My_Other_I Posted September 11, 2007 Posted September 11, 2007 Hi all! It's been a while since I last posted but I've been reading many threads. It's so good to see that the great people are still here to help others! I was wondering if any of you have any suggestions on how to keep a relationship alive? My bf and I have been together for almost a year now. He's currently working out of state and will be for a long long time. I've been having doubts as in if it's even worth it trying to save the relationship since we've been having troubles but I've decided to give it another shot. OK, he doesn't like to talk on the phone, which makes it hard to keep connected. He's currently off line due to no connection at the place where he's staying. By the time he makes it back he will have been gone for longer than we would have been dated. Also, my heart is in two places right now. I promised him and myself that I will try my best to make it work before I give up and go elsewhere, so my question is how do you keep a somewhat new relationship alive while being separated?! Sometime it seems like I'm the only one doing the work while he talks the talk. I'm not worried about him cheating as much as us not being able to meet each others needs... I'm at my wits end... Thanks!
Saxis Posted September 11, 2007 Posted September 11, 2007 Hi all! OK, he doesn't like to talk on the phone, which makes it hard to keep connected. He's currently off line due to no connection at the place where he's staying. He's not even willing to pick up a phone for your relationship?? No free wireless cafes around where he could get access (guess he'd need a laptop then, too)? I absolutely detest talking on the phone too, but I'm willing to do it even for a person that I just met, and we talked for hours! Yeah, this sounds pretty one-sided. I don't believe you should have to ask or beg for attention in a relationship. Either they're interested, or they're not!
Author My_Other_I Posted September 11, 2007 Author Posted September 11, 2007 Thanks Saxis, that's what kinda crossed my mind, too. He talks his way out every time but I am getting really tired. I need romance, I need and want to feel desired and irreplaceable. He always says he loves me with all of his heart ... right before he says he has nothing to say and wants to get off the phone. I am going to see him this week and all he talks about is sex. My dilemma is...there is another guy. A lot older. We've been hanging out for few months now as friends and yes, I am pretty sure we are having an emotional affair. He offers what I am looking for - romance, wanting to spend time with me, laughs, fun stuff to do, talk, etc. My bf knows about it. I try to be as honest as I can with both of them. I am afraid I have already made up my mind...but aren't all beginnings exciting? Hm, I can't wait to see clearly again...
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