Reactor Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 My story is here (for anyone thats interested) - http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t125967/ Anyway, it happened a while back, and as per usual I'm sucking at getting over her. I think its more the last phone conversation I had with her that was the killer, she said: 'My ex,ex-bf stopped me moving on with you and my relationship before you, you should just forget about me!' However when she broke up with me she she said she'd have 'No regrets'. I don't know why, but this still confuses me to this day! What the hell should I do? I mean its been a while now and shes probably forgotten about me. But should I get in contact and wish her well? Should I send her a e-mail wishing best of luck at Uni? I just don't know! Thanks! Reactor
IpAncA Posted September 7, 2007 Posted September 7, 2007 No you should maintain no contact with her. Do not contact her in any shape/form. I'm sorry what happend but she's not relationship material and she obviously lets her EX influence her decisions with other relationships. Personally any EX of her's shouldn't even be in the picture. I'm actually glad your not with her because now you can find someone who doesn't keep their EX's around and let them interfer with further relationships. So I'm sorry this happend to you but that's a mess you don't want to be in. 'My ex,ex-bf stopped me moving on with you and my relationship before you, you should just forget about me!' Point blank...EX was jealous and he did whatever he could to break you up with her like he did the other ones. And she's stupid enough to believe whatever BS crap he said. Sad actually. This is similar to what I went thru. He ended up beliveing whatever BS lies that were told. Except we went straight to silent treatment. I got nothing and the ones who knew what happend on their end wouldn't and still to this day won't tell me. So you can imagine how clueless I was about it.
Curious139 Posted September 7, 2007 Posted September 7, 2007 I'd take the "no regrets" as a compliment. It means your relationship with her worked and was happy from her point of view. For some reason she reached a stage where it wasn't working for her anymore. That is awful for you and I understand the heartache and uncertaintly you are going though. Honestly, there are no easy or good answers to why someone leaves us. It happens for myriad reasons and may be nothing to do with anything you have done. She sounds mixed up. I'd advise not emailing her. You've already done so and received no reply so sadly that is enough. You will only string yourself out looking for a reply and even if you do get one it may just refresh all of your pain. Keep strong.
Author Reactor Posted September 7, 2007 Author Posted September 7, 2007 Thanks peeps. You're right, I know what your saying. I think it was even more painful because she said to me as well: "If only I'd listened to you from the start I wouldn't be in this mess, I've blocked my ex, ex-bf out of my life now, like you advised me to do when we first started seeing one another. I think you should do the same to me, thats if you really are trying to get over me." I am still thinking "WTF?!" and I guess I also feel used, like I gave her that enlightenment and she used me and dumped me and then decided I was right so now when she moves on she can do so with a clear conscience! Bah! Sucky situation indeed, I've lost over 4 months of my life to this crap already! Anyway, thanks for your kind words people!
IpAncA Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 Thanks peeps. You're right, I know what your saying. I think it was even more painful because she said to me as well: "If only I'd listened to you from the start I wouldn't be in this mess, I've blocked my ex, ex-bf out of my life now, like you advised me to do when we first started seeing one another. I think you should do the same to me, thats if you really are trying to get over me." She never did do what you asked because you mentioned that she said something about her ex stopping her from being with you and a previous relationship. I personally think she's going to do whatever it takes for her to make herself feel better about what happend. I would hope you see just how immature she's being. And don't be so hard on yourself. Not everyone can just get over an ex. Takes time and since your on here you'll can see your not alone.
Author Reactor Posted September 11, 2007 Author Posted September 11, 2007 Thank-you for your kind words. They've helped me alot. I do see her immaturity through all this, as well as everything else shes done. I've come to the conclusion shes been very selfish and that she didn't deserve what I gave to her in the first place! Now all I have to do is keep on going and get through this! Thanks again everyone! Reactor
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