uniqueone Posted September 2, 2007 Posted September 2, 2007 I FINALLY got a personals message today that was ok enough for me to reply to. The guy is very successful, nice looking, very athletic...those are the good things anyway.... The not so good....has a young child he has custody of, he sounds a bit too religious for me and he lives a few hours from me. He writes me to tell me what a great ad I have....how funny it is. I get told that a lot because my is a bit different than most of the others. Anyway, that's pretty much all he mentions. So, I respond and say that I'm glad he liked it...glad I gave him a laugh...... I don't care if I don't hear back from him because of the negatives that I see....but ALSO because he wrote me and just told me he liked my ad. In the past, I used to feel that I probably should take charge from there. Now? Nah....if they can't say more than that, then I don't bother. So he sends me a message back and tells me how witty it was and how it really stands out amongst the others. I responded with: Glad I could provide some entertainment. He's already got me thinking: What a friggin dud...... The guy has the highest level of education you can attain and this is all he can come up with? Maybe he's been reading children's books too long. But really, the reason I don't take charge anymore is because I know that it's going to be pointless. Because I'm not going to like a guy that I'm going to have to take charge with all the time. And THAT is part of the problem too. I like the take-charge ones...and unfortunately, more of those are jerks. But what's a person to do? I can't help what I like, can I? I almost feel like sending him a message (and don't dare me or I will....LOL) and saying: Do you have point in emailing me??? This reminds me of a guy who'd come up and talk to a woman at a party and only talk about the weather or something. Does anyone else get guys like this?
sb129 Posted September 2, 2007 Posted September 2, 2007 Pulling teeth out is a MILLION times easier than finding a decent man. Took me two hours to learn how to take out teeth and 29 years to find a great guy. If this one doesn't work out, consider it practice for next one. Persistence pays off in the end.
whichwayisup Posted September 2, 2007 Posted September 2, 2007 Do you have point in emailing me??? LOL and it would be even funnier if he said back in an email, 'You keep replying!' has a young child he has custody of, he sounds a bit too religious for me and he lives a few hours from me. Not so much the child, but the religious thing and the distance would have put me off if I were in your shoes...
Author uniqueone Posted September 3, 2007 Author Posted September 3, 2007 Not so much the child, but the religious thing and the distance would have put me off if I were in your shoes... I used to not care about the kid thing....but the older I get....the less it appeals to me.
Author uniqueone Posted September 3, 2007 Author Posted September 3, 2007 Pulling teeth out is a MILLION times easier than finding a decent man. Took me two hours to learn how to take out teeth and 29 years to find a great guy. If this one doesn't work out, consider it practice for next one. Persistence pays off in the end. Looks like he responded again. Oh boy...this time he asked a question even! No...not a question about ME.....that would be too....uh....normal..... He asked a question about my funny profile. See now I'm to the point where I'm probably going to say "So are you just interested in talking about how funny my profile is?" Boy does getting older make you become blunt.......
johan Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 Your profile sounds like it must be very interesting and kind of funny. Any chance you can copy the good parts in here?
Izzy B Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 He really did enjoy your profile and thinks you could be fun to hang out with, but he wasn't into your looks from your pic. Sorry, I'm just being honest here.
Author uniqueone Posted September 3, 2007 Author Posted September 3, 2007 Your profile sounds like it must be very interesting and kind of funny. Any chance you can copy the good parts in here? Yeah, I've been told that it is....... But.....I've very leary about what I post on forums these days. Sorta have to be after stuff that I've dealt with.
Author uniqueone Posted September 3, 2007 Author Posted September 3, 2007 He really did enjoy your profile and thinks you could be fun to hang out with, but he wasn't into your looks from your pic. Sorry, I'm just being honest here. LOL...you remind me of some character on a show but I can't think of who it is right now. Remind me never to tell you that I'm not feeling well. I'd be sure to get an answer like "You have cancer and you're dying. I'm sorry but that's just the way it is. Prepare your will soon." Thanks Izzy...but I have no complaints on my pictures.
