shadowplay Posted September 10, 2007 Posted September 10, 2007 So, I have a new boyfriend who I'm totally crazy about...the only thing is we're in a LDR and whenever we don't see each other for a week, I feel like we're strangers again. It's mostly that I get all awkward and nervous around him and have to reacquaint myself. He responds by getting nervous around me. Usually after a night or so together we're back to where we left off, but I hate how awkard things are at the beginning of our visits. What's the deal? Has anyone else gone through this? Like we don't even hug each other when we see each other or touch for an hour or so because I'm so damn nervous and act somewhat distant. Gah...
JackOfClubs Posted September 11, 2007 Posted September 11, 2007 I see my new GF only once or twice a week. Everytime we get back together I wonder, do I still look like the guy she wants to be with? But my anxiety is usually unfounded. We talk at least once a day so when we are back together, we're just continuing conversations we'd been doing every day. And when I do see her again, one look at her pretty face and knowing we might be apart again for a few days, I'm not gonna let the opportunity go by to hug and kiss. Nervousness takes a back seat to desire.
Izzy B Posted September 11, 2007 Posted September 11, 2007 Who does most of the calling? Who does most of the effort to get together? Who initiates most getting together with you two? Who does most of the driving or traveling to visit? He should be. If he's not, he's just not that into you and that is where the awkwardness is coming from.
Trialbyfire Posted September 11, 2007 Posted September 11, 2007 If you consider the average dating experience, you tend to chat during the week and then get together on the weekend. It sounds like your LDR is structured like this. I'm uncertain why there would be awkwardness, unless you're not chatting during the week.
birdie Posted September 11, 2007 Posted September 11, 2007 Who does most of the calling? Who does most of the effort to get together? Who initiates most getting together with you two? Who does most of the driving or traveling to visit? He should be. If he's not, he's just not that into you and that is where the awkwardness is coming from. you really have to stop reading that book
compassion42 Posted September 11, 2007 Posted September 11, 2007 I get this feeling sometimes too. I think it's just your personality and that you need a little time to get back in the groove after not seeing eachother. Don't worry though, I think it will eventually go away.
Saxis Posted September 11, 2007 Posted September 11, 2007 Who does most of the calling? Who does most of the effort to get together? Who initiates most getting together with you two? Who does most of the driving or traveling to visit? He should be. If he's not, he's just not that into you and that is where the awkwardness is coming from. WTF?? So much for equal partnerships.... I could see how it would be tempting to perform a little test to guage his interest, but if I caught any woman doing that, she'd get broomed fast! I have no patience for mind games! I'm kinda interested in this though. I may be entering somewhat of a LDR, and with schedules, not sure we'd have much time together. We have just been so comfortable with each other from the get-go though...
Izzy B Posted September 15, 2007 Posted September 15, 2007 WTF?? So much for equal partnerships.... I could see how it would be tempting to perform a little test to guage his interest, but if I caught any woman doing that, she'd get broomed fast! I have no patience for mind games! I'm kinda interested in this though. I may be entering somewhat of a LDR, and with schedules, not sure we'd have much time together. We have just been so comfortable with each other from the get-go though... It's not really a test, it's just that a man will "go for it" if he wants a woman. There is no sense of insecurity, he lets her know, there is no question of his love and devotion to the relationship. It's a great feeling to have that security as a woman, and it is given from a man who is truly in love with you and is really "In" it.
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