niceguy27 Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 Just a thought. Would you ever ask your ex to do this? Use it as a last resort? I'm just thinking about it. I dont think I could bring myself to bring it up to her as that entails some type of heavy decision making?
lonelybuthappy Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 Just a thought. Would you ever ask your ex to do this? Use it as a last resort? I'm just thinking about it. I dont think I could bring myself to bring it up to her as that entails some type of heavy decision making? Hi there. Yes, it was my last resort on the day of our break up. But nothing. She only got mad after my suggestion. She already made her decision. But if you mean to ask that after breaking-up period, no chance. This must be NC time (till the day she will beg you on her knees to come back).
Tony T Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 Just a thought. Would you ever ask your ex to do this? Use it as a last resort? I'm just thinking about it. I dont think I could bring myself to bring it up to her as that entails some type of heavy decision making? I guess nobody's told you...an ex is an ex. That means IT'S OVER! Now, deciding to seek counseling before the person becomes an ex is a different story. But it looks pretty silly to approach someone you're no longer seeing to see a counselor, with or without you. It's just silly. The timing is just way, way off.
curiousnycgirl Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 I did it one week after I called it quits to our relationship. I spent that week crying my eyes out, and a friend suggested I just call him - I said why bother, what's changed. Then I realized the only thing I had not tried was suggesting counseling. So I gave him a call. I did not expect him to agree, and did not even say it was the only way I would consider going back (it was, but didn't want it to be an ultimatum) - he agreed very readily. I have to say our relationship has just been getting better and better since he started therapy. If you stalker button me you can see that there have been some deep issues, that he has, all along. Therapy has really helped break through some of these, and more open communication (with continued therapy) is helping us work through the others.
lonely_blue Posted September 9, 2007 Posted September 9, 2007 I suggested this to my ex, before we broke up, but her mind was already made. i took on board what she said, and spent several weeks searching deep inside me and finding my mistakes which im now aware of. I guess if you can start when you can see the warnings signs or you both still love each other it can help and work,, but sadly i have to agree i think you are out of time, and have to let them go.
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