allieapplesauce Posted September 10, 2007 Posted September 10, 2007 OK, so first off, im not really a big dater. its just not the right time. nor do i have much time. secondly, i wont date anyone whom i work with; it just seems too awkward to me, plus i havent had any serious relationships, so i'd rather just not put that into a working environment. thirdly, i just dont really get out much, some people make it seem so easy jumping from one guy to the next and they barely talk to me. so there's this kid at work. not the most mature. only 2 yrs older than me, but divorced. dont really see him as a divorced person, but he is. he's one of those very few that actually talks to me or comes to visit. (from the next aisle (cubical) over) so he'll ask us when we're hanging out, not just me but a couple other girls too. just as a big friends thing. lately tho he's started to singling me out slightly. went out with him the other week with 2 other ppl from my team. was a fun time. he asked for my and my friends number the other day. ok thats normal. no big deal. keeps texting me now too-ok no big deal either. cool. kept asking what i was doing tmr (as i am off) and i said "i might be going to ...." and he said something at one point "when we hanging out?" and i said something like "why you planning a big party so we can all figure out what our team mascot is?" (for work) and then later he said again "if you dont go to ......you should come hang out with me." i would like to have some guy friends, and i dont have to date them, i would rather not right now. but i dont want to hang out and give the wrong impression. but once i meet up with him it's out there. now maybe he just wants to hang out for same reasons i do but how do i know? i dont want to say anything stupid as we have to see each other every day...or well 3x a week. my friend yesterday said he was asking about me. then asked her if she was going to hang out. but when i asked her what he said about me, she said he just asked if i was shy. which is what i get all the time. me and my friend are kinda the same as in the whole dating/work thing. so...i dont mind just being friends, but dont know if i should hang out tmr. any ideas or thoughts?
peace_pipe Posted September 10, 2007 Posted September 10, 2007 I personally run, run away from any girl who approaches me with "Let's be friends.". It's a bunch of hogwash and you're lying to yourself. As for dating people at work - many, many people do it. If you won't date a guy from work, then you probably won't date one you meet in a bar or many other places either. What options are you giving yourself? Perhaps the man of your dreams will just fall into your lap. If you want a friend go find yourself a good female friend. Leave this guy alone.
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