Yellowboy Posted September 5, 2007 Posted September 5, 2007 You know how people say you won't find or keep a good romantic relationship if you yourself are not happy with your own life. But I am happy, and the only reason I would be unhappy is the lack of a girlfriend. I have a perfectly normal social life, I go hang out with friends, go drinking or play sports. I spend time with my family. I work at the office and it's not stressful and I get paid well. I even travel abroad for vacations. I can do all these things with friends, or even do it alone. Either way, at the back of my mind, there's that feeling..."wish I can have more than friends...someone to connect with deeper...go and do things with just this girl and share my experiences with someone special". But she's not there. As you can see, I am also proactive in meeting new people and date someone if I am interested, but those don't last long either. This, here, would also be my only reason to be unhappy with my life. Everything else in my life is fine, it's just the non-existent girlfriend. Anyone go through something like this, and how did you go about it?
Yamaha Posted September 5, 2007 Posted September 5, 2007 If your happy with your life the rest will fall into place. It might take some time but people like being around happy people and a girl will see you and want to find out who you are. Just be patient.
Ihatethis84 Posted September 5, 2007 Posted September 5, 2007 Stop trying so hard to find a girlfriend and you will get flocks of them. Quit thinking about it and let it takes its course. Like the above poster said, everything will fall into place. Keep your head up bud.
Author Yellowboy Posted September 5, 2007 Author Posted September 5, 2007 I dunno man...people say don't just stand there and wait, gotta always be on the look out and take action. I've tried "the rest will fall in place" game and it just never lead to anything much. How long do you expect me to wait anyhow? ****, I'll be an old man by then, who knows
justice Posted September 5, 2007 Posted September 5, 2007 Love comes most often when you are not looking for it. For now, sit back, relax and observe. The more you hunt, the more likely you are to get into a relationship that later on down the road you will regret. Relax, stay positive and be yourself.
woodsfield Posted September 5, 2007 Posted September 5, 2007 i was in the exact same situation as you for a few years. my problem was that i did not try, but one blind date and i found the love of my life. she found me. justice said it best....just be yourself and the rest will come naturally.
LoveLace Posted September 5, 2007 Posted September 5, 2007 I am 30 years old and know exactly, and I mean exactly how you feel. I was happy too, with everything except for my love life. It was like that with me for many years. I've always had an active life just like yours and many friends, etc. just like you, and lots of dead-end dates. I'm a person with a lot going for me but I was lacking that one little piece of the puzzle. Just a couple of weeks ago, Mr. Wonderful suddenly fell into my life, and just like they say I was not expecting it or looking for it in the slightest that particular day. We already tell each other we are "the one"...sometimes you just know, even that fast. Before this I thought it was going to be a lost cause for sure. Now I feel like I"m living a total dream. One day you will also get a very pleasant, unexpected surprise too, I promise you! I swear, the second I finally threw my arms up and said "Oh I just don't care anymore"....almost right away I met Mr. Close-to-Perfect...so just keep going about your life as you have been, ask women out, and don't turn down any invitations for social events (I met my guy on a winery trip)....good luck hang in there!
Author Yellowboy Posted September 6, 2007 Author Posted September 6, 2007 Thanks everyone. Yeah, usually I end up dating girls I've met at times I least expected it. Unfortunately, those didn't work out well either, but that does not discourage me. I know I'll probably meet someone again at an unexpected time. Patience I guess...
lino Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 I feel exactly the same as you yellowboy. Everything seems right for me in life except the girls If your happy with your life the rest will fall into place. It might take some time but people like being around happy people and a girl will see you and want to find out who you are. Just be patient. I see this written often but I don't get it. How can you be happy when you're always alone? Never with anyone to support you with things going on in your life. I was once happy being single and having casual relationships but now I hate it.
JCD Posted September 10, 2007 Posted September 10, 2007 You have to try positive thinking to make yourself happy. Whether you feel happy or sad is really a choice, well at least for me because I can make myself both happy or sad and alternate between them. If I think happy thoughts then I feel happy and when I think sad thoughts I get sad. So you must think happy thoughts to put smile on your face. I also notice that I become happy when I joke around with people around me so try that. It changes your outlook on life and you will want to date happy people instead of depressed people. If you feel depressed most likely you will be drawn to depressed person for comfort and understanding. Not good.
lino Posted September 10, 2007 Posted September 10, 2007 You have to try positive thinking to make yourself happy. Whether you feel happy or sad is really a choice, well at least for me because I can make myself both happy or sad and alternate between them. If I think happy thoughts then I feel happy and when I think sad thoughts I get sad. So you must think happy thoughts to put smile on your face. I also notice that I become happy when I joke around with people around me so try that. It changes your outlook on life and you will want to date happy people instead of depressed people. If you feel depressed most likely you will be drawn to depressed person for comfort and understanding. Not good. Well I wouldn't say I'm depressed. Neither am I drawn to depressed people, really that doesn't bother me. Also the stuff about positive thinking & joking around with people, I do that plenty, it's not what I have a problem with. Also it's not something you can do 24/7. My problem is that I see everyone around me is able to have a serious relationship but I can't and as time goes on it does get to me. 5 years ago I didn't give a sh*t for example.
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