Moose Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 I agree with James here....if an unknown person, (limo or no), pulled in my drive, tells me my wife sent him, get rid of the kids, he's liable to get shot.....Besides he is too busy polishing my riding boots to participate in oral sex acts.I guess not everyone can multi-task.....
a4a Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 I guess not everyone can multi-task..... :lmao:
JamesM Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 Oh Jeez - :rolleyes::rolleyes: And for a guy like you, it would be a great evening. It reminds me of the time that I used a treasure hunt with clues for my wife to find her birthday gift when we were first married. She was not into that at all. After finding a couple of clues, she asked how many. Me....I was smart enough to catch on so we skipped to the gift. I had had a coworker at the time who did it for HIS wife and she loved it. It comes down to personality and attitude. My wife would love it. And for that matter, I have a brother-in-law that would love it. Another BIL would not like leaving that control to someone else. Most every guy would like the concept and evening, but I think some would like to have an idea of what is happening. It all comes down to this BF of yours, OP. Would he be the kind who would like it? If your gut says yes, then I would say go for it with full gusto.
woodsfield Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 i can dig it, girl! as some others said, i'd be a bit nervous of some rando came to my house telling me that my wife sent them. ya'll haven't been on a date in years; it would be a SURPRISE for sure. hope he gets in! could i give you my wife's email address so you "encourage" her?? i'd like to try this one on her one day. have fun! i KNOW he will!
Pyro Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 My boyfriend and I have been together for over 9 years and it's been over 6+ years since we've truly been out on a date, and all night. We've had two kids who are 4 and 5. With many long lasting relationships things get to the comfortable stage, and especially after one has kids. I have been planning this night - next Saturday - for two weeks now and I want to know what the guys think or how they would feel if this happened to them. On Saturday, I am leaving the house at 2:30 to go grocery shopping, or so I will tell my guy. In all actuality, I have reserved a hotel room with a jacuzzi and will be checking in, and also getting dressed for our dinner later. At 4:30 p.m. a driver with a sedan will show up at our home to pick up my hubby. The driver will tell him that I've sent him to pick him up and to leave the kids with our friends next door. The driver is not to tell where he is taking him too. When they arrive at the hotel and when my hubby is exiting the vehicle, the driver will hand him a note that says "Go to front desk and tell them your name is XXX" He will go to the front desk and they will give him the key and tell him which room to go to. When he gets to the room, I will not be there. I will be at the salon getting my hair done in a sultry style. In the room, his suit will be laid out on the bed and all his toiletries will be there. I've written him a long, sweet letter but since he is dyslexic I've recorded this letter on to voice recorder and there will be a note attached to it telling him to press play. At the end of the note it tells him to get dressed and meet me in the restaurant downstairs at 7 p.m. I will arrive a little later in a black dress I've just bought and my hair all done up. We will have dinner and then take a walk on the beach, perhaps stopping in a little tapa bar for a drink. When we get back to the hotel, I will put on some romantic music and have a few dances with him and have a few glasses of champagne. I will also blindfold him and give him a nice massage, one that he keeps asking me for but doesn't get too often. When he takes off his blindfold, he will see then the lingerie I am wearing. Hmm, think we all know what may happen then. To end the night, we will have a jacuzzi together. Would this surprise you guys? What more details could I add to make it more wonderful? is all I have to say about that. Very very nice.
FrequentFlyer Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 I would not get in the car. I'd need more information, or an explanation. I couldn't get in the car with someone who gave me a story like that and also leave my kids behind. No way. Draft the friend or neighbor who is taking the kids to give some information. (...have them give some information, not everything!) Otherwise, it's a very interesting idea.
Author keet Posted September 7, 2007 Author Posted September 7, 2007 And for a guy like you, it would be a great evening. It reminds me of the time that I used a treasure hunt with clues for my wife to find her birthday gift when we were first married. She was not into that at all. After finding a couple of clues, she asked how many. Me....I was smart enough to catch on so we skipped to the gift. I had had a coworker at the time who did it for HIS wife and she loved it. It comes down to personality and attitude. My wife would love it. And for that matter, I have a brother-in-law that would love it. Another BIL would not like leaving that control to someone else. Most every guy would like the concept and evening, but I think some would like to have an idea of what is happening. It all comes down to this BF of yours, OP. Would he be the kind who would like it? If your gut says yes, then I would say go for it with full gusto. Well, first of all my guy loves wearing suits and even though I've never done this before, he loves to be romanced and would love this surprise. We own our own businesses so nothing in our lives is planned. Which means, he is not routined. As for the limo driver, believe me, there are a few of our employees who live on our property and they will be here when the driver shows up. These employees know what my plan is. The one employee/friend is not a stranger so my hubby would certainly know that I set them up to babysit and that everything is ok. The driver, though, will not be telling him to bring the kids over there. The employee/friend will tell him at that time that they are babysitting. I do in fact know my hubby and certainly do after 9 years. If I didn't know him, I wouldn't plan something so elaborate. If I thought he wouldn't like surprises, I wouldn't do this. He's been asking but I've not been telling!
