zappafan Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 Hello, I want to give a word of thanks to Scorpio13c, lovelorcet, LucreziaBorgia, Curious139, Travis L, and P5186 (sorry if i missed anyone) For the great advice and the help they offered to me in the post I had here yesterday. The story was messed up, but, it turns out it wasn't as bad as it initially sounded. Everything happened as I gave it, but with one big detail missing, it was all fantasy. Nothing ever happened, and nothing will happen. I had spiraled down into depression and self pity. I needed the wake up call that was provided in the great advice given. I needed to man up and take control of the situation, and our life. My wife and I discussed everything again today. She admitted that what she said she wanted was insanity, and something that could never happen. Partially related to the reasons that LucreziaBorgia had provided, but more importantly, I am more important. She pretty much admitted that she was testing our boundaries. (not in so many words) There was no screaming and very little tears. I followed the advice given and told her no way in hell. If you turn the fantasy into reality, I'm gone. Everything is not perfect again, but it's stuff unrelated to my story directly. The other stuff has helped to contribute to that insanity in the first place, but it's small potatoes comparatively. One big issue is our current work schedules. We see each other for about 30 - 60 minutes a day. A few times a month we get a full day together. This is no good, and this is something that will change soon. I also want to apologize for having the post removed. I felt there was to much personally identifying information for someone close enough to put 2 and 2 together. I also want to thank the admins for removing the post when they didn't have to. Keep up the good work everyone, and keep up with the great advice!
Travis L Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 My wife and I discussed everything again today. She admitted that what she said she wanted was insanity, and something that could never happen. Partially related to the reasons that LucreziaBorgia had provided, but more importantly, I am more important. She pretty much admitted that she was testing our boundaries. (not in so many words) There was no screaming and very little tears. I followed the advice given and told her no way in hell. If you turn the fantasy into reality, I'm gone. Well, I'm glad that it's working out but...it still sounds like she may need a little counseling for herself!? I can't put my finger on it completely but it still sounds a little (ok, very) fishy to me. You may seriously want to consider marriage counseling...cuz you sure as hell don't want this can of worms to become a reality...
Author zappafan Posted September 6, 2007 Author Posted September 6, 2007 The discussion is definitely not over, we are now on the mend though. I do believe her when she said nothing will happen. As a matter of fact, she can't see the guy anymore, and isn't exactly sure where he is. If I do suspect any shenanigans, it's counseling or it over.
Curious139 Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 Glad to hear your situation is resolved. I'm still uncomfortable on your behalf that your wife even entertained such a fantasy. I suggest you both need to talk to each other at a deep level and clearly you are going to need to spend more time together, which you are working on. All the best.
Author zappafan Posted September 7, 2007 Author Posted September 7, 2007 Glad to hear your situation is resolved. I'm still uncomfortable on your behalf that your wife even entertained such a fantasy. I suggest you both need to talk to each other at a deep level and clearly you are going to need to spend more time together, which you are working on. All the best. Thanks Curious. I am still a bit uncomfortable with a few things myself tbh. I am playing it by ear. I've already got a request in to change my schedule. I really think that will help. The past few days have been great, and I feel like a new man. My mind still goes into panic mode every now and again, but I think it's normal all things considered.
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