uniqueone Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 When people are say.....35 and younger....and divorced....people often make assumptions about them based on the fact that they're divorce. (there have been posts on LS about people wondering about a guy/girl because they're divorced). When people are 35 and over....and never married...people often make assumptions about them based on the fact that they've never been married. Do you think either of these sets of assumptions has any validity? Of the two, which do you think is the more difficult impressions to overcome? How can someone keep potential suitors from viewing them as a stereotype?
Krytellan Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 I don't think there's any validity personally. Let's face it, in either of these categories there's one factor that no one can account for... another person. Sometimes people suffer at the whims of others. Hell, if it was solely up to me I would be married with a family. However, I am a product of my interactions with others. Not so simple.
Author uniqueone Posted September 6, 2007 Author Posted September 6, 2007 I don't think there's any validity personally. Let's face it, in either of these categories there's one factor that no one can account for... another person. Sometimes people suffer at the whims of others. Hell, if it was solely up to me I would be married with a family. However, I am a product of my interactions with others. Not so simple. And how do you try to convey that message to people that you just met?
Author uniqueone Posted September 6, 2007 Author Posted September 6, 2007 To anyone replying, if you care to, please tell if you're below or above age 35 (you don't have to be exact) and whether or not you're never married, divorced...etc.....
Krytellan Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 Below 35 and divorced. I don't try to convey that message to someone I've just met. They are free to place me in whatever category they want. If after doing so they are interested, then game on. If they aren't, well, not for me to put much care into. Why waste your time convincing others you're worth it? The good ones will want to find out for themselves.
Author uniqueone Posted September 6, 2007 Author Posted September 6, 2007 Below 35 and divorced. I don't try to convey that message to someone I've just met. They are free to place me in whatever category they want. If after doing so they are interested, then game on. If they aren't, well, not for me to put much care into. Why waste your time convincing others you're worth it? The good ones will want to find out for themselves. It's a little different though if you go on the personals. Someone can do a search and only search for those in your age group who are never married, only because they have assumptions about those who are divorced in that age range. In other words, they'll never "see" you to begin with and this limits certain groups of people.
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