poorlittlefish Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 I really don't understand the guy I'm seeing. Everyone keeps telling me he's a loser but I like him so much! He's got the most amazing eyes and we get on really well! Basically he gets this big smile on his face when he sees me, he told me when I asked why he was smiling that he had a hard-on from looking at me, so I take took that as a compliment. However, in terms of directly saying he likes something about me he doesn't say a single thing! I've said that it would be nice if he complimented me every now and again, he says he guesses he's not that kind of person. A couple of weeks back we were looking at each other, I said he was gorgeous and there was a big silence. I said, "It's OK, you don't have to say anything back" but inside I felt totally ugly and humiliated. He's keen enough to have sex with me but has never said he likes my body and when we're walking down the street he never holds my hand etc unless I ask him to. Oh, and my male friends text me and compliment me more than he does! I'm tall, slim and toned so I know my body can't be the worst he's seen. We've had some "deep 'n' meaningful" conversations and he's been honest enough to tell me he's been a bad lad in the past and that "monogamy hasn't exactly been his favourite word." Last week I called him and he told me he was in a pub with his ex and her friend but he didn't think anything of telling me this because nothing was going on. Yet when I wanted to go to the pub a couple of days ago he wanted to have a drink at home, so this makes me feel like I'm not worth the effort when an ex is. On the one hand he seems a very confident guy, but in other ways he seems very bashful and I really don't know how to take it. When you're in the initial stages of a relationship I know a lot of it is all about sex, but shouldn't this mean the guy tries to impress you and make you feel good about yourself?! I'm English, he's Canadian and he's 10 years younger than me but at the same time he's not a kid so maybe I shouldn't be putting up with this? I don't think he has any actual feelings for me, but after 4 dates/nights together what sort of feelings would he have?
sb129 Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 Don't pin all your hopes on this guy. If he isn't showering you with compliments now, its not going to get any better in the future! shouldn't this mean the guy tries to impress you and make you feel good about yourself? YES!!! Even some of the biggest players give women compliments on the first couple of dates! It sounds like he (please don't take offense) is in it for the sex only. You are worth more than that.
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