JamyeLanders0105 Posted September 4, 2007 Posted September 4, 2007 My boyfriend and I met a year ago. He had just broken up with his girlfriend of 4 years b/c she got pregnant by someone else. We started talking, and decided to take things slow b/c of his past situation. It was strange at first, b/c I had to watch him get over his ex while we were starting a relationship. He was very considerate of my feelings though, and tried to not let it show, but I could tell. Now we are dating more seriously and he tells me that he wants to move in together and that he loves me. I beleive him, but sometimes I can tell that the past is coming up b/c he gets really jealous and almost depressed sometimes. I am not sure if he is just rushing this b/c he wants to be over her or if he really wants this. I am to the age where I am thinking about marriage, and we have talked about it. I just dont know if I should jump into this and think that it is serious. When I bring it up, he gets his feelings hurt and/or gets mad that I dont trust him.
Yosef Posted September 4, 2007 Posted September 4, 2007 I wish I could talk to him. I may not know how he feels. I don't know, actually. I do know something about not letting go, though. I'm very hard on myself and sometimes I can be in this kind of depression. He's very fearful of the same thing happening to you that happened to his ex. He's been traumatized by loss of hope. He needs to get that hope back to move on. ~~..........~~ Don't expect him to walk a mile before he can stand up. Remain with him and help him. Don't decide to take a walk and tell him you'll be right back. It's happened before. The past girl decided to walk ahead of him and ended up finding a more attractive guy walking nearby on the sidewalk. Once he caught up, he fell in anguish and despair. Don't walk on without him. His legs are weak and his heart is crushed. Repair the heart and the legs will regain their strength. He will stand, but he will not walk quickly. His heart is still hurt, so stay with him, and take rest when it is needed, until his heart is again beating with joy once more, and you both can walk together down that sidewalk. ~~..........~~
SincereOnlineGuy Posted September 8, 2007 Posted September 8, 2007 he gets really jealous. That is a terrible sign in someone you are even thinking of dating for the long haul.
Recommended Posts