nillah Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 I just broke off a relationship of 7 years. We were having lots of problems and were together only because of our 2 children. I broke it off about 1 month ago. For the past 4 months i've been getting closer to a coworker. He is 41, I'm 23. We texted back and forth for most of the time and recently after my breakup we have been seeing each other at his place and having sex. From the beginning he always knew what i was looking for and that i didn't want just sex. He told me that because of his past experiences he could not feel the same way about me at this time. I accepted his conditions and kept meeting with him @ his place. For the past week he has been evading me. When I finally got a hold of him he told me he does not want to be with me anymore. I asked if it was because of me requesting that we get tested for hiv. but he did not have any explanation. I went to see him on friday and we had sex(unprotected). I though it would make us get closer to each other. but it didn't. After spending the night there. He asked me to take a picture of him on my phone. As i was leaving i asked when i would see him again, his answer was "you have that picture right?". I could not believe what he said. I'm heartbroken, i've texted him ever since but he has been a complete jerk and even told me that now i know how my ex boyfriend felt when i broke it off with him. This is the 2nd guy i've ever slept with and it hurts me soo much that he played me this way. I don't know the reason why. I've been crying ever since and can't control my emotions. I can't move on. I feel like i need him, like he was lying to me. I think that he is afraid of a commitment(of loving me). But i don't understand why he was so mean and cold with me. I'm scared that i have given myself to him fully(unprotected sex) without thinking twice. I regret doing so. I need some advice on were to go from here? I'm depressed, stressed and very emotional. I won't eat or sleep and all i can think about is him. What do i do? please help!
Curious139 Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 My heart goes out to you. You have been used and taken advantage of by a callous man. How and why some people are capable of this I don't know but you are better off without him. Right now you need friends and family to lean on. It is going to take a while. Your ego, your self confidence, and self-respect have all taken a major hit. Turn to the people you can trust.
D-Lish Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 Look, this guy took advantage of you when you were in a state of misery. There are good guys out there- and there are players. This guy is a player. Get to know those characteristics in a man. You're 23~ way to hot to be going out with an older man like that. Chicks think about sex a little differently than guys.... he can seperate the act from the feelings.... you cannot. Don't beat yourself up about that, that's a good thing. Concentrate on you right now. You had a long term relationship. You have kids.... this jerk isn't worthy of you affection.
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