Author JNLVegas Posted September 23, 2007 Author Posted September 23, 2007 I am thankful for the encourgement I have received from you all. The pain is very bad. His brother did confirm their very bad reltionship, he said his advice to him was to retire and get a divorce. Those two things were the ones killing him and making him unhappy. He has been married 16 years he did not tell me all 16 were bad but that they have had more than their share of problems. He was just waiting for the kids not to be so young. Leaving his family would make him a failure in his eyes. But since the high blood pressure thing I think he finally realized enough is enough.
passionateconfusion Posted September 23, 2007 Posted September 23, 2007 For some reason I feel a strong connection to you. I read through some of these posts and find that some who respond are very negative and really do write from their own frustration and that may not be the best advice to give somebody who is hurting. Each one of us is as unique as the situations we go through. I don't offer you any advice on what to do in your situation as only YOU know what is going on, only YOU know the dynamics, only YOU know him. What I can offer you is this: Pain is good. Pain = growth. Embrace the pain and it will make you stronger. Don't let is scare you and don't avoid it. Crying is good - it is a sign of healing. You aren't given more than you can deal with. Just take one day at a time. I think you are right when you say ' I am not trying to end it with him, just dont want him or his kids to blame me if we are seeing each other while he is going through his divorce.' I think you are right in letting him work this out on his own, I think the last thing you would want is to feel like a 'factor' in this decision. Let him work it out on his own and then there is no way he could blame you for interferring or pushing him.
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