When She Thinks You Said "I LOVE YOU" When You Didn't Actually Say It?

[maynard]

first off, my girl and i have never said, "i love you"

 

so im messing around with my girl last. im touching her down there and our faces are really close. i say in a naturally lowered voice, "does that feel good, baby?" she says something i didnt recognize, so i say, "huh?" and she says, "i love you too baby."

 

i just kinda froze for a second and didnt say anything back and just continued.

 

i cant say that im in love with her at this point though i care for her very much.

 

i dont know if she said it in the heat of the moment or just said it and didnt mean it

 

i dont want her to think im in love with her when she doesnt love me and I DIDN'T EVEN SAY IT!

 

on the other hand, if she did mean it, it feels a bit too soon, though i dont mind it

 

we have been dating on and off for the last 6 months and the past month has been really great, better than ever

 

do girls say this even when they dont mean it? could it just be a heat of the moment thing? did she just hear what she wanted to hear so she could tell me how she felt?

 

im obviously confused, but im not gonna bring it up. i dont see what good could come out of it

[bartles]

That is messed up!! Now I from experience, I know that a woman can say she loves you and not love you in the way that you may think..if that makes sense. For instance I have told a man that I loved him and after we ended the relationship I realized I didn't love him in the way I thought I did but I did love him in that I wanted to see good things happen for him. People use the word love too loosely these days. Love isn't about a good feeling and people seem to base their love on that "good" thing.

 

My advice to you is to let her know the truth. Women don't like being strung along. Just be honest..tell her how you really feel.

[directx]

Get get that Seinfeld episode when George dates the the hard-of-hearing girl and watch it with her.

 

Maybe comment on it, like saying 'Hey! I could see that happening!' or something like that.

 

(yes, 90% of all my solutions in life come from tv or movies.)

[Lyssa]

Get get that Seinfeld episode when George dates the the hard-of-hearing girl and watch it with her.

 

Maybe comment on it, like saying 'Hey! I could see that happening!' or something like that.

 

(yes, 90% of all my solutions in life come from tv or movies.)

 

You know, I actually noticed that!!

[Lyssa]

Maynard, I think you should talk to her. Clear things up! She probably heard you wrong and who knows, she's hoping to hear you tell her 'I love you' again!!

[kymberann]

I am going out on a limb here....but remember I am just one person! Six months and it feels a bit too soon? I think that's right around the time line for an I love you. Even if you have been dating on and off, there is still history even when you have been off.

 

do girls say this even when they dont mean it? could it just be a heat of the moment thing?

 

I am of the opinion that most girls/women say what they mean when it comes to saying I love you. I know I wouldn't say it unless I knew I could say it even when I was angry with the other person. Yes a heat of the moment thing but that's what makes it more meaningful.

[Touche]

Gosh, H and I knew we loved each other after just a few weeks. We married eight months after meeting each other. I don't think it's too soon.

 

And no, I've never told anyone I loved them if I didn't.

 

If you don't feel it, then don't say it. No big deal.

[uniqueone]

I think that it's more likely to come out when you're in intimate situations like that. I know that's the case with me anyway where I would just want to say that but then would realize that we hadn't gone "there" yet.

 

But if you don't feel it, don't say it. And speak up next time!!!