Micki58 Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 Hi, I'm new here and new to dating after over 10 years, before there was email, lol! What I'm wondering is is it okay to email my crush if he didn't exactly give me his email? I sort of "found" it. Looking forward to getting to know everyone!
Lyssa Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 Welcome to LS, Micki! Ooh I wouldn't know about that. Personally, I would freak out if someone I do not emailed me. But then, it depends on how your email looks like. If you're going to sound like a stalker... I suggest no emailing!! So is this crush a colleague? An old schoolmate? What's the story? It would help if you told us more about your crush and situation.
Author Micki58 Posted September 6, 2007 Author Posted September 6, 2007 Hi lyssa! Thanks for your response. I don't want to say too much, it's a unique situation. He knows who I am, we've known each other for over 10 years now but don't see each other that often. It wouldn't be an anonymous type email, it would be like, "hi how are you" and he can respond if he wants. I figure it's less forward than calling.
Lyssa Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 Ahh.. if that is the case, then why the heck not! Just email him a friendly email and see how things go from there! Good luck!!
directx Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 I dunno. I don't think I would do this. Maybe if you can tell us how you found the victim's email, you can make it a little less of a surprise. Like, if he was posting on a garden site, you can say 'Hey, I was checking out my garden and found you. Is it you?' blah blah blah
directx Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 not only that, but you may not get a response because you will likely be lost in his junk mail. (Junk mail is also a good excuse when you don't want to respond to someone...)
Lyssa Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 Oh yeah, where did you get his email? Directx - LOL
Author Micki58 Posted September 6, 2007 Author Posted September 6, 2007 That's what I'm afraid of. I was a bit stalkerish in finding his email. I found it on an organization's website he belongs to. I really have no reason to go to that website, other than to find out information about him, lol!
directx Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 Whats the organization? Is it something creepy? It's not something a normal person would have no interest in?
Author Micki58 Posted September 6, 2007 Author Posted September 6, 2007 No, nothing creepy, it's for his profession. Again, nothing creepy, quite legal and very admirable.
directx Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 Ok, so he doesn't organize dog fighting. What is it? We don't need specifics, but we may be able to help. We are veterans here
directx Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 What is his specialty? If its testicles or prostates, it might make it harder
Author Micki58 Posted September 6, 2007 Author Posted September 6, 2007 You're funny! It's Optometry.
directx Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 Ok! Easy! Say you had an issue with your eyes or you thought you might have cateracts or whatever and you did a google search and 'viola!' His name came up! This is the excuse Lyssa gave when she was searching for 'the perfect man' and found me! (at least that's the rumor)
sfsassy Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 Hi, I'm new here and new to dating after over 10 years, before there was email, lol! What I'm wondering is is it okay to email my crush if he didn't exactly give me his email? I sort of "found" it. Looking forward to getting to know everyone! I don't know. I can see the point of not wanting to stalk someone, of course! However. I met the guy I may or may not be dating, (more on that in another post, lol!) through work. We work in the same field, but different types of work. I got his work email address through the organization's website. I made it clear that if he wasn't interested in getting to know me better, that would be cool. He didn't seem at all put off by it. As long as you don't have any expectations, I think it is an ok way to contact someone. If he hadn't responded, I would have let it go. In fact a couple of weeks ago I emailed someone I used to date years and years ago, just to see how he was. He is on a listserve I am on. (No romantic intentions there, just purely friendship)He hasn't responded, and I'm not going to pursue it. I can see the argument against it too, but if it's on a public website, than I don't think it is too big of deal. but do, do keep it light and only write him once unless he writes you back.
Author Micki58 Posted September 7, 2007 Author Posted September 7, 2007 Thanks everyone! I'll think this over and let you know how it goes!
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