Ihatethis84 Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 I need to know if I was wrong in this situation as it's all I've been thinking about it and I just want to let it go. So here's my story: About 2 years ago I met this girl at my friends house. We will call her D. She was having problems with her boyfriend at the time as they were splitting up and getting back together. I hung out with her a few times here and there and we fooled around. Then she got back with him and we stopped talking. I felt used here but whatever. Skip forward to three weeks ago. Out of the blue she messages me on a website and apologizes for the way crap went down. So we started talking about. Two weeks ago we went bar hopping and hung out all night together. Fool around but did not have sex. So I check peoples blogs,pics, and what not on peoples myspace (I do it at work alot as I get bored) and I keep seeing this guy. In a few pics he has his hand around her and I get the feeling they are "talking." I do not want to fool around with someone who is fooling around with other people. I told her this in an email, she didn't respond. Last friday I called her to hang out at our local bar that my whole group goes to. She called me back and got directions. After about 3 hours of waiting, I figure she's not coming. I look over and who do I see, the guy from her myspace. I asked him about D and if they were talking or were purely just friends as I felt like we were both getting used. Not 10 minutes later she shows up. By this time it's really gotten to me so I ask her if she's "kicking" it with other people. She first says it's none of my business but then says no. The next morning I go to message her friend and her friend says "I hope you know you messed up anything she could have had with that guy." So after talking to D through emails and what not, she has blocked my messages now. Was I wrong to do what I did? I felt like a second choice. Even though we were not actually dating, I do not share women. Granted she probably didn't want anything serious (she just got out of a three year relationship) but I felt like she was only around me to make her feel good. Your opinions please?
Author Ihatethis84 Posted September 3, 2007 Author Posted September 3, 2007 Up once more. Please let me know your opinion if you read.
Jinnah Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 No, you are not in the wrong, she is. You tried to ask and she blew you off... how else were you going to find out? You had the right to know. I would cut your losses now and find a good woman (I know that's harder said than done, but still the best advice for the situation). If she comes crawling back, run! This type of woman is no good.
Author Ihatethis84 Posted September 4, 2007 Author Posted September 4, 2007 Thank you for the response. I would like a few more please! Thanks!
Krytellan Posted September 4, 2007 Posted September 4, 2007 I don't think either of you were in the wrong for this. She played the game and got burned. She owed you nothing as you are not committed to each other and you have every right to talk to people about things that she chooses to make public on her myspace. She just never anticipated that her juggling would create a problem. However, is she playing games with you? Why would that other guy be there at the place you invited her to. Is she mental?
Author Ihatethis84 Posted September 4, 2007 Author Posted September 4, 2007 She said that they were just friends but like I said. I get the feeling that I they were doing more then just friends do. When I asked him about it, he was really curious if we had any history. As far as games, I don't know about that really. She would avoid my questions though. That night, I gave her directions on the phone..She didn't show up. Then he came and we texted her how to get there and boom she's there. To me, she seems arrogant in that she's playing the field and having us both there at the same time. Maybe I'm over looking the situation but I will not be anyones second choice.
Jinnah Posted September 4, 2007 Posted September 4, 2007 To me, she seems arrogant in that she's playing the field and having us both there at the same time. Maybe I'm over looking the situation but I will not be anyones second choice. You are absolutely right.
Jinnah Posted September 4, 2007 Posted September 4, 2007 However, is she playing games with you? Why would that other guy be there at the place you invited her to. Is she mental? Lol, that's what I was wondering. She sounds extremely conceited and vain. She wants drama. Don't be a part of her soap opera.
jcster Posted September 4, 2007 Posted September 4, 2007 You weren't wrong - I think you were actually pretty smart to find out for yourself what is going on. You obviously weren't going to get a straight answer from her. Now you know what type of drama she can serve up - I hope you're running in the other direction.
Lyssa Posted September 4, 2007 Posted September 4, 2007 I think you pretty much did you and the other guy a favour. She sounds like a typical confused girl. Go bar-hopping with your guyfriends and have fun! Suit up!!!
norajane Posted September 4, 2007 Posted September 4, 2007 You weren't wrong - I think you were actually pretty smart to find out for yourself what is going on. You obviously weren't going to get a straight answer from her. Now you know what type of drama she can serve up - I hope you're running in the other direction. Totally agree. The only way players can play people is if the people they're playing know nothing about each other. I think it's great that you asked him what the story was...why shouldn't you? It's your life too, and you have every right to want to know the truth. If more people asked questions, players wouldn't have it so easy. She got caught, and now she's mad. Big deal.
Author Ihatethis84 Posted September 4, 2007 Author Posted September 4, 2007 Well my only concern was that I had nothing to base it on other then her not answering my question and a gut feeling. I used to be a player awhile back but it isn't for me anymore. So I emailed her and told her what I thought (how I thought she was arrogant and what not, and if you're going to play someone, don't bring the other person you are playing around). That is when she blocked me. It's what ever though. I felt bad for a bit because I liked her. And there's other girls I talk to so I don't need to go bar hopping. I mean I don't fool around with them or haven't, but I'm getting to know a few. This is different in what she did. We did everything but have sex. I told her straight up that I talk (and only talk) to other girls.
ls707 Posted September 5, 2007 Posted September 5, 2007 no; nothing what you did was wrong. You wanted to be treated fairly cuz you didnt want to get your feelings hurt. She played the game and got burnt. She deserves what she got. You just alerted another guy who probably mightve gotten played as well...so good for you I say.
Author Ihatethis84 Posted September 5, 2007 Author Posted September 5, 2007 Thanks for all of your opinions. What is even more weird is I still want to make things right with her, maybe it's just because she has me blocked. Oh well, they are a dime a dozen right? I'm already talking to someone new, though I clicked with this one good.
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