Author keet Posted September 7, 2007 Author Posted September 7, 2007 Oh, one more thing. If after 9 years I cannot express my total feelings to my hubby in a long letter...which he will be listening to while getting ready for dinner with me...then why the heck am I still in the relationship? Sometimes, after 9 years, you don't show your gratitude or full emotions and once in awhile it's nice to hear, no?
Author keet Posted September 7, 2007 Author Posted September 7, 2007 I would not get in the car. I'd need more information, or an explanation. I couldn't get in the car with someone who gave me a story like that and also leave my kids behind. No way. Draft the friend or neighbor who is taking the kids to give some information. (...have them give some information, not everything!) Otherwise, it's a very interesting idea. Hmm, then how the heck can you ever be surprised? Surprises are fun in life, and make life more interesting.
Author keet Posted September 7, 2007 Author Posted September 7, 2007 Trust me. He's not going to care about the details. He's going to see you all dolled up for him for the night, the black dress - and I'm pretty sure the limo and the meal could all suck and he won't even notice. I sure as hell wouldn't. Being like this with him after 9 years officially makes you a one hundred percent keeper! Thank you!
IpAncA Posted September 7, 2007 Posted September 7, 2007 Keet I think your plan is great and you both are going to have a wonderful time. And I think that any person for that matter had that or something similar, they wouldn't be disappointed nor complain.
Pyro Posted September 7, 2007 Posted September 7, 2007 Keet I think your plan is great and you both are going to have a wonderful time. And I think that any person for that matter had that or something similar, they wouldn't be disappointed nor complain. My thoughts exactly.
underpants Posted September 7, 2007 Posted September 7, 2007 I think this is a very romantic, mysterious and fun idea. I think you have covered it all. If he knows his driver he will feel more comfortable. I am sure he might try to call you during his travel...are you going to answer? You might want to think about that. Maybe the driver can have a note (or sealed polaroid ) to let him know this is a safe thing. The only suggestion I could add is to perhaps have some gift or surprise hidden along the beach walk. (In the dunes, under a boardwalk) Point it out and let him find it. Anything really, from an "I Love You" note in a seashell or a blanket with a bottle of wine for you two to share on the beach. Sounds like the making of a lovely memory.
Author keet Posted September 8, 2007 Author Posted September 8, 2007 I think this is a very romantic, mysterious and fun idea. I think you have covered it all. If he knows his driver he will feel more comfortable. I am sure he might try to call you during his travel...are you going to answer? You might want to think about that. Maybe the driver can have a note (or sealed polaroid ) to let him know this is a safe thing. The only suggestion I could add is to perhaps have some gift or surprise hidden along the beach walk. (In the dunes, under a boardwalk) Point it out and let him find it. Anything really, from an "I Love You" note in a seashell or a blanket with a bottle of wine for you two to share on the beach. Sounds like the making of a lovely memory. LOL I am quite certain he will call. I've thought about not answering, but he will only call more. So I will answer and be vague. Hey, at least I will know he is on the way and to get out of the hotel Mind you, I have other sources who are going to call and let me know what went on - his reaction, etc. - after he is in the car.
JamesM Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 Well, first of all my guy loves wearing suits and even though I've never done this before, he loves to be romanced and would love this surprise. We own our own businesses so nothing in our lives is planned. Which means, he is not routined. I do in fact know my hubby and certainly do after 9 years. If I didn't know him, I wouldn't plan something so elaborate. If I thought he wouldn't like surprises, I wouldn't do this. He's been asking but I've not been telling! Then from what you say here, I think your over nighter will be an incredible success. And as has been said, I think most of us guys...including routine me ...would end up enjoying the whole thing. If my wife did it for me, she would make a couple of changes to your plan to accommodate my eccentricities, but I know if she read this..she would love your idea. I guess since you asked i gave my opinion from my viewpoint. But if you know your BF, then I say go for it. From what you say, he will love it.
