someone2 Posted September 7, 2007 Posted September 7, 2007 I know the title looks like a joke, but this is a serious question (Although I'd like to see the kind of jokes that could come out of it). Basically the situation is... I am dating this girl, we are in the make-out zone now. I really need to break up or slow down. Problem is, I need to do it in a way that will make it come from her. This is really important to me. Today, I tried being the really horny guy who just constantly wants sex. She still handled that pretty well. Didn't seem she cared, she just said no. Guys and gals, what are the things that could put off a girl (or at least make her slow down)? Joke answers are welcome, but I am really hoping for some good answers along the way Thanks a lot
Guest Posted September 7, 2007 Posted September 7, 2007 Here's a novel concept. Try TELLING HER you want to slow things down.
StaringContest Posted September 7, 2007 Posted September 7, 2007 How about growing up, growing a pair and just flat out telling her.
directx Posted September 7, 2007 Posted September 7, 2007 How about growing up, growing a pair and just flat out telling her. Yeah. But thats no fun! How about buying a diamond ring, but never giviing it to her. What you do is leave the receipt around so she can find it. She'll be waiting...and waiting...and waiting... FInally, she'll conclude you bought it for someone else
oppath Posted September 7, 2007 Posted September 7, 2007 There is no break it off or slow it down. If you want to break up, you break up. If you really like her but it is a bit much too soon, you slow it down. And the best way to do that is to say "I'm going to be busy doing xyz the next few weeks (and you do have to be busy doing those things) but I'll be free Thursday this week, we should get together then." You take charge by being less available, but you still make time to see her. You plan it in advance so she knows she is important. Easy.If you want to break it off, don't be a vag about it. Just say "I like you but I'm just not feeling it, and I don't want to string you along though I do enjoy hanging out with you." Reasons for breakups are best if they are along the lines of "I don't feel we are right for each other" because although that sounds impersonal, 95% of the time it is honest. And it is pretty easy to get over too, because I can't hate a girl if she doesn't like me in that way, though I can if she manipulated me or lied to me or strung me on or acted distant so I would dump her.
norajane Posted September 7, 2007 Posted September 7, 2007 I need to do it in a way that will make it come from her. This is really important to me. Why? Why is it so important? What you are suggesting - forcing her to break up with you by treating her like crap or being annoying or whatever - is called being passive aggressive. It's destined to make her hate you - you will not end up looking like the good guy; you'll be the guy she tells all her girlfriend's about how much of a jerk you turned out to be.
Art_Critic Posted September 7, 2007 Posted September 7, 2007 Ask her best friend out .. or her sister... Problem solved... Just talk with her about where the relationship is going.. tell her how you are feeling and go from there.. don't play any games that would make her break up with you when you are really the one that wants to break up.. be a man
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