curiousnycgirl Posted September 4, 2007 Posted September 4, 2007 My b/f's best friend, since they were six years old (they are 51 now) attacked me yesterday! I have no idea why, and I have no clue how to deal with it! The two couples had basically spent the weekend together, starting Saturday night. My b/f and I went over to their house for dinner. They asked us to pick up the main course and that they had salad and corn. I do this all the time, so don't really mind, but find it a bit bizarre as when you come to our houses (either mine or my b/f's) I always make sure to have food to serve. Anyway saturday night was a nice time. Sunday we were all scheduled to go out on my b/f's boat at 9 am. I was to bring the lunch, water and wine - they were to bring the soda and beer. They showed up at 10 am - with some soda, that's it. OK fine. We had a nice time, unfortunately ran the boat aground, nearly sank, but in the end all was fine (although the boat needs repairs). They then decided to spend the night at my b/f's house, so they ran home to get their dog, while I ran to the grocery store for dinner and breakfast stuff. They brought the left over salad and meat from the night before. Again all fine. Then last night we were all going to someone else's house for a bbq. I had agreed to bring a pasta salad, a meat dish and the dessert (it was the host of the bbq's birthday - so a few of us said we would bring all the food so he would not have to do anything). In the morning while I was preparing the pasta salad, he said oh let me add the salt and pepper. I said no - I was not preparing it that way - I was going to add a vinagrette, blue cheese and toasted pine nuts. I further said that I have high blood pressure, so really never cook with salt. That night - at the bbq, he first started attacking me while we were all in the pool. Explaining to me how corporate america works, and telling me how to conduct myself professionally. Let me say now - this man has never worked for a large corporation. I have been doing so for over 20 years - and have enjoyed a fairly good amount of success (in a company of 173,000 employees, and am within 5 levels of the CEO, so basically within the top 15,000). I finally walked away to help put dinner out. So he followed me! Someone in the kitchen was raving about how fabulous my pasta salad was - but the next thing I know this guy is adding salt! I said again - please do not do that - it is not necessary and I cannot have salt. He yelled at me told me to chill out and just kept doing it. He then added salt to my meat dish! Basically ensuring that I couldn't eat either one. (he then proceeded to ruin a dish someone else brought too -so I know it's not just me). I am good friend with this guy's wife, so I approached her - asked what I had done, and how I should proceed. She said "he gets that way sometimes" and apologized. WOW I feel so badly for her. She said she would speak with him, but I didn't want her to because I don't feel I am worth causing any issues within their marriage. So she felt strongly that I need to say something. My inclination would be to just ignore it - and be very cautious in the future when I am with him. I don't feel it is necessary to rehash the BS - but others think I need to call him on it. So here I am on LS asking opinions. Any input appreciated.
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