W is stalking me again??????

[BurriedAlive]

I was wondering if maybe someone can tell me what the heck this means.... MM & I have been in NC for more than 4 months after I met with his W about 3 weeks after D-day after she kept driving around my house & showing up at my work. Anyway, the last time I talked to her was more than 3 months ago when she told me her therapist didn't want her talking to me - that she had to stop feeling the need to get her answers from me when they should be coming from her husband (because he is SUCH an honest guy!). Since then I have only seen her around town a few times when we both don't acknowledge each other. I haven't seen her around my house all summer.

 

Anyway, the past weekend, I have seen her 3 times in 24 hours circling my house (I live on a corner). I haven't been looking for her either so I wonder how many times I have just not seen her... WTF is this that all about???? Why after all this time is she back?

[whichwayisup]

Ignore it unless she actually approaches you. If she does try to talk to you, ignore it and walk away. If she harasses you, then call the police.

 

Don't try to figure out why she is circling your house. For all you know it could be a coincidence. (Though I doubt it due to the time frame, 3 times in 24 hours is alot to be in your neighbourhood.)

[Impudent Oyster]

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Anyway, the past weekend, I have seen her 3 times in 24 hours circling my house (I live on a corner). I haven't been looking for her either so I wonder how many times I have just not seen her... WTF is this that all about???? Why after all this time is she back?

 

She's obviously looking for her husband. He must be missing.

[Curmudgeon]

WTF is this that all about???? Why after all this time is she back?

 

She's been horribly hurt and betrayed. She's also likely stopped counseling and all the negative emotions have come flooding back. Either that or the piece of dreck she's married to has done something else and she's on the warpath. Stay alert and keep your distance.

 

The moral to the story is, don't fish in someone else's pond!

[Trialbyfire]

More than likely, she's checking to see if her husband is cheating again, which he might be, but maybe not with you.

[Tomcat33]

I don't blame you for being concerned.

 

I think it means trouble in paradise, either they are not talking and she is afraid he is coming to see you or, she is sniffing around to ask you more questions. either way trouble in paradise FOR SURE.

 

That's the story for the the BSs who stay with their cheating spouses, it never ends. Some people are just masochists I suppose....

[Tomcat33]

She's obviously looking for her husband. He must be missing.

 

 

:lmao: Keeping a straying husband is like looking after a stray dog, he grew up on the streets so he will always creave it! :laugh:

[Trialbyfire]

I don't blame you for being concerned.

 

I think it means trouble in paradise, either they are not talking and she is afraid he is coming to see you or, she is sniffing around to ask you more questions. either way trouble in paradise FOR SURE.

 

That's the story for the the BSs who stay with their cheating spouses, it never ends. Some people are just masochists I suppose....

Nah, more like a lesson to be learned when playing with fire. Expect to get burnt.

[Tomcat33]

Nah, more like a lesson to be learned when playing with fire. Expect to get burnt.

 

 

Exactly, the BS should leave her H rather than waste her precious time on patrol duty around the OW's house. Someone needs to get a life and it looks like Burried Alive already has, so you do the math!

[RealityCheck]

Nah, more like a lesson to be learned when playing with fire. Expect to get burnt.

 

Anyone who stalks is dousing themselves with gasoline! That's just nuts!

Nuts in the head!

[Tomcat33]

Anyone who stalks is dousing themselves with gasoline! That's just nuts!

Nuts in the head!

 

 

Totally nuts!!! The poor woman is losing her marbles and instead of getting her life together and doing something right for her she is letting herself get consumed in this insanity...so sad! But as I said some people are just masochists.

[RealityCheck]

Totally nuts!!! The poor woman is losing her marbles and instead of getting her life together and doing something right for her she is letting herself get consumed in this insanity...so sad! But as I said some people are just masochists.

 

Hmmm....gives a whole new perspective on a H straying doesn't it now!

[Trialbyfire]

Exactly, the BS should leave her H rather than waste her precious time on patrol duty around the OW's house. Someone needs to get a life and it looks like Burried Alive already has, so you do the math!

 

Anyone who stalks is dousing themselves with gasoline! That's just nuts!

Nuts in the head!

As usual ladies, we disagree. I set a PI on the exes OW, while getting things prepped for the big D. It was worth it.

 

Maybe the betrayed spouse is doing this on her own.

 

Once again, if you play with MM, expect the wife join the party...

[RealityCheck]

As usual ladies, we disagree. I set a PI on the exes OW, while getting things prepped for the big D. It was worth it.

 

Maybe the betrayed spouse is doing this on her own.

 

Once again, if you play with MM, expect the wife join the party...

 

TBF, yes you are correct we do not agree.

 

I completely 100% believe stalking is of a sick, twisted mind.

 

Hiring an investigator is completely different than "stalking". It is a hired service. Huge difference. That I have no problem with whatsoever!

[Trialbyfire]

TBF, yes you are correct we do not agree.

 

I completely 100% believe stalking is of a sick, twisted mind.

 

Hiring an investigator is completely different than "stalking". It is a hired service. Huge difference. That I have no problem with whatsoever!

