W is stalking me again??????

[Trialbyfire]

TBF,

 

Do you know for a fact that the BS will go away if BA ignores her?

I do not see where the BS really does have her interests in WS.

How do you know that "the last thing" BA wants to do is embroil herself?

What do you consider aggressive action that BA might take?

 

I wrote my response because your words were stating what other people are doing/thinking, not what you are thinking.

Or, perhaps you imagine that you control what other people feel and do.

Give it a rest bunset. Phrasing is meaningless, it's the intent that matters. If you feel threatened by text on your screen, step away from the computer...

[greengoddess]

Ahh .... you don't know what tax litigation is then. Its a whole other kind of law that takes place with in the IRS. You don't spend your time in an actual court room.

 

If you are going to try to call some one out on something you might want to make sure you know what you are talking about first.

 

 

So are you saying you work for the IRS and while you are "working" you are spending your days on here? Interesting. Very, very interesting.

[Lizzie60]

A lot of people post here from work.

 

I do... and it's no big deal... my work is done. It's not my fault if I work fast and work is slow so I have loooots of spare time.

 

In fact I have more time to post during the day than I have in the evening.. most of the time.

 

I'm sure most LSers post from work.

[greengoddess]

I bet your husband had great make up sex with his OW during their affair.

 

 

Another ow proud of her accomplishment of having sex with a mm. I just can not imagine bragging abou it.

[greengoddess]

A lot of people post here from work.

 

I do... and it's no big deal... my work is done. It's not my fault if I work fast and work is slow so I have loooots of spare time.

 

In fact I have more time to post during the day than I have in the evening.. most of the time.

 

I'm sure most LSers post from work.

 

Yes but I'm assuming my tax dollars are not paying your salary. I don't care who posts from work unless that wasted money is coming out of my pocket.

[Lizzie60]

Yes but I'm assuming my tax dollars are not paying your salary. I don't care who posts from work unless that wasted money is coming out of my pocket.

 

But it is... You'd be surprised to find out how much of your tax dollars are wasted for...

[underpants]

Wow,

 

Such extremely valuable information. If placed in an unsuspected supplier's hands.

[bunset]

So are you saying you work for the IRS and while you are "working" you are spending your days on here? Interesting. Very, very interesting.

gg, it doesn't look as if you read the posts correctly.

 

and your interest in that poster's career is probably irrelevant to the OP thread.

Do you have any advice or insight into why a WS would be driving by the OW house on more than one occasion after 4 months NC?

[bunset]

BurriedAlive[/b]]

I bet your husband had great make up sex with his OW during their affair.

Another ow proud of her accomplishment of having sex with a mm. I just can not imagine bragging abou it.

 

again gg,

 

I read BAs entire post and this phrase was meant as a dig at the poster that claimed that great make-up sex followed an argument with WS.

 

I don't see anything prideful or bragging about having sex w/a mm in BA's response.

 

I'm not proud of having sex w/a mm, even though the mm I have sex with is my H.

[bunset]

Wow,

 

Such extremely valuable information. If placed in an unsuspected supplier's hands.

 

Could you please explain what that means?

If there's some valuable information, maybe someone can benefit.

 

You refer to an unsuspected supplier. What kind of supplier?

[lovernotafighter]

I'm curious about that to bunset, someone supplying the goods on me around here huh? huh? huh??

[Impudent Oyster]

gg, it doesn't look as if you read the posts correctly.

 

Do you have any advice or insight into why a WS would be driving by the OW house on more than one occasion after 4 months NC?

 

Actually, GG HAS offered insight numerous times as to why a BS (not a WS as you wrote), would drive by the OW's house just 4 short months after d-day.

 

Perhaps if you read more and argued less you'd have been able to figure that out.

[greengoddess]

Actually, GG HAS offered insight numerous times as to why a BS (not a WS as you wrote), would drive by the OW's house just 4 short months after d-day.

 

Perhaps if you read more and argued less you'd have been able to figure that out.

 

They don't want to face they play any part in this and that the wife could be hitting the anger stage at 4 months and want to see who this woman is and where she lives. They like to think it is only between the husband and wife and they have nothing to do with it. Denial. It works for them. Keeps them free of guilt and able to keep up the charade and lies and sneaking around.

