robart22 Posted September 11, 2007 Posted September 11, 2007 Had a question for all... I've begun seeing a smart, funny and beautiful woman about 5 weeks ago. We began "hanging out" as hiking partners and found us romantically involved about 3 weeks ago. We were both dating other people and have assuming ceased doing so to pursue the potentials of our relationship. When we discussed this last weekend, she said she had discussed this with her "dates". Then later, said that there was no need to discuss this with them because there was really no involvement with them. And then, she later stated that she had talked to one of the two and said "she was dating someone new and had no time to hang out with him." At this point we are only seeing each other on the weekends and have minimal contact during the week. She behaves as if she is very into this relationship while we are together. She has even claimed of strong feelings toward me. All seems as normal expect for this... When we are together she never answers her phone, but rather lets it go to voicemail and then checks it periodically. When I do phone her I'll likely get her voicemail. Typically it is the next day when I hear back from her... Can anyone please shed some insight into my situation. I'm patient with her, but perplexed if I'm the one-of-many guys sharing her time. Many Thanks for your thoughts.
tanbark813 Posted September 11, 2007 Posted September 11, 2007 I think it's polite of her that she lets the calls go to voicemail when she's with you. You're probably one of a few. I wouldn't mention it if I were you unless you also bring up wanting to be exclusive with her. I don't really understand this: We were both dating other people and have assuming ceased doing so to pursue the potentials of our relationship. ...but it's best not to assume you're exclusive.
Cad Rake Posted September 11, 2007 Posted September 11, 2007 I've begun seeing a smart, funny and beautiful woman about 5 weeks ago. Any time a guy starts a post with the wonderful attributes of a woman in his life I know immediately that he's being suckered.
Mustang Sally Posted September 11, 2007 Posted September 11, 2007 Any time a guy starts a post with the wonderful attributes of a woman in his life I know immediately that he's being suckered. Touche' mon cherie! Surely you jest? Do I detect a touch of bitterness? (or hopefully just sarcasm...)
Trialbyfire Posted September 11, 2007 Posted September 11, 2007 Why not come right out and ask her for exclusivity? If she refuses, you know you're one of many.
Cad Rake Posted September 11, 2007 Posted September 11, 2007 Surely you jest? nope, don't think so. I've been reading internet dating boards for a DECADE, and every time I see a man say "I've been seeing a beautiful, smart, sexy, vivacious, loving, warm, etc etc etc woman.." it turns out that she's banging his brother and his father and sold his cat to the local vietnamese deli. I think it's the mentality -- a man who is the type to list off fabulous attributes of "his woman" is also the type to be suckered easily. Go figure.
Mustang Sally Posted September 11, 2007 Posted September 11, 2007 I think it's the mentality -- a man who is the type to list off fabulous attributes of "his woman" is also the type to be suckered easily. Go figure. Ah ha. Thank you for the clarification. I get what you are saying now. OP - I agree with TBF. If you've been seeing her quite a bit for 5 weeks, then I don't think it would be out of line to ask her for some clarification on how exclusive your relationship is, in her view. Just be upfront, but not a jerk about it, and see where that goes. Honesty is usually the best policy, no? And a hell of a lot better than trying to guess what someone else is thinking...
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