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Impudent Oyster Established Member

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And to all that say it is only been 4 months post D-day, well the four months will easily turn into a year into two and 5. These women teach themselves to not trust to have to police everything their husbands do, they are bored with their lives not hurt because they were cheated on.

 

They confise time fillers....they need a job, not the cheater in their lives.

 

Well it IS only 4 months! That's nothing in a 10, 15 or 20 year relationship. She needs a job? Maybe her job is mother and wife, and that job and her very life as a wife and mom is in jeapordy. She's in self-preservation mode. It's only been 4 months? I missed that. The wounds are still fresh, give her a break.

 

I'm sure that in 2 years she won't give this OW a second thought.

Impudent Oyster Established Member

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Wouldn't you blow a miniscule amount of money for a little lesson in life.

 

If I intended to divorce my husband I would do the very same thing. My friend's divorce cost 90K, but boy was it worth it. He wanted to play and he certainly did pay. Living well is the best revenge.

 

I'm sure TBF can go to Hawaii anytime she likes.

Impudent Oyster Established Member

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Yeah I can see that, you blew 5K on a guy who told you your H was INDEED A cheater.

 

Umm, 5 figures is at least 10K. That's 5 digits to the left of the decimal place, or anywhere from 10K-99K. Oye.

Impudent Oyster Established Member

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Keep in mind that not everyone is willing to break their vows based on suspecting that the husband is cheating. Some need hard proof by hiring PIs/getting photographs or seeing it with their own eyes.

 

That's how I felt. I take my vows seriously.

 

I agree. I would absolutely hire a PI to confirm an affair, and it would make a difference in the divorce settlement.

 

In fact, I would also hire a PI to confirm that the affair is over. It's worth the peace of mind, and maybe this BW can't afford it, her husband was out somewhere this past weekend just 4 months after d-day and she was easing her mind by confirming that he WASN'T at ex OW's.

 

Driving by the OW's house is an easy and free way for the BS to relax. Maybe she was able to go home and enjoy the rest of her weekend feeling reassured that her H was truthful as to his whereabouts.

greengoddess Established Member

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Losing me was enough of a punishment for my H. I didn't need to lower myself to going after revenge. He was no longer worth my time or my energy.

 

Am I the only BS that truly doesn't care about the OWs? I genuinely don't care who my H slept with. I didn't know them. They didn't know me. They owed me nothing. My H was the person that betrayed me. Am I the only BS that gets this?

 

I refuse to sit here and beat up on these women. They don't deserve it. If anything I can relate to them. We've all been in love with cheaters.

 

 

See you NEED to believe this though. It is the only way for you to justify your own behavior being with a married man. You feel guilt, know you are wrong but have convinced yourself it has nothing to do with you.

Tomcat33 Established Member

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See you NEED to believe this though. It is the only way for you to justify your own behavior being with a married man. You feel guilt, know you are wrong but have convinced yourself it has nothing to do with you.

 

 

Ahhh no, some of us just don't feel guilty NOR responsible at ALL for the BSs problems. That's the Hs responibility. Sorry you can't make us feel something we just don't. I can only speak for me, but I don't feel what you want me to feel. Too bad...

 

LMAO Tomcat. You were really hurt weren't you and you totally blame his wife for staying?

 

Is it not insane to be in a relationship where you can only phone at certain times, can't communicate on weekends or evenings, most of your love is thru text and email, being an adult and having sex in cars and parks and office buildings, not being seen in public, can't sleep in his arms every night, not being able to brag about your boyfriend to your friends, not being able to bring him home to mom and dad, not being able to go to his house or meet the biggest part of his life his children? That my dear is insanity.:laugh:

 

Being emotional at the near end or end of a marriage and all it entails is not insane.

 

Lying cheating and sneaking around instead of being honest to your wife and ow are insane. An ow actually believing the mm is insane.

 

YOU want the wife to give YOU back your sanity by leaving because you know he would never do it. Do you want a man by default?

 

 

 

First of all I want NOTHING from my ex's BS, and I do mean NOTHING. I already had her H he left her to be with me, we did it my way it didn't work out between us and now she took him back and has to pick up the peices of what HER HUSBAND DID TO HER. What more could I want> he didn't keep up his side of the deal so that's that. Now it's their mess they can stew in it.

 

Second of all I no longer need my ex in any shape way or form. You see I don't need a man to define me. Everything in my life is going very well right now and I have started dating someone. But the x is under the impression there is still hope for us and keeps emialing me in hopes that I will wait for him :lmao: And his W is waiting for him to love her. It's quite sad actually but heck she did beg him to come back that's what you get when a you beg a guy to stay with you...

 

Third of all a woman who spends her time driving around town looking for her husband is PATHETIC.

greengoddess Established Member

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Ahhh no, some of us just don't feel guilty NOR responsible at ALL for the BSs problems. That's the Hs responibility. Sorry you can't make us feel something we just don't. I can only speak for me, but I don't feel what you want me to feel. Too bad...