Why should people spend money if they are willing to do it themselves? I have no problems with this.

[simplegirl]

Sounds to me like she is suspicious that he is cheating again and is trying to catch him. I was BS in my M and once we decided to work it out I didn't want anything to do with her at all, let alone 3 months later. I did go a few months with my "checks" in place though just to make sure he was being honest.

[RealityCheck]

Why should people spend money if they are willing to do it themselves? I have no problems with this.

 

Well for one thing, monetary value should mean nothing when someone wants the facts. Hire the help!

 

It is sick to stalk! It is an obsession!

[Trialbyfire]

Well for one thing, monetary value should mean nothing when someone wants the facts. Hire the help!

 

It is sick to stalk! It is an obsession!

And what if she doesn't have the funds to do so? Not everyone has the liquidity to do so.

 

I doubt she's stalking. More checking up than stalking.

[RealityCheck]

And what if she doesn't have the funds to do so? Not everyone has the liquidity to do so.

 

I doubt she's stalking. More checking up than stalking.

 

TBF..I am sure there would be funds to hire the help.

 

I will say, if someone was lurking around my property, following me, calling me etc..I would slap a stalking order on that person so fast it would make their head spin!

 

I don't know where you live, but where I live, we have "zero" tolerance for stalking in any form!

[Trialbyfire]

TBF..I am sure there would be funds to hire the help.

 

I will say, if someone was lurking around my property, following me, calling me etc..I would slap a stalking order on that person so fast it would make their head spin!

 

I don't know where you live, but where I live, we have "zero" tolerance for stalking in any form!

I spent 5 figures on a PI. This isn't standard disposable income for most people...

 

Ummm...she hasn't called, entered private property or threatened her. Public streets can be used by anyone.

[Tomcat33]

TBF..I am sure there would be funds to hire the help.

 

I will say, if someone was lurking around my property, following me, calling me etc..I would slap a stalking order on that person so fast it would make their head spin!

 

I don't know where you live, but where I live, we have "zero" tolerance for stalking in any form!

 

 

EXACTLY! 'Fine she wants to become obsessed with her H and follow him around the whole city, fine, she obviously has nothing better to do with her life than stay with a man whom she has to obsess over. BUT lurking around the OW's house is 100% MENTAL AND considered stalking.

 

TBF if you don't see what's wrong with that picture...I dunnow....

 

At least get in a car and wear a one of those glasses, nose and moustache guises to be incognito...what a burn to be seem doing that!

[RealityCheck]

I spent 5 figures on a PI. This isn't standard disposable income for most people...

 

Ummm...she hasn't called, entered private property or threatened her. Public streets can be used by anyone.

 

5 Figures huh? Wow! No pun intended but did you shop around because I know of some PI's that come alot cheaper.

 

I have to say, if I had good reason to believe that my H was having an A, you can bet your boots that he would be paying for the PI HIMSELF! I would find a way to take whatever I could from his stinking paycheck!

 

Also the OP has claimed that the W came to her work and other things that certainly matches our stalking criteria where I live. Yes, a compiled list of events does warrent stalking. From what I read of the OP's post, she has every reason to believe she is being stalked and she definately should shut this down!

[Tomcat33]

I spent 5 figures on a PI. This isn't standard disposable income for most people...

 

Ummm...she hasn't called, entered private property or threatened her. Public streets can be used by anyone.

 

 

Geees you spent 5K to find out what you already knew, that your H was a cheater? I'll say not everyone has that kind of diposable income...I'd have taken a trip to Hawaii instead. What a waste of money!

Was this before or after D-day?

[Trialbyfire]

EXACTLY! 'Fine she wants to become obsessed with her H and follow him around the whole city, fine, she obviously has nothing better to do with her life than stay with a man whom she has to obsess over. BUT lurking around the OW's house is 100% MENTAL AND considered stalking.

 

TBF if you don't see what's wrong with that picture...I dunnow....

 

At least get in a car and wear a one of those glasses, nose and moustache guises to be incognito...what a burn to be seem doing that!

It's probably because as an OW, you find the behaviour threatening. Since I don't date or have relationships with MM, it doesn't bother me. If someone wants to check to see if I'm seeing her husband, she's more than welcome to do so because I have nothing to hide. I might even invite her in for something to drink, in case she gets thirsty sitting outside.

[Tomcat33]

 

Ummm...she hasn't called, entered private property or threatened her. Public streets can be used by anyone.

 

 

Thats true, I have to agree with that it can be considered annoying but she isn't breaking any rules.

 

On the flip side there was a post in the Infidelity forum not too long ago and BS was complianing that she had a tracking device on her Myspcae account and could see the the ex OW checks out her page frequently. All the BSs went BERZERK telling her to confront her and that the OW was psycho and that she had every right to feel violated and that the OW was ""stalking" her etc., you should remeber that thread TBF pretty sure you posted in it....The best part is the only reason the BS knew her profile was being looked at was because SHE had a tracking device to monitor the OW it had been years POST break-up. Pftttlolololol

Someone had even said ""if she feels stalked she IS being stalked" ooook pass the joint then...

 

I'm sorry but some of the posts here jus totally crack me up!