NinjaPrincess Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 I am so confused and I am not sure if I just don't want to talk to my sisters about this because deep down I know the answer.....I thought I would try some open, honest opinions, so here's my story: My relationship is pretty complicated, but in as small a nutshell I can manage, I have been with my boyfriend for two and a half years. I am 8 years older than him and I have been feeling like he isn't as attracted to me as I would like him to be. (I am overweight and working on it.....)anyway, we got into it today and he told me that his last girlfriend was really hot and cheated on him, so it has been nice dating someone that his friends don't want to f****. He also told me to not take it personally. So how the heck am I supposed to take this? I feel really stupid and confused and hurt and ugly and fat and I just can't stop crying. I am thankful for his honesty, but should I just break this off if this is how he thinks of me?
Jinnah Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 Yeah, I don't like what he said. That was pretty messed up. I bet there is a guy out there who would never dream of saying such a horrible thing to another person... that's the type of guy you should be with. It really is the inside that counts!
Yosef Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 It was blunt like the end of a mace. I dislike the fact that guys who are used to having sex desire it to the point they will give up a perfect love to have it. It annoys me. Image is such a killer. I, personally, hate how image can make or break a relationship. It totally upsets me. You are beautiful on the inside, and I wish that others could see so. You're an artist's image. The public looks at you and sees the image, but not the deeper picture. An abstract image lacks beauty unless the viewer sees the beauty behind the shapes and colors, which makes the painting worth more than the world.
Jinnah Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 It was blunt like the end of a mace. I dislike the fact that guys who are used to having sex desire it to the point they will give up a perfect love to have it. It annoys me. Image is such a killer. I, personally, hate how image can make or break a relationship. It totally upsets me. You are beautiful on the inside, and I wish that others could see so. You're an artist's image. The public looks at you and sees the image, but not the deeper picture. An abstract image lacks beauty unless the viewer sees the beauty behind the shapes and colors, which makes the painting worth more than the world. Well said.
D-Lish Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 That's the crappiest thing a bf could ever say. Sounds as if he is dealing with his own insecurities and is lashing out at you in a weak moment. I'll tell ya something. Don't change yourself because of something someone else says... ok? However, if you are unhappy with the weight issue, you can really use this as a motivation for yourself. I am telling you this because I had a horrible comment once from an ex about my weight... and I lost 50lbs because of it. And I have never gained that back.... and it changed my life. This guy doesn't sound like he deserves you. D
Author NinjaPrincess Posted September 3, 2007 Author Posted September 3, 2007 Thanks everybody. I really appreciate the input. I honestly couldn't believe what I was hearing and I seriously need to get a backbone and not allow myself to be treated like this. Yosef, that was especially beautiful.
Mezzi Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 I also think you should tell him goodbye. It seems he may just be with you until someone more attractive that he can trust around his friends come around. What he said was cruel and it was proof of your doubts.
kymberann Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 Drop him and you'll drop the weight Honestly though, his immaturity is showing. Relationships shold be based on acceptance and nurturing those in the R. Which sounds like he is doing neither and that is not fair to you. If he is doing this to you now, think of what he may be capable of in the future! Sounds like you already know what to do! Best!
Ruby Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 His immaturity stems from the fact he is 8 years younger than you! Men are childish anyway so to go out with a younger guy oftens ends in nasty immature comments. My friend went out with a guy 7 years younger than her (she was 34 he was 27) and he really upset her when he told her that he liked young girls as they have soft pussies that are not bashed around! She was devastated, but that comment come from lack of experience and immaturity. I dont know if you should dump him as only you know how you feel about him and what kind of person he really is, but you should consider the age/maturity difference and also his reasons for being with you. Good luck and dont let him get you down you are fabulous and dont forget it!
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