invizibletearz Posted September 4, 2007 Posted September 4, 2007 Ok, well, after 2 weeks of time and space that my boyfriend needed was given to him by me, I finally contacted him and told him I needed a final answer to what was going on. He said he didn't know I was waiting, but thought it would be better if we remained friends. It hurt, but I said ok that's fine. I wanted him a part of my life no matter what. That's what he said. He said he still cared for me, still missed me everyday we were apart, and still wanted to be with me but is unable to because of so many things going on in his life, but would maybe like to try our relationship again in the future after things settle down. No other girl was a factor he said. The next day he flaked on me when we were supposed to hang out and get some coffee. I didn't receive a call by him because he said he would call to tell me if he could come or not, no matter what. When I did get a hold of him, he said he fell asleep and has been asleep the whole time. I asked if I could maybe call him the next day after work and he said sure and I could call him anytime I wanted to. For the next few days, he avoided all my calls and texts. I started thinking that something definately was not right. What kind of friendship was this? I know we all get busy, but it's not impossible to take 1 minute out of your day to call to say hi or to say something came up and plans would have to be cancelled. 15 minutes to see each other isn't hard either. Anyway, after a few days of being avoided by him, the finally texts me, but only saying to 'f' off. I'm like so shocked at this moment. I asked him why, what the reason was, and why did he lie about being friends, but he wouldn't answer and just repeatedly texted me almost 10 different times all saying the same thing to 'f' off. I was so angry. I can't cry anymore, but my friends and I are suspicious and curious. It's very hard to think how good he was to me was an act, but it still was a possible act. Let me say it this way, if it was all an act, then he was so good at it like he was an Oscar nominated actor!! Also, some friends think that an outside factor could have been the cause, because this whole situation didn't seem right for some reason. We kind of think it may have been this certain person we all know, but we don't know for sure or have proof. I would like to hear any of your opinions and thoughts on this subject because I'm very confused.
Ormolu611 Posted September 5, 2007 Posted September 5, 2007 Ok, well, after 2 weeks of time and space that my boyfriend needed was given to him by me, I finally contacted him and told him I needed a final answer to what was going on. He said he didn't know I was waiting, but thought it would be better if we remained friends. It hurt, but I said ok that's fine. I wanted him a part of my life no matter what. That's what he said. He said he still cared for me, still missed me everyday we were apart, and still wanted to be with me but is unable to because of so many things going on in his life, but would maybe like to try our relationship again in the future after things settle down. No other girl was a factor he said. The next day he flaked on me when we were supposed to hang out and get some coffee. I didn't receive a call by him because he said he would call to tell me if he could come or not, no matter what. When I did get a hold of him, he said he fell asleep and has been asleep the whole time. I asked if I could maybe call him the next day after work and he said sure and I could call him anytime I wanted to. For the next few days, he avoided all my calls and texts. I started thinking that something definately was not right. What kind of friendship was this? I know we all get busy, but it's not impossible to take 1 minute out of your day to call to say hi or to say something came up and plans would have to be cancelled. 15 minutes to see each other isn't hard either. Anyway, after a few days of being avoided by him, the finally texts me, but only saying to 'f' off. I'm like so shocked at this moment. I asked him why, what the reason was, and why did he lie about being friends, but he wouldn't answer and just repeatedly texted me almost 10 different times all saying the same thing to 'f' off. I was so angry. I can't cry anymore, but my friends and I are suspicious and curious. It's very hard to think how good he was to me was an act, but it still was a possible act. Let me say it this way, if it was all an act, then he was so good at it like he was an Oscar nominated actor!! Also, some friends think that an outside factor could have been the cause, because this whole situation didn't seem right for some reason. We kind of think it may have been this certain person we all know, but we don't know for sure or have proof. I would like to hear any of your opinions and thoughts on this subject because I'm very confused. First of all, I am sorry that this had to happen. The fact is that it does not matter what happened to him. The fact is that you do not deserve to be treated this way. This is why it is not really a good idea under most circumstances to remain friends after a split. Let's face it, most dumpers probably use this line to assuage some of their guilt. When dumped, cut contact as soon as possible. This way you can spare yourself the experience of being told to f*ck off. He either is or wants to date someone else. This is hard to do when your ex is calling and hanging out. Your crimping his style. You deserve better.
norajane Posted September 5, 2007 Posted September 5, 2007 For the next few days, he avoided all my calls and texts. after a few days of being avoided by him, the finally texts me, but only saying to 'f' off. I'm like so shocked at this moment. I asked him why, what the reason was, and why did he lie about being friends, but he wouldn't answer and just repeatedly texted me almost 10 different times all saying the same thing to 'f' off.Sounds like his new girlfriend got a hold of his cell phone and saw all your texts. I know he SAYS there is no other girl, but...
pureinheart Posted September 5, 2007 Posted September 5, 2007 Hey invizabletears.... I understand how you feel, not wanting to let go of him....I have been going through this with a guy for a very long time...not the space thing, but "he doesn't know what he wants". Last night I told him to give me a call when he figures it out....I am worth a decision....
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