polywog Posted September 10, 2007 Posted September 10, 2007 Hi LSers, It's been quite a while since I posted. Partly because I have been busy with work and the craziness of summer here in a resort town, but partly because... thanks to loads of help from you all, and my "in person" friends, I have Moved On with my life.... but the best of all, is that despite losing so much last January (loss of LTR and home, etc.) I found my happiness again, and even better, am In Love, yes, already, with an amazing man, who is in love with Me. And it is not a rebound. It's the real thing, and better than anything I have ever experienced before. It has both come as a surprise, and feels so right at the same time. I'm such a veteran of the love wars, as is he, and I am not young so I know what I am talking about here. The point I'd like to make is that after all the awful crap I went through I did a lot of hard work to heal myself and love myself. I got involved with my art career again in a big way, spent loads of quality time with other like minded people who were healthy and smart, and ended up becoming stronger and happier than I'd been in years, by myself. This made those shattered dreams into a shadow. I began to spend a lot of time out in the world, and it payed off. One day I ran into a guy I had known vaguely and liked for years, because I was out and about (like I did not do in a while in the broken relationship), and we connected... and now, because of that, I have met someone I'd even dare to call a soulmate. He "gets" everything about me, as I do about him, and is manly and wonderful and not afraid to communicate about anything. He's been through his share of relationship/marriage hell and was in the same place as me. He is also gorgeous and funny and brilliant, and a dear friend. We never get tired of talking and sharing ideas and thoughts, and are kind to each other. We'll see where it goes... I am optimistic, very much so. My point is, especially for all of you who are going through the devastation I went through (anyone can read my threads to get the sad story), is that if you can have faith in yourself and the world, and be kind to yourself and get happy again, and eventually get out there, amazing things can happen. I feel like the living proof right now. Other LSers were kind enough to tell their stories about things getting better, and now it's my turn. It happens! It ain't easy, and it takes some time and compassion for yourself, but if it can happen to me, with the crap I have been through, it can happen to anyone. Anyways, maybe I'll start a "poop thread" to celebrate, or an "If you were a..." thread just to get myself back into the LS universe.
Trialbyfire Posted September 10, 2007 Posted September 10, 2007 Missed you, poly. That's fantastic to hear and yes, there is life afterwards and it only gets better. Congrats on your new man. He sounds like a keeper.
underpants Posted September 10, 2007 Posted September 10, 2007 Awe Poly, You have been missed. I am so happy for you. Also, thanks for posting such an uplifting and hopeful message to others. You deserve all the happiness you can get.
Author polywog Posted September 10, 2007 Author Posted September 10, 2007 I've missed you all, too.... so nice to get a quick reply to my perky happy message! There's a whole story behind this guy.... he's someone I had a secret crush on for years (but he was married at the time, and I was always either married or involved), and I ran into him on the street I used to live on while thinking about him for no reason, two days before my ex broke up with me... after not seeing him around town for over two years. Very freaky. He'd moved out of town to be with this woman he loved. Turns out this girlfriend had just dumped him, and that's why he was in town. Then my love broke up with Me two days later! Kind of a weird and cosmic coincidence. In any case, our cosmic meeting stuck in his head, so he called out to me on the street while in town visiting his famiy this summer, and the rest is history, so far. He's the real deal for me. In every possible way. And he lets me know that I am for him. God help me.
tinke Posted September 10, 2007 Posted September 10, 2007 thank you sharing your experience. it is hopeful to know...there is life after. i was going to ask where/how you met him, funny huh...the way things happen! great, uplifting story to start the day..thanks. best wishes................enjoy!
sunnysideup1 Posted September 10, 2007 Posted September 10, 2007 Thanks so much for sharing your experience! You make me feel better about my ex already. He's really someone I need to get out of my life...very abusive. But, I'm having major withdrawals. Polywog, I'm also into art and your thread has inspired me to maybe get involved in my art again. I enjoy simple sketches but I've always wanted to learn different styles and eventually perhaps paint. I know it's been said that after a break up, one should always be involved in a project, so that's what I feel like I ought to do. I also have a question for you. I'm new to my area and I don't know a lot of people here. Do you have any suggestions as to what I could do to meet more people? I'm really shy and work a lot. I don't really like the people that I work with (I have reason to, I'm generally not that picky). I don't know what I can do to meet more people and being so lonesome makes me even more depressed. Most of my really close friends live at least 3 hours away and I won't be able to visit them often because I work every weekend and during the week I go to school. I don't know very many people at the school I go to because I just started taking classes there. I'm older than most people there so I feel as if I don't fit in. Ay, I'm not trying to make this thread about me at all, but I feel like you would have some helpful advice for people that are really trying to move on with their lives but maybe don't have as much ability to get out there. Thanks!
sunnysideup1 Posted September 10, 2007 Posted September 10, 2007 Oh ya, I also wanted to ask if it got better before you met this other guy or did it take meeting the other guy to make it better? I hope that's not the case, cause I don't want to date anyone right now. My abusive ex calls me all the time but now that I'm on NC I don't respond. I hope it won't take meeting someone else to get over this!
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted September 11, 2007 Posted September 11, 2007 'ello Poly!! Welcome back to the la-la land of LoveShack. So good to see you back! And glad to see your mojo is back at optimum level...although you're being quite shy about it right now.
frd150 Posted September 11, 2007 Posted September 11, 2007 Hey Poly, Missed you and your posts. Im so happy to see that your happy, you deserve it. Ive had alot of introspection over the last few months that has caused me to make some changes. Im healthier and happier. No one new for me yet but these things come when you least expect it. Right? She said I would never change Ha,well, poo on that. I have and this was the kick in the butt that I needed. All the best to you Poly! He sounds like a great guy. FRD
Grace112 Posted September 12, 2007 Posted September 12, 2007 Thanks for posting a positive story. It gives me hope.
dropdeadlegs Posted September 12, 2007 Posted September 12, 2007 I missed this post initially, but I was just thinking about you a day or two ago and knew that something fabulous had to be happening in your life. You had been MIA for too long. SOOOOO happy to know you are doing so well and have found such happiness. It's Art's signature all over again! (I really love that line! ) Enjoy your new world, you deserve it all so much!
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