TheRock Posted September 4, 2007 Posted September 4, 2007 My GF and I are dating a little over a year. I'm 36 she's 30. The other day, she broke down crying and hits me with "You and I are perfect in everyway, but lately I don't fantisize about u, feel sexually attracted to you or want to have sex with u." She doesn't feel that's normal. (Neither do I) She says she loves me and doesn't know what to do to get the feelings back. I don't know if it's a problem with her or me. (She's very stressed lately and changed birth control pills a while ago.) 2 days before this she's telling me how great we are together, we make a great team and was talking about a future for us. Today, she came over out of the blue and started cuddling with me and rubbing my arms and kissing my neck. We made out and things seemed normal. I don't get the mixed signals.... Anyone?
ftheunion Posted September 6, 2007 Posted September 6, 2007 Birth control effects women and sex enjoyment I think........anyway, here is my classic response that sounds like silly monkey junk. Existentialism express that Love is a choice, not a feeling. If you choose to be truly other-centered, and care more about her than yourself, then you love her. Dunno about lust and infatuation, but that birth control f***s with the hormones and stuff. Those pills are like Ninjas. They go in and trick the body, and maybe just F*** sh** up! I would if I was a ninja birth control pill. Maybe a doctor could recommend an alternavitve medicine/contraceptive......Doctors are smart people. Don't hold her hardcore to anything though. You could doubt any and everthing in the world, so no need to bother about if it is true. Just choose to be patient and steadfast...........Just like those hardcore snipers who watch thier target for like 7 days without flinching or anything, just support her for an indefinite length of time and then whatever random junk will happen.
Mr. Lucky Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 My GF and I are dating a little over a year. I'm 36 she's 30. The other day, she broke down crying and hits me with "You and I are perfect in everyway, but lately I don't fantisize about u, feel sexually attracted to you or want to have sex with u." She doesn't feel that's normal. (Neither do I) She says she loves me and doesn't know what to do to get the feelings back. I don't know if it's a problem with her or me. (She's very stressed lately and changed birth control pills a while ago.) 2 days before this she's telling me how great we are together, we make a great team and was talking about a future for us. Today, she came over out of the blue and started cuddling with me and rubbing my arms and kissing my neck. We made out and things seemed normal. I don't get the mixed signals.... Anyone? Ah, the wild, wacky, unfathomable world of women. Do you work on giving her somethinmg to fantasize about? Mr. Lucky
Yamaha Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 My GF and I are dating a little over a year. I'm 36 she's 30. The other day, she broke down crying and hits me with "You and I are perfect in everyway, but lately I don't fantasize about u, feel sexually attracted to you or want to have sex with u." She doesn't feel that's normal. (Neither do I) She says she loves me and doesn't know what to do to get the feelings back. I don't know if it's a problem with her or me. (She's very stressed lately and changed birth control pills a while ago.) 2 days before this she's telling me how great we are together, we make a great team and was talking about a future for us. Today, she came over out of the blue and started cuddling with me and rubbing my arms and kissing my neck. We made out and things seemed normal. I don't get the mixed signals.... Anyone? If my women that I had been dating for a year told me she didn't feel desire or want sex with me it would put such a strain on the relationship that a break up would be inevitable. Are you willing to be loved like a friend?
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