Can you be TOO comfortable being alone???

September 9, 2007

Being single here is defined as not dating anyone.

Also, some people don't have "more than enough friends" and some don't have family.

Okay, didn't see it defined as such. To me being single is not being in a relationship, which is where I stand.

As for variable situations, I can only communicate mine.

September 10, 2007

I've been used to being single for a long time. I have my family and friends, and I used to have a stronger focus on either academics or work but in recent years I've began to feel that I am alone even though I am contented with life. It's like that special someone who should be by my side is missing.

In general though I don't mind doing things alone like going to the movies, travel abroad and such. It's also fun to do it with friends, but I tend to be the planner/leader of these activities and it's sometimes annoying and tiresome to listen to everyone's demands and even get complains. That's when I just screw it and do things on my own.

I don't like to be always with someone unless it's really that special girl. People who are afraid of doing things alone, I just think they are insecure and/or desperate for company.

September 10, 2007

I've been used to being single for a long time. I have my family and friends, and I used to have a stronger focus on either academics or work but in recent years I've began to feel that I am alone even though I am contented with life. It's like that special someone who should be by my side is missing.

In general though I don't mind doing things alone like going to the movies, travel abroad and such. It's also fun to do it with friends, but I tend to be the planner/leader of these activities and it's sometimes annoying and tiresome to listen to everyone's demands and even get complains. That's when I just screw it and do things on my own.
I don't like to be always with someone unless it's really that special girl. People who are afraid of doing things alone, I just think they are insecure and/or desperate for company.

Wow, that part is totally me. If I waited around for someone to like all the concerts and all the travel that I do then I would wait until the dinosaurs roamed the earth again , lol !

November 4, 2007

I feel the same way. I have only has a few short term casual dating relationships and nothing serious has come about them. I am almost too embarrassed to tell anyone because I am older.

November 4, 2007

The way I see it, a relationship should be reserved for those women I actually think are worth spending time with. I don't see it as something one has to have in life, since being single is better than being in a relationship you're not fully comfortable with. Plus, if you're in a relationship with someone you're not truly crazy about, you might miss that one person who you WOULD be crazy about as she passes you by while you're in this unfulfilling relationship.

Plus, not constantly looking to others for validation builds self-confidence and inner strength, which are great qualities to have; no one wants someone who's too clingy and is always trying to please his/her significant other without thinking about themselves first. Being single (and not worrying about it) builds strength of character, which itself is a valuable quality to bring to relationships when you do decide to take the plunge.

November 4, 2007

My best friend has been single for over ten years now. I doubt he has been on more than a few dates during that time, two I set him up with through friends and a girlfriend's friend. I think getting together as a couple is one of those things that probably you feel you have to do during the, ahem, breeding years.

After that, your biological drives start to lessen and many people don't feel this internal need to go meet someone of the opposite sex. So if you ride out that, it becomes more and more elective. If you elect not to date or only date someone you could enjoy the company of for itself, then I think that's a really good option.

I still feel the need to meet someone and indeed find myself happier in that situation. So I continue to work towards that. But I'm getting pickier now and might end up in the single boat longer than I thought. So be it. I like my free time and enjoy not having to compromise it. If I find the right person, then I'll rearrange things.

November 5, 2007

I also enjoy being alone until I meet someone who knocks my socks off. Being alone has its advantages: no one demanding your time. No one arguing with you and taking everything you say the wrong way.

November 5, 2007