marlena Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 A woman is not a woman if she hasn't been dumped, broken-hearted, abused, cheated... Then, I'm 10000% woman just like you RP! I mean it too. Show me a woman who has felt every emotion known to the human psyche and I'll show you a REAL in - depth woman! I would not trade in my wrinkles for the smoothest face in the world (not that I have all that many ). Every single wrinkle has a poignant story to tell! or pain comes from too much insight and introspection (Pushkin said that all misery arises from too much brains). I am inclined to go along with Pushkin!!! Ignorance is a state of not knowing, of non- awareness and involuntary obliteration. The recipient of an emotional painful experience does not have the cognitive power to internalize or analyze the feeling of pain. More than likely, he is not even aware that he is in pain. The saying "Ignorance is bliss" has become an axiom for a good reason. My relationships with them and my parents are the only serious relationships I have in life. Same here, RP! Hope you are coping as best you can. Marlena
Timberlane Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 Oh and of course alot of women over 30 hit there sexual peak, I know I have been on heat for the last 4yrs... We should discuss this further. got any cigarettes?
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 We should discuss this further. got any cigarettes? Unfortunately yes I have, duty free's!!!
isntitironic Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 OK please expand on Fried Green Tomatoes. And are you saying that 30 and above women can not have a monogomas relationship because they are at there sexual peak? How the hell am I ever gonna find a wife these days? Are we in the midst of another sexual revolution? Are we not supposed to be worrying about diseases anymore? was that all propoganda? Condoms don't protect against warts and herpes. I'm not sure I want to be taking famvir for the rest of my life. And once again why do these so called independent women advertise themselves as a swet mongomos angel during the courting process. Then I find out they are seeing other guys. Am I supposed to be a mind reader in figure out she wants to be a fwb. And when I react to finding out they are seeing other guys they say I'm being controlling. sweeet!
bigheartkindsoul Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 These kids today. The saying is "Never trust anyone over 30." Trust me, I know. Best saying I think is "Never trust anyone" Thats why I want Wonder Womans Lasso of truth, oh boy could I make good use of that and it also would double as a noose should I wish to strangle and kill any fck wits who dare to hurt me!!
isntitironic Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 yikes! I wouldn't want to get on your bad side
RecordProducer Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 I would not trade in my wrinkles for the smoothest face in the world (not that I have all that many ). Every single wrinkle has a poignant story to tell! Me either. I take pride in the pain I've felt as an adult, but not as a child. Ignorance is a state of not knowing, of non- awareness and involuntary obliteration. The recipient of an emotional painful experience does not have the cognitive power to internalize or analyze the feeling of pain. More than likely, he is not even aware that he is in pain. The saying "Ignorance is bliss" has become an axiom for a good reason.So well said! Think of emotional vs. unemotional people as mammals vs. reptiles. Reptiles are incapable of suffering or any emotions whatsoever. They are very capable predators though (businessmen in humans! ) and certyainly know how to reproduce and survive for billions of years. But who needs an aligator as a pet? My husband is the typical aligator: strong and mighty, but just a cold-blooded, unreasonable, insensitive animal. Hope you are coping as best you can. This is the best I can. My goal is to persuade myself of all the good sides of the break-up and the bad sides of the relationship and be over him by the time we split.
marlena Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 Me either. I take pride in the pain I've felt as an adult, but not as a child. Of course. As children we are not equipped to deal with pain. This is the best I can. My goal is to persuade myself of all the good sides of the break-up and the bad sides of the relationship and be over him by the time we split. Are you sure, RP, that this what you really want?
RecordProducer Posted November 7, 2007 Posted November 7, 2007 Are you sure, RP, that this what you really want? What do you mean? Do I really have a choice? HE wants the divorce. I can only look for whatever tools I can find to help me cope with it. I've tried everything I could and nothing worked. I don't know if he loves me or not, but he definitely doesn't want me. This marriage has been too painful for me anyway: no sex, no understanding, no closeness, no affection; a lot of crap from his family, rubbing in my face the fact that he supports me financially, not listening to me when I want to discuss problems, refusing to go to marriage counseling cuz "it's worthless," etc. I might have been the worst wife in the whole world, but I know I gave him my love and I screamed and drank because he broke my heart a thousand times. In my life, in my skin, I am me. I am not this marriage and this is how I feel. I can't see myself happy with him ever unless he would change, but he can't change. He cares about his twin brother too much and his brother wants me out, so HE wants me out too. I really don't need a husband like that. I really, really, really think I deserve better, no matter how much the divorce will hurt me and how it will affect my future. I was never really happy in this marriage. Three weeks after I arrived to the US he started talking about divorce and stopped having sex with me. He told his cyber-GF that his GF (me - his wife) moved in with him. He didn't tell her that he got married, but he told me that he told her. He continued to call her on the phone while lying to me that he didn't. This was in the very first month of our marriage. It took 3 weeks to make him ditch her. The sad thing is she never meant anything to him. The sadder thing is: I didn't either if he could hide our marriage from her under the excuse that she had an important exam. The exam was over and after a week he had still not told her that he was MARRIED. His brother abused me mentally, verbally, and emotionally; yet he told me "You insulted me many times and I never did anything wrong to you." My husband told me I was paranoid when I told him that they all wanted to kick me out. This practice of making a fool out of me has been unbearable; when you have to prove that the wall is white and they tell you it's black, you go crazy, you do stupid things, you start questioning your own sanity and at the same time, you feel enormous hatred due to the injustice - hatred that's killing you slowly. He is in very bad terms with his twin brother and finally realized that he is an ass hole. He also doesn't speak to his second brother. The whole family has one or two or more people that they don't talk to. Yet, husband told me that I have a history of not getting along with people - and he even listed the step-father who molested me! I DO NOT have a history of not getting along with people. I have a history of difficulty in establishing and maintaining friendships, but I've NEVER fought with anyone, especially not family members. Later he said he didn't say that about the step-father, but I know what he said and it was just to irritate me, to use any evidence against me, to hurt me... Urgh... enough! :mad:
Mary3 Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 I am MUCH happier when I am alone than when I am with someone I don't particularly like. When I was younger, I would stay in relationships no matter how unhappy they were, but now I have totally grown into myself, like myself, and don't have the energy to deal with anyone who doesn't make me happy. So, I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes, even when I want a relationship I think "ughh I have to give up my alone time??!" but when it's really right, you won't even be thinking about that. Wow, my exact thoughts ! I guess we have grown some .........
Mary3 Posted November 8, 2007 Posted November 8, 2007 Record Producer " How did you meet your husband ? Was it from on-line ?
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