pollita26 Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 So people this is the story! I met a guy., we were trying to work a relationship and after a month i met his friend. I decided to finish the relationship because i really liked his friend a LOT!!! but i wanted to do things the right way. First, I told the guy i was dating that things were not working for me, to stay just as "friends". I waited a couple of weeks and then I asked his friend to go out with me to a concert. I know how delicate is this stuff among friends., but i didn't wanted to waste my chance either... u live life only once... so guys!!! any advice?? I don't want him to think he's my rebounce, and also i don't want him to think im a slut ... i'm very nervous about this "first" date & since I took the initiative to ask him out I really need some advice... HELP!!!!
Cobra_X30 Posted September 7, 2007 Posted September 7, 2007 Taking the initiative is a bad move. I know you kind of feel like chasing him... but I would suggest backing off once he gets a little interested. Also remember that you may have to get some kind of permission from your ex to move forward.
Saxis Posted September 7, 2007 Posted September 7, 2007 I agree... Show him you're interested and then let him come to you. Chances are, he'll have already gotten permission from your Ex if he's a good friend.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 So people this is the story! I met a guy., we were trying to work a relationship and after a month i met his friend. I decided to finish the relationship because i really liked his friend a LOT!!! but i wanted to do things the right way. First, I told the guy i was dating that things were not working for me, to stay just as "friends". I waited a couple of weeks and then I asked his friend to go out with me to a concert. I know how delicate is this stuff among friends., but i didn't wanted to waste my chance either... u live life only once... so guys!!! any advice?? I don't want him to think he's my rebounce, and also i don't want him to think im a slut ... i'm very nervous about this "first" date & since I took the initiative to ask him out I really need some advice... HELP!!!! I don't get it. Why would anyone want to date such a person who treats his "friends" as you describe? And why do you think that this new guy would want to date someone who treats his partner the way you have clearly done?
KenzieAbsolutely Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 And why do you think that this new guy would want to date someone who treats his partner the way you have clearly done? how exactly did she treat his partner badly? she lost interest him. it happens. she became attracted to somebody else. it happens. people who break up with you aren't really the enemy. they just don't have the same feelings as you. i suppose she should have faked it, kept on wanting the other guy, and then cheated on the guy she's dating with the other guy, and then break up? can't win, i guess, a dumpee is always going to be super-bitter no matter what. i guess the truth they claim they always want is unecessary too, it doesn't do any good. how did we get to a point that not being in love with someone who loves you makes you the most evil person on earth?
SincereOnlineGuy Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 how exactly did she treat his partner badly? she lost interest him. it happens. she became attracted to somebody else. it happens. people who break up with you aren't really the enemy. they just don't have the same feelings as you. i suppose she should have faked it, kept on wanting the other guy, and then cheated on the guy she's dating with the other guy, and then break up? can't win, i guess, a dumpee is always going to be super-bitter no matter what. i guess the truth they claim they always want is unecessary too, it doesn't do any good. how did we get to a point that not being in love with someone who loves you makes you the most evil person on earth? LOL - quit trying to justify the unjustifiable. Your stance is like trying to justify Woody Allen by reasoning: People break-up with their long-time wives and fall in love with their stepchildren - it happens. Or justifying murder by reasoning: People screech into 7-Eleven parking lots and dash in wearing masks before shooting the store clerks - it happen. The poster is just in the wrong, and it is plainly obvious to those not simultaneously trying to justify themselves in the process.
Yamaha Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 Ending it with your ex is ok if you were not feeling it but to go after his friend so soon is pushing there friendship to the limits.
KenzieAbsolutely Posted September 10, 2007 Posted September 10, 2007 LOL - quit trying to justify the unjustifiable. Your stance is like trying to justify Woody Allen by reasoning: People break-up with their long-time wives and fall in love with their stepchildren - it happens. Or justifying murder by reasoning: People screech into 7-Eleven parking lots and dash in wearing masks before shooting the store clerks - it happen. The poster is just in the wrong, and it is plainly obvious to those not simultaneously trying to justify themselves in the process. i'm not trying to justify anything...i'm not in her situation. nice assumption though. she isn't in the wrong. she broke it off with someone she didn't like and waited a while before dating someone else. it happened to be his friend. you tend to date people that you meet, sometimes this means meeting people through other people, including people you've dated. your analogies are irrelevant. maybe those things happen, but i am sure you realize there is a difference between dating step-children, armed robbery....and a break-up. it sounds like you were recently dumped, i'm sorry if you were. but not reciprocating someone's feelings is not a crime.
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