JamesM Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 Oh, one more thing. If after 9 years I cannot express my total feelings to my hubby in a long letter...which he will be listening to while getting ready for dinner with me...then why the heck am I still in the relationship? Sometimes, after 9 years, you don't show your gratitude or full emotions and once in awhile it's nice to hear, no? This part I think is wonderful. I don't know of any guy that would not like a long romantic letter.
FrequentFlyer Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 My boyfriend and I have been together for over 9 years and it's been over 6+ years since we've truly been out on a date, and all night. We've had two kids who are 4 and 5. And... Oh, one more thing. If after 9 years I cannot express my total feelings to my hubby in a long letter... OK, I am unclear...who is going? Your hubby or your boyfriend? Also: Hmm, then how the heck can you ever be surprised? Surprises are fun in life, and make life more interesting.It's just me. I have had so many unpleasant surprises over the years,that I have learned to adopt the phrase "I hate surprises." Works for me.
Mr. Lucky Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 Somehow I don't think my man would get into the sedan which would really throw a stick in my spokes if I were trying something like this. I don't want to be a downer, but I have learned to expect some problems with my seemingly perfect plans. Otherwise I get so disappointed that my well-scripted ideal didn't work out the way I envisioned it. You know, I was thinking of the same potential for Murphy's Law to rear its ugly head. Maybe just tell him in advance you're planning a surprise for that night so he'll go with the flow... Mr. Lucky
Scrivdog Posted September 9, 2007 Posted September 9, 2007 You know, I was thinking of the same potential for Murphy's Law to rear its ugly head. Maybe just tell him in advance you're planning a surprise for that night so he'll go with the flow... Mr. Lucky Yeah cuz the Yakuza just opened up a branch in Pillbuck, Ohio where they hire limos to kidnap middle class working folks. You bet. Can't ever be too careful.
Author keet Posted September 10, 2007 Author Posted September 10, 2007 Update: It was a huge success and everything went great. He knew that I had a surprise for him so he was prepared. Everything went as planned and nothing went wrong. He loved everything from the driver picking him up, the letter, etc. I knew I knew him!
JamesM Posted September 10, 2007 Posted September 10, 2007 Update: It was a huge success and everything went great. He knew that I had a surprise for him so he was prepared. Everything went as planned and nothing went wrong. He loved everything from the driver picking him up, the letter, etc. I knew I knew him! Outstanding! And that is the key....YOU knew HIM. And what he thinks is what matters. I am glad you went with that and had a successful evening. And I am guessing he is glad you did, too.
ninga317 Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 i think that was one of the nicest ideas i have heard in a long time. i'm sure after being together for nine years that you know him well enough to know that that would be something that he would like. it sounds like you guys will be together for many more years. just one question, if it's not too personal, how come you guys have never gotten married. it sounds like you are a perfect couple. just curious.
Author keet Posted September 29, 2007 Author Posted September 29, 2007 i think that was one of the nicest ideas i have heard in a long time. i'm sure after being together for nine years that you know him well enough to know that that would be something that he would like. it sounds like you guys will be together for many more years. just one question, if it's not too personal, how come you guys have never gotten married. it sounds like you are a perfect couple. just curious. Hi: Well, a week before I started this thread, I had posted this: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t128187/ This night that we went out there was a couple that got married at that hotel. My hubby said "We will not be getting married here" and we also talked a bit about going on a cruise or something to get married. Since then, I am back to being called girlfriend. I don't know what's going on in his head. Actually, he doesn't know where the ring is anymore, and I do. I don't know if he is waiting for me to put it back on or not, BUT I am not going to push or act presumptuous. Truthfully, not sure what to do at this stage. LOL
IpAncA Posted September 29, 2007 Posted September 29, 2007 Since then, I am back to being called girlfriend. I don't know what's going on in his head. Maybe he wants to marry you so he's calling you his gf until it happend. I don't know...just throwing that out there.
Bobby NoBrains Posted September 30, 2007 Posted September 30, 2007 This night that we went out there was a couple that got married at that hotel. My hubby said "We will not be getting married here" and we also talked a bit about going on a cruise or something to get married. That bit sounds to me like marriage is definitely on his mind and that he has accepted the fact that you are hoping to get officially married and he is not totally against that fact. Maybe he's working himself towards it, maybe he just needs a little more time before he accepts the reality of it and takes real steps towards it. It's only been two weeks, so wth Just my two bits .. Bobby
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