catina-b Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 I have been going out with this guy for six months. At the beginning we both were not ready for a relationship, but if it move beyond frienisdship at a later time thats cool. To my knowledge we both were not dating anyone else. After this time I know my feelings are starting to develop into more than friends. We talk to each other almost everyday regardless to where we are (work,vacationing,etc.) He share with me what is going on in his life as I share my stories. The problem is I made the mistake of losing my cool a few times when he was unavailable and accused him oe being with other women. I reacted out of frustration because he never express his feelings for me. When I ask he says he doesn't wear his heart on his sleeve and he will tell me when the time is right. He says Im his only friend and that I looked out for him when no one else did and that outweigh the things I have done. If that is true why does he bring up what I did from time to time? I ordered a CD that was for him (he was paying me for it) and called to tell him I can mail it to him. He got upset and asked me why was I acting that way. He then said just because he was not ready for a relationship doesn't mean he want things to change between us. After talking about the issue for a while he said we were still cool. What does that mean? Do you think he view me differently and emotionally backed away? When I said it was my fault to assume he felt the same as I did, he replied I don't know how he feel. He has not called me, but answer when I call. Doe he have feelings for me he isn't expressing or is he backing away? Should I give him space even though he said he didn't say that? I'm confused, how does he feel and what do he want? Please advise, I need some insight!!!
Mezzi Posted September 9, 2007 Posted September 9, 2007 I think you should just be cool and continue to act normal. He seems to like you so just take it from there and dont bother to accuse him of being with other women unless you are absolutely sure.
Krytellan Posted September 9, 2007 Posted September 9, 2007 I said this on another thread and will repeat it, as it might be relevant here. When I say I'm not ready for a serious relationship, it's because I'm waiting for something else better to come along. He doesn't want to be any closer to you emotionally because he wants to be able to bail whenever something comes... maybe that is. Are you two having sex? If so, of course he wants things to be the same... sex without the commitment. It's heaven.
Author catina-b Posted September 9, 2007 Author Posted September 9, 2007 Yes we are having sex, but not on a regular. We go out and he pays and I do sometimes too. He is a good guy and Im sure he has women who are very much interested in him. If it was for sex he could be with them if he asked and leave me out of it. when I said about backing off he was at work and walked off the line and talked to me for 20 minutes to try and understand why. (He should have already knew the answer to that) If he has many or another option he should pursue the. Im a good woman that probably have not met the right man yet to appreciate it. If he wanted to gas my head up he could've led me to believe he was ready and played all kind of games. Do you think he is interested, but doesn't want to jump into a relationship since he just came out of a long term one? Could it be fear that this would be a repeat of what he went through? Could it be the fear of making a committment? One more question. Why get involved with someone for that lengh of time if you are not interested?
Krytellan Posted September 9, 2007 Posted September 9, 2007 He's not wanting anything serious and he's having sex with you. I'll let you decide what that means to him.
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