evie613 Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 Any advice would be great I have been dating someone for just about a year now. We've both said the "I love you's" and I truly believe that he does love me and I truly love him. He has never been married and has no children. I on the other hand have been separated for quite some time ($ being the reason for no divorce yet) and have two children. Neither of these have been a problem for him. We started seeing each other last September and everything was going well. We have a lot of fun together and got very attached quickly. Lately we have not been getting along and have a had quite a few huge fights where I, each time, became very dramatic and irrational. Our personalities are very different - I am overly emotional and sensitive and he is the disciplined military type. During the arguments I am the one who is doing the yelling and screaming and stomping and he is just looking at me like I am a psycho. After our most recent fight, last Saturday, we did not speak for two days. Late Monday he sent me an email that read - "Hey, I am taking a break for a bit. Need time alone to think. Just want to feel less stressed. Thanks for understanding." I did not respond to the email and have not contacted him even to acknowledge his wishes. I know it's only a few days but it driving me nuts. I have been reading these posts for support and agree with the whole concept of NC. I guess what I want to know is based on other's experience is he being a coward and this is how he is breaking up with me or does he just need some time to himself? Should I have responded to his email to let him know that I do understand or was it right of me to let it be? I think if I knew it was really over it would help me to move on quicker. Any advice?
Curious139 Posted September 7, 2007 Posted September 7, 2007 Hmmmm..... I think I'd have replied saying you understood and that you both need some space. Not replying could mean from his perspective that you don't care. NC is really for situations where one person has left the other and there is no doubt. Here for you, there is doubt so letting him know how you feel is reasonable. However I suggest you don't plead or make wild promises - you need to preserve your dignity in case it really is over. Best of luck.
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