[Tomcat33]

They don't want to face they play any part in this and that the wife could be hitting the anger stage at 4 months and want to see who this woman is and where she lives. They like to think it is only between the husband and wife and they have nothing to do with it. Denial. It works for them. Keeps them free of guilt and able to keep up the charade and lies and sneaking around.

 

 

Hello the W hit her anger stage three months ago when she already confronted Burried Alive and she should have got any answers then. How much more does this BS need to know about the OW? Quit justtifying her psycho tendencies. Burried Alive already stated this in her first post, I guess you TOTALLY chose to tune that out:

 

MM & I have been in NC for more than 4 months after I met with his W about 3 weeks after D-day after she kept driving around my house & showing up at my work. Anyway, the last time I talked to her was more than 3 months ago when she told me her therapist didn't want her talking to me - that she had to stop feeling the need to get her answers from me when they should be coming from her husband

 

This woman has already spoken to BA, she has confronted her and has even shown up at her work. HELLO PSYCHO!! her own therapist told her to get the answers from her husband not the OW and she persists driving around her house.

Face it the BS in this case is obsessing. She's going koo-koo!!!

This nutty nut is out circling the city looking for her straying H, talk about not accepting what's infront of her. Yes you married a cheater, get your sorry butt home and stop circling the city looking for him.

 

Sooooo who's in denial? :laugh:

[Impudent Oyster]

Blah, blah, blah...the wife is a psycho...blah, blah, blah...she drove by OW's house..blah, blah, blah...she MUST be crazy..blah, blah, blah....call the police..blah, blah, blah.

 

Yes, do call the police, excellent advice. Tell them the woman whose husband of 20 years that you've been f#cking behind her back has had the absolute gall to phone you and (gasp) drive by your home on a public street. I'm sure that her behavior will no doubt shock these officers of the law! Why it's absolutely unheard of to behave in such a bizarre manner after having your world come crashing down around you. She dared to speak to you, to get answers? She drove her car past your house? Unbelievable!

 

Then wait for them to go after her, subdue her and lock her up, but don't hold your breath.

[Impudent Oyster]

T They like to think it is only between the husband and wife and they have nothing to do with it. Denial. .

 

I know, it's truly amazing, isn't it? They screw married men then get indignant when, god forbid, the wife dares to ask them a question, or is curious about what their husband might have seen in them...

 

If you don't want to be bothered with an upset wife, stick with single guys, but don't choose married men then whine about their wives.

[greengoddess]

hmmmm let's see is it possible that THIS is why she is driving by?

 

I am not really going away quietly. I have hired a lawyer and we are fighting for wrongful dismissal and sexual harassment. This town is so small. I can't get a job here. If I wanted to stay here, I would have to travel 1 hour each way to a new job. In the 4 weeks between D-day and when I was fired, I received anonymous harassing emails about being a whore and was shuned very badly at work. Even today when I meet my coworkers on the street, they won't even wave. It's not very pretty but in 6 months everything will be fine again.

[Impudent Oyster]

hmmmm let's see is it possible that THIS is why she is driving by?

 

I am not really going away quietly.

 

Good call Green Goddess...I think we now know who is stalking whom.

 

I'm curious, I wonder who she is filing the sexual harassment charge against? The MM? So the affair was not consensual? She was a victim?

 

If she's filing against the MM, then for sure she's going to be investigated by the defense.

[greengoddess]

This is the type of situation that makes all women look bad not just other women and really misuses our legal system and hurts any woman that was sexually harrassed for real. Could you imagine having the gall to sue for sexual harrassment when you are willingly sleeping with your boss in a family company when you know he has been married for 20 years.

 

Ruins it for women really in this situation. All these women happily sleep around and then try to sue when things don't stay in fantasyland.

[RealityCheck]

Blah, blah, blah...the wife is a psycho...blah, blah, blah...she drove by OW's house..blah, blah, blah...she MUST be crazy..blah, blah, blah....call the police..blah, blah, blah.

