Author justice Posted September 8, 2007 Author Posted September 8, 2007 Yea I agree with cobra....why do you assume they are already wanting to be exclusive? Do they ask you straight out or do you just interpret it that way? I think until they ask you, you should just enjoy it and be treat them as friends. Don't worry about it until they ask you hahah. The irony ofcourse is that I cant seem to find a guy who wants to commit to me! Gosh, can we switch problems? hahah Yes, they do. They start making plans for "our" future and we haven't even made it into serious dating yet!! Heck yes, you can have my problem, but I don't want anymore, so you can have yours too. LOL
Herzen Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 Yes, they do. They start making plans for "our" future and we haven't even made it into serious dating yet!! Heck yes, you can have my problem, but I don't want anymore, so you can have yours too. LOL My middle aged female friends tell me similar stories about the dating scene. They complain that middle aged guys are either Players or they bring a U-Haul on the second date. I understand the Player "teflon" sensibility better than the "3 dates and to the altar" mind set. Honestly, I have no idea what those "velcro" guys are all about. My best guess: They don't like being alone.
Author justice Posted September 8, 2007 Author Posted September 8, 2007 My middle aged female friends tell me similar stories about the dating scene. They complain that middle aged guys are either Players or they bring a U-Haul on the second date. I understand the Player "teflon" sensibility better than the "3 dates and to the altar" mind set. Honestly, I have no idea what those "velcro" guys are all about. My best guess: They don't like being alone. "Velcro" guys. Good terminology. I know some women are the same, except I think they are called "clinging vines." The uhaul analogy is very on target. I have owned my own home now for almost a year, I just got it fixed up the way I want it, I'm happy, sure, I'd like to have some companionship from time to time, someone to do things with but not on that serious of a level, why would I want to mess things up when I'm not ready? I'm not and never have been a possessive person. Being alone is not the worst thing in the world that could happen to a person. It doesn't frighten me at all. I just wonder what happened to independance?
VIP Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 That's why you would have a better luck if you cleared out that question before the first date. This way you would not waste your and their time, avoided disappointment and met only those people, who are on the same page with you.
woodsfield Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 ....I collect vintage f-body cars for a hobby. so how the hell did you become single??? what moron screwed it up with you???
Author justice Posted September 8, 2007 Author Posted September 8, 2007 My former h cheated on me. I kept catching him in lie after lie. It was truly the end for me even though I tried very hard to forgive, I just couldn't get over the trust issues I had. If I can't trust, I'm not doing it. It isn't worth it. Found out in the past several months that he had cheated on me not once, but several times with diff ow's. Glad I am out of that vicious circle now.
Author justice Posted September 9, 2007 Author Posted September 9, 2007 That's why you would have a better luck if you cleared out that question before the first date. This way you would not waste your and their time, avoided disappointment and met only those people, who are on the same page with you. I do clear it before ever accepting the date.
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