clynn Posted September 11, 2007 Posted September 11, 2007 My boyfriend and I are in love and very happy! We haven't talked about marriage with each other yet, or moving in together. But, we did just spend 5 solid weeks together on holidays in which we spent almost every moment together!! It was fabulous. We've been together about 2 years. I'm pretty much ready to be proposed to. I would also consider moving in with him if he were to ask me. Course I haven't broached either of these subjects. I'm a big fat chicken. Last weekend, after we finished our extended holidays together, he told me it felt weird not being together and that it was very lonely. I agreed. I'm ready to give him a little nudge to make sure he knows I'm ready and waiting in case he wants to ask. Okay, I could ask. But I"m a bit old fashioned and frankly would like to give him the opportunity to ask first. Advice? Comments? Suggestions?
amaysngrace Posted September 11, 2007 Posted September 11, 2007 I would just let it progress naturally. It seems you are on a good path with him and your relationship...why add pressure? Yes it'd be nice if he were to ask you to marry him but sometimes having a nonchalant attitude about it all is a healthy approach. Especially if things are going well as they are. I would try to block that thought for now if I were you. If it's going to happen it'll happen. And if you've decided to let him make that call then I would stick with that. That's that little voice speaking to you on how you wish things would go. Listen to it and let it play out the way you really want it to. It'll be better that way.
Lauriebell82 Posted September 12, 2007 Posted September 12, 2007 I'm in a similar situation, however my boyfriend and I have talked about marriage and living together. I agree not to pressure or give your bf any encouragement. My boyfriend brought up the whole living together situation and we talked about it a little bit. Then I bring it up and say "when we move in together next May" and he was still okay but then told me that it was a long way away and we didn't have to talk about it just yet. Like I was trying to pressure him or something by talking about it! Anyway, my point is that it seems like your relationship is progressing well. Have you guys talked about marriage in general? Does he want to get married, have kids, where does he want to live? Just things like that. You may get a better timeline of when he is going to be ready to do those things. But most importantly, let him do the committment type talking. If you mention that you'd like to get married soon or something he may feel pressured. Guys don't like that! It sounds like things are going great, just let it happen!
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