 

Yes, do call the police, excellent advice. Tell them the woman whose husband of 20 years that you've been f#cking behind her back has had the absolute gall to phone you and (gasp) drive by your home on a public street. I'm sure that her behavior will no doubt shock these officers of the law! Why it's absolutely unheard of to behave in such a bizarre manner after having your world come crashing down around you. She dared to speak to you, to get answers? She drove her car past your house? Unbelievable!

 

Then wait for them to go after her, subdue her and lock her up, but don't hold your breath.

 

 

Are you kidding me! LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

 

Police officers are the biggest infidelity offenders.

 

Get a grip on reality!

[Impudent Oyster]

Since this is getting much more enlightening, I thought this detail from BA's older post would shed some light

 

"Well, D-day came and went and she sort of stalked me for a few weeks. And as you all know, I sent her an email appologizing to her which made her call me."

 

So it was BA who contacted the wife first. Interesting.

 

I also read that that BA said xMM claimed he was happy in his marriage, never said he would leave and never told BA that he loved her. I suspect that BA is very angry about this, and hurt, and I don't blame her, but he didn't lead her on or make any promises. She knew he was happily married from day one. I suspect that it's easier to blame the wife than oneself.

[greengoddess]

Since this is getting much more enlightening, I thought this detail from BA's older post would shed some light

 

"Well, D-day came and went and she sort of stalked me for a few weeks. And as you all know, I sent her an email appologizing to her which made her call me."

 

So it was BA who contacted the wife first. Interesting.

 

I also read that that BA said xMM claimed he was happy in his marriage, never said he would leave and never told BA that he loved her. I suspect that BA is very angry about this, and hurt, and I don't blame her, but he didn't lead her on or make any promises. She knew he was happily married from day one. I suspect that it's easier to blame the wife than oneself.

 

 

LOL she even asked her mm what has happened to his sex life since being with her. Apparently this pig of a man told her it improved his sex life with his wife and that wife and him have sex at least twice a week.

 

What a pig. What would ever make you stay with a man like this? Think how different things would be today if you dumped this pig when he told you that. No dday, happy job, name not tarnished, no fear of wife etc etc.

[Tomcat33]

hmmmm let's see is it possible that THIS is why she is driving by?

 

I am not really going away quietly. I have hired a lawyer and we are fighting for wrongful dismissal and sexual harassment. This town is so small. I can't get a job here. If I wanted to stay here, I would have to travel 1 hour each way to a new job. In the 4 weeks between D-day and when I was fired, I received anonymous harassing emails about being a whore and was shuned very badly at work. Even today when I meet my coworkers on the street, they won't even wave. It's not very pretty but in 6 months everything will be fine again.

 

 

What the hell does the wrongfull dismissal suit have to do with the nutty nut driving around her house looking for her H? NOTHING.

 

Excuse it as you will....the BS is going koo-koo.

 

"Well, D-day came and went and she sort of stalked me for a few weeks. And as you all know, I sent her an email appologizing to her which made her call me."

 

So it was BA who contacted the wife first. Interesting.

 

 

Yes it was the BA who made contact first, by STALKING BA. BA contacted her to see what the heck she wanted. Most would have done the same thing. It's civil, it's expected it's what anyone in their right mind woud do if they were being stalked. That's how normal human beings deal with difficult situations. This woman won't even listen to her therapist telling her to stay away. She needs to get a grip, and you need to stop blaming BA for this woman's erratic behaviour.

[stillafool]

While I don't believe in cheating, I must say after the W has already seen, talked to and had questions answered from the OW it is time to leave her out of it and leave her alone. I suspect her h is now cheating with someone else and she is driving past your house to see if it's you. Well at this point she really needs to pack her stuff (or his) and leave.

[Tomcat33]

While I don't believe in cheating, I must say after the W has already seen, talked to and had questions answered from the OW it is time to leave her out of it and leave her alone. I suspect her h is now cheating with someone else and she is driving past your house to see if it's you. Well at this point she really needs to pack her stuff (or his) and leave.

 

 

Agreed. She is only harming herself. 4 months post D-day is no excuse, she has already contacted the OW when it happened she needs to let it go, or let the cheater go.