Trimmer Posted September 4, 2007 Posted September 4, 2007 She posted that her son had moved home to be with her during this difficult time, and she realized she needed to make a change, and has decided to take action and leave her marriage. I am glad she has the support of her son and the strength to take action to make her life better in whatever way she decides, and I wish her the best of luck.
lostboy60645 Posted September 4, 2007 Posted September 4, 2007 Hiya Mel Sorry about the disaster your family is reeling from. Your quite eloquent, clearly educated, and very thoughtful. It's a shame that you had to stumble across this information on your mom's computer. But I don't believe things 'just happen', and I hope there's some good that can come of this. For one thing, I agree with the earlier post that it's likely your mom and Jim did not want to include you in this conversation, per se. Be that as it may, you are part and parcel of it as her son and now, most certainly as a poster on LS. So what do you do with this? I vote for a heart-to-heart conversation with mom, where you open up and fess up to being here. I think it will be an exercise in maturity, a veritable stepping up to the podium of adulthood and letting her know your feelings for real. Another suggestion, which may be better, is for you to get some individual counseling from a therapist around this stuff. Although you seem to be a well-adjusted individual, from the few posts you've shared, you're likely as human as the rest of us and need to bounce these difficult concepts off of some trained ears. I bet there's an affordable or perhaps 'free' counselor at your university. Finally, it may actually be helpful for you to get your mom and little siblings to consider getting into some family counseling so you all can strengthen your family dynamic in a positive way. Often times when people start group therapy (or marriage counseling for that matter) the counselor wants to have some individual sessions with each person from the group/family/marriage. This may be a 'foot in the door' for your mom to get the help she needs. All the best to the family whose mother's nickname should change to: "Getting Brighter!"
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