinda think he is kinda depressed so i sent him a message back saying that sex i really all i wanted too. and telling him that things in my life have been crazy lately. and that maybe we could just be friends with benefits or something and i really dont want to be in a relationship with anyone...but i also told him that i think he is a really great guy. and i think he is going through a lot right now and that if he ever needed to talk or anything he could call me and i told him that i do care about him. and i have never felt like this about anyone before and that he is just different for some reason. so he sent me one back saying "what is going on with you? i will call you later this afternoon if that is ok."

yes i know i contradicted myself by telling him all of that.

what should i tell him???

i do care about him and he is a good friend...i really dont want anything more than sex right now...and i think what i told him led him to believe otherwise. and i know he cares about me...why else would he tell me that he is not with other women?? right?

 

i dont know what to do from here...what do you think he really wants?

am i overreacting?

help please...i feel like i am losing my mind lol

[amber1]

He did say that all he wants is sex, so I would treat it as so. It doesn't sound like he wants anything more.

[fray718]

I agree with amber....and honestly judging from his message I dont think he cares bout you all that much. Him not seeing other women means nothing. Not everyone has time to have multiple sex partners.

[jcster]

I think he's being honest with you about where his head is at. It sounds like he's depressed and stressed out and doesn't have the mental energy for a relationship right now. I wouldn't necessarily say that he's not interested in having a relationship with you later, since it sounds like it's more a question of where his life is at right now, rather than not being into you.

 

I think you should worry less about what all this means and hang out with him if you want to. Go slow and get to know that guy and things will develop naturally. I would drop the relationship (or lack thereof) talk for now.