Author uniqueone Posted September 3, 2007 Author Posted September 3, 2007 Ok..ok...I replied and decided I'd be the one to make the attempt at normal conversation. We'll see if he can actually pick it up from there. I'm not too hopeful though.....
johan Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 Maybe you should have put up some decent pictures first.
Author uniqueone Posted September 3, 2007 Author Posted September 3, 2007 Maybe you should have put up some decent pictures first. Huh? Why are you saying this?
Author uniqueone Posted September 3, 2007 Author Posted September 3, 2007 Never mind. I was just amusing myself. Well it sounds pretty insulting.
johan Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 Please don't take it that way. It wasn't meant to be.
Author uniqueone Posted September 3, 2007 Author Posted September 3, 2007 Please don't take it that way. It wasn't meant to be. ok, that's cool.
Author uniqueone Posted September 3, 2007 Author Posted September 3, 2007 I just updated something on my ad and when you do that, it brings up who matches you the best. The top guy looked really cute so I clicked on his ad and I liked what it said and we had similar interests. Now I don't usually contact men on the personals. It doesn't work in my opinion. I've done it in the past and usually didn't a get a response. The way I look at it now is, if they're interested in me, they'll contact me. This guy whose ad came up is about 5 hours away from me....so there's a chance he's never seen my ad. I decided to be bold and send him a message. I basically said that I don't usually contact men but he came up as a 100% match and I saw his picture on his ad of such and such (something we have in common) so I just had to say hi. That's all I said. Chances are I hear nothing back or I get some small talk and that's it. Then I'll be reminded never to do it again.........
Author uniqueone Posted September 3, 2007 Author Posted September 3, 2007 Hmmm...Mr. Doesn't Know What to Write already responded....he actually wrote a paragraph! And it wasn't about how funny my ad was either! woohoo! I had asked him how it was going for him on the personals and he told me. Then he asked how it was going for me and told me that it must be better here in my city than where he is. (excuse me while I choke on my fritos.......) Yeeah.....it's MUCH better HERE....... Better than WHAT? A toothache? No...no....even that one comes close........
Izzy B Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 LOL...you remind me of some character on a show but I can't think of who it is right now. Remind me never to tell you that I'm not feeling well. I'd be sure to get an answer like "You have cancer and you're dying. I'm sorry but that's just the way it is. Prepare your will soon." Thanks Izzy...but I have no complaints on my pictures. I'm sure you're not complaining, but he just might not be into your looks. It's not like a guy is going to message you "Sorry, I'm not interested because I personally don't find you attractive." You are stating you are picking out guys on the site who you think are "cute," well, do you think guys don't pick who they want to get to know based on looks, too? Hypocrite much?
johan Posted September 3, 2007 Posted September 3, 2007 If we're going to point out obvious, fundamental human behavior as if it's a new discovery: From what I understand, the guy initiated the contact in the first place. I'm sure the pictures weren't overlooked. In that case, he must have approved. If he didn't like how she looked, he wouldn't have bothered to start something. Most guys wouldn't. I see no hypocrisy.
Author uniqueone Posted September 4, 2007 Author Posted September 4, 2007 I'm sure you're not complaining, but he just might not be into your looks. It's not like a guy is going to message you "Sorry, I'm not interested because I personally don't find you attractive." You are stating you are picking out guys on the site who you think are "cute," well, do you think guys don't pick who they want to get to know based on looks, too? Hypocrite much? They picked ME, Izzy....but nice try!!!
Author uniqueone Posted September 4, 2007 Author Posted September 4, 2007 If we're going to point out obvious, fundamental human behavior as if it's a new discovery: From what I understand, the guy initiated the contact in the first place. I'm sure the pictures weren't overlooked. In that case, he must have approved. If he didn't like how she looked, he wouldn't have bothered to start something. Most guys wouldn't. I see no hypocrisy. Exactly.....at least YOU'RE following the story. Thankyouverymuch!
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