 

 

 

 

 

First of all I want NOTHING from my ex's BS, and I do mean NOTHING. I already had her H he left her to be with me, we did it my way it didn't work out between us and now she took him back and has to pick up the peices of what HER HUSBAND DID TO HER. What more could I want> he didn't keep up his side of the deal so that's that. Now it's their mess they can stew in it.

 

Second of all I no longer need my ex in any shape way or form. You see I don't need a man to define me. Everything in my life is going very well right now and I have started dating someone. But the x is under the impression there is still hope for us and keeps emialing me in hopes that I will wait for him :lmao: And his W is waiting for him to love her. It's quite sad actually but heck she did beg him to come back that's what you get when a you beg a guy to stay with you...

 

Third of all a woman who spends her time driving around town looking for her husband is PATHETIC.

 

You sound very bitter and angry for someone who professes to be so happy. You especially sound angry with wives.

 

It says a lot about you and your emotional upbringing that you would feel no guilt for sneaking around and helping to deceive someone. I don't understand noy feeling any guilt for being knowingly involved in a triangle like this. You must be very cold hearted to feel nothing for your hand in the betrayal. I guess you need to close your heart for protection after being hurt so bad.

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Next time the wife is driving around & around, just flag her down & ask:

"Are you lost or are you looking for someone or something"?

Maybe she'll stop.

Impudent Oyster Established Member

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If it bothers you to have your boyfriend's wife drive-by your home, maybe you ought not sleep with men who have wives.

 

Problem solved.

Tomcat33 Established Member

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You sound very bitter and angry for someone who professes to be so happy. You especially sound angry with wives.

 

It says a lot about you and your emotional upbringing that you would feel no guilt for sneaking around and helping to deceive someone. I don't understand noy feeling any guilt for being knowingly involved in a triangle like this. You must be very cold hearted to feel nothing for your hand in the betrayal. I guess you need to close your heart for protection after being hurt so bad.

 

 

It says SQUAT about me. Your comments scream that you see what you want to see. And there is nothing I could say to change that NOR do I care to do so, because you and your opinion of mean absoultey NOTHING to me.

 

I don't feel any guilt at ALL. and NEVER will. I had my pain I had to deal with at the time and that was price enough to pay. My life has moved on and I am a better person for what I have lived. I have new horizons in sight and that's a hell of a lot more than I can say for that poor couple.

I am enjoying life and all that it has to offer, you just wanna hear that I am stuck in some misery pit paying for the "pain I caused" , my life is not like that at all. I date, I travel, I have an amazing career I love that offers me a lot of financial freedom and most importantly I am the keeper of my OWN destiny, emotional health something you totaly lose when you waste you life wiping the a$$ off of a cheating baby like a lot of BSs do.

I have the opotunity of starting a clean slate every single day of my life. a BS and a cheater don't have a clean slate, they hope to coast at best and I think it bothers you that though you see the OW as the culprit in the misery of the BS, that she the OW come out fine in the end.

 

The BS could come out fine to but she doesn't have the BALLS to take on life on her own. And the pitty party starts at the 4mth mark and it continues for years on end.

 

 

I think it bothers you to see that a lot of the OW come out just fine in the end and the BSs just end up losing their marbles for a man that is just not worth it.

greengoddess Established Member

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It says SQUAT about me. Your comments scream that you see what you want to see. And there is nothing I could say to change that NOR do I care to do so, because you and your opinion of mean absoultey NOTHING to me.

 

I don't feel any guilt at ALL. and NEVER will. I had my pain I had to deal with at the time and that was price enough to pay. My life has moved on and I am a better person for what I have lived. I have new horizons in sight and that's a hell of a lot more than I can say for that poor couple.

I am enjoying life and all that it has to offer, you just wanna hear that I am stuck in some misery pit paying for the "pain I caused" , my life is not like that at all. I date, I travel, I have an amazing career I love that offers me a lot of financial freedom and most importantly I am the keeper of my OWN destiny, emotional health something you totaly lose when you waste you life wiping the a$$ off of a cheating baby like a lot of BSs do.

I have the opotunity of starting a clean slate every single day of my life. a BS and a cheater don't have a clean slate, they hope to coast at best and I think it bothers you that though you see the OW as the culprit in the misery of the BS, that she the OW come out fine in the end.

 

The BS could come out fine to but she doesn't have the BALLS to take on life on her own. And the pitty party starts at the 4mth mark and it continues for years on end.

 

 

I think it bothers you to see that a lot of the OW come out just fine in the end and the BSs just end up losing their marbles for a man that is just not worth it.

 

 

Oh my you are angry. Guess I struck a nerve.:laugh:

Impudent Oyster Established Member

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Oh my you are angry. Guess I struck a nerve.:laugh:

 

Wow. You can say that again. Someone doth protest a little too much!

Tomcat33 Established Member

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Oh my you are angry. Guess I struck a nerve.:laugh:

 

It's no coincidence you would see my comment as angry.... you become delusional when you spend your life trying to catch a cheater.

