jewelnyc Posted September 5, 2007 Posted September 5, 2007 I'm 5'3 and 175. I'm well aware that I'm overwight and am currently on a diet. I've only been overweight for the past year and half so it took some getting used to, and I'm so over it now. My question is, silly as it may sound - will being thinner make guys want to love me as opposed to just want to have sex with me? I'm putting it that bluntly because I have to tell you, either than that I think I'm a decent catch. I'm pretty, sexy, smart, funny, have my life together, good friends, well educated (an apparently oh so humble:) - just trying to get my point across). Am I deluding myself thinking that being thinner will make the object of my affection want more than just sex? Or will the fact that I'm an extremely sexual girl always make a guy want to screw me instead of love me? Can't the two ever go together? The last time I was thinner and good looking I wasn't looking for a relationship so I'm not sure how it will affect things this time around now that I am. I was wondering what people's thought on this were. Thanky you in advance for all your help. A.
Green Posted September 5, 2007 Posted September 5, 2007 I think you need to relize your just going to be the same person weather you way 300 or 110. More guys will definetly want to go out with a girl who is in shape as oposed to a girl who is not. your probably going to have the same problem you have now with a larger pick of guys if you dont learn to do something else in the way you've been aproaching relationships. When the right guy comes along im sure you steal his heart
Citizen Erased Posted September 5, 2007 Posted September 5, 2007 That's you in your pic right? You obviously aren't overweight, and the only reason you should want to lose weight is for yourself. You need to want to live a healthy lifestyle or the weight will just keep coming back.
mental_traveller Posted September 5, 2007 Posted September 5, 2007 A lot of guys just won't consider someone who is significantly overweight. This applies to both guys who are just out for sex, and guys who want a long-term relationship or marriage. By getting rid of some of the pounds, you'll avoid that problem. Not to mention its more healthy to be in shape, you feel more energetic and better about yourself. It's a good challenge to try to get fit again, if you can achieve that then it helps in general for any kind of goal achievement in future.
vivi Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 if you are thinner you will have a larger selection of men from which to choose. whether they love you or just want to have sex with you is partially up to you and that doesn't depend on your weight, just your attitude.
Tony T Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 Lose the weight for the sake of your health. A byproduct of that will be that more men will be attracted to you and more will fall madly for you. I don't care what other people may say, the absolute truth of the matter is that overweight is a turn off for many men. I need to tell you this because omitting it would not be giving you the whole truth. Yes, there is a population of men...however small...who are attracted to BBW (big, beautiful women). But that significantly reduces YOUR choices if you don't shed the pounds.
Green Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 Lose the weight for the sake of your health. A byproduct of that will be that more men will be attracted to you and more will fall madly for you. I don't care what other people may say, the absolute truth of the matter is that overweight is a turn off for many men. I need to tell you this because omitting it would not be giving you the whole truth. Yes, there is a population of men...however small...who are attracted to BBW (big, beautiful women). But that significantly reduces YOUR choices if you don't shed the pounds. OMG that BBW thing makes me sick every time I see it
tommyr Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 Here is one male's answer to your question: thin or not will not make a guy love you. BUT as you know thinner girls always get alot more attention from the male population. Whether that initial attention becomes love or just sex has more to do with you (as a person) and the guy (as a person) versus either partner's weight.
stillafool Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 I have been tall and thin (and used to model) my entire life and it has not made men love me more. I dated a lot but it certainly did not make men fall at my feet. Women who are overweight make the mistake of thinking that once they become thin their problems are over. Well I'm here to tell you it will not make you a happy person. Lose weight for your health and if you want to be happy work on improving your heart and soul.
iFinix Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 You will find a loving, caring man no matter how much you weigh, so do not worry too much about it. I'm the opposite, a very skinny male, and I used to worry about my weight, but then I stopped. I still get girls attracted to me though. The reason I'm still single is for other issues (social issues like shyness and stuff...) As someone else mentioned, if you want a reason to lose weight, do it for your own good health.
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