 

 

This is precisely why BSs should not stay with their cheating Hs you lose your marbles.

Impudent Oyster Established Member

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It's no coincidence you would see my comment as angry.... you become delusional when you spend your life trying to catch a cheater.

 

 

This is precisely why BSs should not stay with their cheating Hs you lose your marbles.

 

Exaggerate much? Driving by the OW's house a few times just 4 months after d-say is NOT "spending her life trying to catch a cheater" nor is it a sign of the wife "losing her marbles".

 

Don't be so dramatic, it really weakens your argument.

Tomcat33 Established Member

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Exaggerate much? Driving by the OW's house a few times just 4 months after d-say is NOT "spending her life trying to catch a cheater" nor is it a sign of the wife "losing her marbles".

 

Don't be so dramatic, it really weakens your argument.

 

 

This is just the begining of the REST of her life. and the best part is she will keep catching him and still stay with him LOL

 

it becomes a hobbie.

greengoddess Established Member

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It's no coincidence you would see my comment as angry.... you become delusional when you spend your life trying to catch a cheater.

 

 

This is precisely why BSs should not stay with their cheating Hs you lose your marbles.

 

 

Um dear, I'm not trying to catch a cheater.

 

I also find that amusing. OW seem to think anyone that has a problem with their behavior are a BS. It's so ironic though. If they think only bs's would find fault in sneaking around with a cheater than why is it they don't tell everyone in their lives about their true love?

 

I hope you can find some happiness and recover from this. It must have been so difficult when he actually moved in with you. You must have been so happy. Funny though. DDay happened and he went back to his wife.

Bless your heart.;)

annabelle75 Established Member

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See you NEED to believe this though. It is the only way for you to justify your own behavior being with a married man. You feel guilt, know you are wrong but have convinced yourself it has nothing to do with you.

 

 

:lmao::lmao::lmao: I love it when some tries to invalidaet what I say as a BS by accusing me of having an A with a MM!

 

Learn to read.

greengoddess Established Member

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:lmao::lmao::lmao: I love it when some tries to invalidaet what I say as a BS by accusing me of having an A with a MM!

 

Learn to read.

 

I read your posts. Just because you were once a bs it does not excuse you from being an ow.

annabelle75 Established Member

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I read your posts. Just because you were once a bs it does not excuse you from being an ow.

 

I wasn't an OW (knowlingly). When I found out the man was married I ended it. If you've really read my posts you would know that. Don't pretend you know my story when you don't.

 

As a BS I have written how I really feel. Sorry if it offedns you that I don't feel the need to attack the OWs. Sorry I'm not bitter. :shrugs:

Impudent Oyster Established Member

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What's a "hobbie"?

 

You're projecting, this BW drove by the OW's house a few times just 4 months after d-day...BFD, SO WHAT?

 

You might want to tell OW who check the BW's myspace pages, etc. a year after d-day or more that they shouldn't make that a hobby. Talk about stalking...

Impudent Oyster Established Member

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Don't bother Annabelle, it's quite clear who the bitter ones are. Who spends their lives lurking around an OW/OM advice forum to catch a glimpse of a post in order to hurl insults and hate? I'll tell you who, someone who has nothing better to do in their life. Someone who is angry and lonely. There is something really incredibly unstable and sad about that picture. OW who come here can offer insight to other OP but the BSs that spend their lives on here are just filling the void their Hs refuse to fill and so they make OW pay the price for what they can't get at home.

 

Now that is funny. I'm just online planning a terrific family vacation to a Diving resort/jungle lodge in Belize, this site is very entertaining in between my trip planning though!

CAT100 Established Member

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And; Yes! I agree! Any person that is content in their marriage would have no reason lurking around an OW Forum! Hell! I'd rather be skin to skin with my H than becoming obsessed with any Forum for that matter!

 

Yes I have to say I find it rather strange that people who are not the OW & have never been the OW think that coming on the OW section & bashing OW is a constructive use of their time!!

(This is not addressed at any particualr individual; it is just something that I have noticed..)

I just dont get it AT ALL! :rolleyes:

greengoddess Established Member

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It's actually like watching an episode of jerry springer. Pure entertainment.

greengoddess Established Member

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LOL let's review post counts perday.

 

Realitycheck 1.95

Impundentoyster 1.82

greengoddess 1.0

 

um and tomcat 6.45 which moost are small novels.

 

 

The stats speak for themselves.

greengoddess Established Member

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I certainly hope there is no math or the ability to prove a point involved in your "career".

 

Lets see,

IO 210 days /393 posts = 1.8 posts/day

TC 240 days/1493 posts = 6.2 posts/day

RC 150 days/979 posts = 6.5 posts/day

 

and I don't even have a job.

 

You still want to keep up the inredibly lame charade that I'm here 24/7?

 

Don't quit your day job or ever try to be a trial lawyer. You would fail miserably.

 

LOL i just did that but looked in their profiles for the counts.

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